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am i fucked up???

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Why would you think you're fucked up? Some people are gay, some are straight, may as well think they sky is weird for being blue :P
But if it is new to you, I can understand. There's nothing wrong with you, you just have broader horizons than most people. My friends all thought I was straight until I came out as bi to a few of them. If you trust your friends, show it and come out to them. It's horrible to live a lie, and I'd hate for you to do it.

And not all gays are attracted to fem guys. Personally, if they have a lisp, a nasal tone and carry a manbag while gossiping about the hottest new hunk, I go in the opposite direction. I like guys with muscles, and who are comofrtable with themselves.
So, no you're not weird. You're normal. Well, as normal as a unique person can be ;)
 
If you are only interested in the momentary thrills of sex, I suppose you could hook up outside your circle of friends. But, IMHO, that is a dead end as the real sense of yourself as being able to relate to another whole person is to let yourself concentrate on friendship. Friends sometimes become more than just friends and then comes the time when both parties simply need and want to give expression to their feelings for each other in sex. It happens naturally and seems so right because it confirms the bond that has come to be between two persons.

There is no need to "come out" to anyone outside your relationship. Sex is personal and private. What the rest of the world sees is all they get. Let them think what they will. Sex in a committed loving relationship is still the gold standard; it needs no declarations to the outside world.
Believe me, those in your circle of friends have their own confusions with regard to their sexuality. The value of a site such as this is that you can be quite honest about your own feelings without feeling threatened.

You are a unique person. No one can offer you more than what they have from their own experience. It's a great liberation to finally allow yourself to be just as you are without any pretense. Believe me there are those persons who would be open to you; it all starts with simple friendship and in the bond of friendship you experience the grand relief of knowing you are not alone.
 
Conrad sounds like a very intelligent man.
Be comfortable in your own skin, and in who you are.
The rest will come, eventually.
 
First of all you're not "fucked up". It's a situation you are trying to deal with. If you are starting to find men more attractive, that's ok. As for your friends, unless they're shallow and fly by night, they should understand you and your feelings. I hope you have a close friend you can discuss some of your feelings with. The others above me gave you good advice and I agree with Conrad as well. Good luck
 
rc42085, You are NOT fucked up. We are Not fucked up. Each of us is unique. That we can express our naked selves to one another is a blessing. Be unique, share your anxieties, be yourself, and take a deep breath. I'm behind you 500%. It's okay to make mistakes, too. But whatever you do...don't beat yourself up. Life will do that for you. And always remember. You've got US.
 
when i came out, all of my friend we're like "meh," "whatever" "let's have a three-some with another guy (chick friend)" "faggot!!! (my brother lolz just kidding)" at high scholl its prolly tougher, but i havent seen anyone really give a damn about it...
 
omg no you're not fucked up. but you'll fuck up if you don't go with your natural flow and enjoy life now. I figured out i was bi when i was 20, but got so confused over who was straight/or not... and put my true sexuality aside for the next 25 years. Don't make that mistake... my suggestion is to step outside your normal social group; try to get comfortable with guys, by joining a decent local pay site. Be cautious, respectful, kind, and you'll meet a few guys who are already comfortable with their preferences and happy to respect your discovery and limts. Many many are "straight appearing" and like the same, too.
But do keep your sexuality between you, and a partner; until you are confident that YOU define your identity, not others. xoxo
 
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