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am I right to be annoyed, or just a bad host?

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I would be upset too. Since she used your kitchen to make her contribution to the pot luck dinner she should have cleaned up any mess she made in doing so.
 
Both. Be annoyed that she was a slob, but suck it up as part of being a host.

The real question is do you say anything to her about it?
 
Do what my aunt does for Christmas Eve dinner. Paper plates and cups and plastic utensils.

For dessert on Christmas day at another party they have this plastic silverware for dessert that looks exactly like regular silverware, you can only tell the difference by the weight of it.

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You have no right to be mad if you didn't ask her to clean the pots and pans she used.
 
I'm lucky my friends all help with the cleaning throughout a night.

I don't think hosting duties include cleaning up after others all night. You will undoubtedly be running back and forth to the kitchen more than the others, but everybody should pitch in by returning things they used and cleaning them wherever possible. It's no more than common courtesy, really. So in this case I think you could have asked her to clean up after herself, throwing in an offer to help.
 
I have a friend over for dinner once or twice a month. It's amazing how many dirty dishes and pots and pans there are at the end of the night.
 
Tsk.

Girls.

Why are so many of them totally disorganized in the kitchen.

Gotta love 'em anyway.
 
Also next time you have a pot luck dinner and anyone offers to cook something at your place tell them no thanks, and tell them to bring something already made or that just needs some heating up.

Or don't have a pot luck dinner because it may turn into bad luck dinner.
 
loki81 said:
of course not :lol: but this is a friend who's been steadily getting on my nerves for weeks now... even before this, I decided that after the New Year's Eve party, I needed a mini-break from her for a couple weeks.
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You really could say something if you're slick enough. Get a conversation going about pet peeves and then drop the bomb. :badgrin:

"Don't you just hate it when someone trashes a room in your place? They use the bathroom and leave it looking, well, used? Or they cook in your kitchen and dirty every dish and leave 'em in the sink? Don't you just hate that?!??!!!" :lol:
 
Though it is annoying, be the better person and let it go. For next year, do not let anyone cook at your house again. I'm a clean as you go person and would be terribly annoyed if anyone mess up my kitchen after I got it all tidy. It has happened to me several times when I have had house guests, some people can be so unconsidered. I have had guests that simply get up make their own breakfast and leave the mess for me to clean up and I'm not talking little mess, so they are not invited again.
 
Well you're certainly not a bad host because you didn't say anything to her. What you think in your own mind doesn't count.

But she violated one of the rules of potlucks, which is that the dish should be ready to eat when you arrive. If you need to use the kitchen, make sure you check with your host ahead of time. Then you could have told her, OK, but make sure you clean up after yourself.
 
Just a thought...you could invest in a dishwasher. They're not terribly expensive and great for household events like yours. I entertain a lot and would absolutely die without a dishwasher. Surprisingly, I never have a problem with guests offering to fill the dishwasher with the dirty dishes. They just don't want to wash them by hand.
 
I would've politely asked her to clean up....or at least if she could help you clean up. It wouldn't make you a bad host. Makes her a bad guest. But I'm sure someone wrote that :p
 
Yes, a dishwasher (that is relatively new) or even in suite laundry is considered a luxury.

I would have been peeved if she didn't help do the dishes. Of course my friends know better than to pull something like that but if they didn't even offer to help, they probably would not be invited back.
 
Just make sure next time you stipulate that she can do so but has to clean up after herself before the guest arrive so your not overly burdened.

A dishwasher and laundry in the apartment is a luxury? In what lifetime?
 
The whole potluck premise is based on food being ready to consume when the guest brings it. Maybe heating would be acceptable, but not preparation. In addition, this cleanup took you away from your guests. That's rude.

Nobody let's me near the kitchen once I've fed everybody. They don't even use my dishwasher, they do everything in the sink and put it all away. You just need friends with better manners, that's all.
 
I would be more annoyed at your kitchen maid. Did she really have the gall to ask for New Year's Day off?

JK. But yes, I think you have a right to be annoyed. But on the other hand, it's not one of those things that would put me off for long. On the other other hand, I never do dishes at all, so I probably shouldn't say whether it would annoy me or not—I would find doing my own dishes an annoying chore.
 
Take the dishes she made dirty and leave them on the windshield of her car, face down. In the evening, so that it will be dry and stuck on by morning. And when she calls you about it, tell her to shove it __ ___ _______ ____. And then never speak to her again. That is the only way possible to deal with people like her. You need a "mini-break" from her for the rest of your life dude. There are 7 billion people in the world; why does she have to be in your life at all?
 
Beachguyj said:
In this one. Most rental apartments don't have dishwashers or laundry in the unit.
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Well sorry to say but I have lived in rentals in a shit ton of different states over the last 21 years. I have never bothered to rent a place without laundry hookups. Most with that also have a dishwasher. SO there are options and not for an exorbitant price. Shrug
 
mmm its a parody thread.

You should strip naked and post your nude pics !!!
 
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