Am I bi or not? Had my 1st time the other day...

[Tobeey]

Ok so I had my first gay experience the other day, I had posted a profile on a gay website and had gotten a few messages, blah blah etc, so anyway me and one guy exchanged numbers and texted/chatted for a few weeks. We found out we lived only a few minutes away form each other, so I invited him over.

We kissed, mutual wanking, had oral sex...it was all very strange for me. He was very understanding. He had a great slim body, beautiful uncut cock and everything (I like twinks ) and he was very much into me as well. Both of us are kinda mid-twenties.

I lost my boner mid way through the session for some reason and couldn't get it back, so he came but I didn't.

He was all like 'That's it now isn't it? You will only go for girls from now on...?', I said I needed time to think about it. I mean I enjoyed it, but my dick just seemed to lose interest. At least he wants to remain friends even if we never do anything again.

What I didn't tell him is that it's happened before with girls as well, I just seem to lose interest (ie my boner) half way through, which is one of the reasons why I wanted to explore my 'other side' in the first place. Now I'm more confused than ever! I'm not sure whether to try again with him, try again with other guys, or just forget it altogether!

 

[HunterM]

Try Viagra

 

[Techie]

just tell him

 

[naughtyeddie]

explain to him, if he is a reasonable guy he will understand.
you are bisexual if you are sexually attracted to both guys and girls, only you can say.

i have that erection problem when i am with guys so i merely changed from being versatile to a bottom. easy fix and still getting pleasure

 

[star-warrior]

If you fantasize about men and get off on that in your personal time, then it's likely that your loss of the erection is down to being in an unfamiliar situation for real. If he is willing, you could contact him again, and see. Sometimes it requires being at ease with oneself, and the situation may have been that you're over thinking what you're doing at the time....

 

[Dinsdale]

Yeah, I've done the same with girls. Have you by chance ever been described as "oversensitive"? I tend to get caught up in runaway thoughts during sex--should I be doing this, should I be doing that--and kind of disconnect from the actual messing around, which leads to "Mr. Melty." Try to focus less on what's going on in your head and more on what's going on with your dick, nips, etc.

 

[lilman]

yea man it happens to me sometimes and i'm gay and know it for sure, its more than likely just your nerves man.. you get nervous and your dick is basically useless hahaha hooking up with a stranger is hard to do maybe when you guys get to know eachother better it will be totally different

 

[mbamike]

It is difficult to say if you are bi or not with this information. You are having erectile dysfunction issues while having sex with girls, so you try having sex with a guy and had the same result.

Sounds like something is going on inside your head. Do you enjoy having sex with both guys and girls? The answer to this question will help you to determine if you are bi or not. BTW, all of us have some erectile dysfunction at one time or another.

 

[heyjaymike99]

Nerves. If u really enjoyed the experience, ur probably bi, but was just so nervous that ur equipment didn't cooperate. It happened to me once or twice when I was first with a guy. All nerves. Stop worrying about judgement and just let yourself enjoy the moment.