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Am I doing this all wrong?

mcbrion said:
But more than this, initially, you put him off because of his looks. And now, he's simply decided not to pursue dating with you, and you are jumping to every conclusion possible, except the reality of it.
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I wasn't put off by his looks, yes I admit I did judge him by his pictures but I still continue to chat with him back then, although not that friendly and willing. (eg. gave one word reply)

Just allow that he doesn't choose to seek your company and leave it at that.
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He was looking forward to meeting me, and lonely me, lacking companionship for a long time, got attracted by his looks, by his talking, by his everything. I could just sit there and hear him talk to me all day, any day.

Big mistake was to meet at home, because with the privacy given all the naughty thoughts would overpower everything else. I am a calm person, but the overpowering part of me wants the fun, while the smaller part of me wants to know and understand him better. We both got carried away and eventually it turned into this NSA mess.

Lesson learnt, but painful lesson indeed.

I just hope we can remain as friends, I will give him time.

But it just pains me to see him so active on all those apps, sigh.
 
Just my two thoughts worth: 1 You seem to be a couple of steps away from that stalker guy, most of us have encountered. I hope you have the sense to realise this,

2 You seem to be starting to obsess on the what if, again i hope you recognise this.

As others have said, this particular ship seems to have sailed, learn what lessons you can, and try to implement them next time. Good luck.
 
Maestoso said:
I wasn't put off by his looks, yes I admit I did judge him by his pictures but I still continue to chat with him back then, although not that friendly and willing. (eg. gave one word reply)



He was looking forward to meeting me, and lonely me, lacking companionship for a long time, got attracted by his looks, by his talking, by his everything. I could just sit there and hear him talk to me all day, any day.

Big mistake was to meet at home, because with the privacy given all the naughty thoughts would overpower everything else. I am a calm person, but the overpowering part of me wants the fun, while the smaller part of me wants to know and understand him better. We both got carried away and eventually it turned into this NSA mess.

Lesson learnt, but painful lesson indeed.

I just hope we can remain as friends, I will give him time.

But it just pains me to see him so active on all those apps, sigh.
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I never said you were "put off by his looks." What I said is that YOU put HIM off because of his looks. Not at all the same thing. If that is not clear to you, then: counseling might help. Sometimes, people hear what they want, not what was actually said. Or written. And it happens all throughout their life, so they miss all sorts of cues. it makes life more painful than it need be.
 
It sounds to me as though you just didn't have the chemistry and you can't do anything about that....

It also sounds as if he is treating you the same way you treated him as you were put off by him and gave one word replies after judging him...

Maybe he judged you? On your looks? I know this is not easy to hear but when you participate in that kind of behavior you should be able to take what you dish out.

I would suggest putting on your big boy pants and owning your own role in it so you don't think like a victim....and 86 the self pity. Thinking like a victim and engaging in self pity is a combination for disaster....so do yourself a favor and start the year differently.

Good Luck....you can turn this around ....
 
I guess I am not his type, I mean we all have preferences. I am not bad looking so he got attracted while he was feeling lusty, if not he wouldnt have said I was cute before kissing.

After we made out, I wanted us to go further by chatting on the phone but he cut me off saying he was busy and had no time to answer his phone, so I respect his decisions. I was just the typical ONS guy to lean on for a few hours before being dumped, oh well...

He can message me anytime though, well until I get a boyfriend that is.
 
I met this asshole who treated me like an idiot and I even allowed him to ejaculate all over my body... never felt so disgusted with myself.

Am I suffering from some sort of depression? Are there any risk of herpes again or some other STD?

I think I really need to get a hold on myself.
 
I never felt so disgusted with myself I dont even know why I did it...
 
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