Am I in the wrong?

[backagain]

LOL he ran away with all my money when the hard times hit. Every startup has to go thru this trial period. Man, those were tough times. Anyway, he also bought a $100k car while I was driving a rust bucket with $250k miles on it. Heck, there was a time that I had to sleep with my dogs in that van.

Once I stabilized the company and got the books to be in the black, he wanted half when we were going thru divorce.

I still love him. I don't have control over it. But looking back, good God did he eff me over.

The (current) boyfriend isn't that much better. I have a knack for letting guys eff me over. I'll figure something out.

It is time to reassess. Why do you go for men that will eff you over. I would of thought you would of learned that lesson the first time.
Keep your business separate from the men you get involved with.

 

[rareboy]

I will just add. You deserve better

 

[Dominus]

It is time to reassess. Why do you go for men that will eff you over. I would of thought you would of learned that lesson the first time.
Keep your business separate from the men you get involved with.

All my life, I have always got this fantasy of owning a business with someone else. A life partner. Where we would share the benefits and hardships together.

I think I got this fantasy from when I was little and meeting a couple that owned a shop together. They were a team. They did everything together. When times were hard, they supported each other. When times were great, they reaped the benefits together.

I really thought my ex husband was the one. We were together for 8 years. And leading up to starting the business, I talked and talked and talked to him about the period of hardship we would have to go through in order to succeed. All my planning involved him being a major part of it all. And he said many times that he understood and he couldn't wait.

So, I cashed out all my investments and retirement. Combined with savings, we started this company. We were both ecstatic when the income started coming in from the business. Then almost immediately, the hard times started hitting. Exactly according to plan. He packed up everything and went to Ft Bottomdale, FL. The luxury car I bought him wasn't enough. He traded it in and bought a $100K car. Lived in gay central area high living. He went to Cancun twice a month for a time before our account started going dry. At the same time, I was working 12-14 hours days renovating the houses and sleeping in the van. I begged him many times to please stop draining our accounts so much. I guess I was blinded by love still at the time. Then one day I got a text from him saying he wanted to divorce. I cried and called him begging him to not leave me.

Anyway, I'm jealous that some people are able to find a mate that they could go through both good times and hard times with. What's the point of building an empire if there's no one to share it with?

As for Florida, used to be my dream to one day have a vacation home down there. All the superficial gays down there can go fuck themselves. Fuck designer clothing. Fuck the high life. Fuck all of that. I'll stick with the midwest.

 

[rareboy]

Good decision.

I think you were always the one doing the work as we understood it. And the only one with the dream deep down.

So I am glad you are going with that. It might be a little lonely. Hopefully, your ex get only the amount of investment in the divorce that he put into it. Don't tell us what the settlement was though. None of our business.

And I hope that one day, he meets someone who is determined to drain him dry...big spenders tend to also become a magnet for people like him.