The Original Gay Porn Community - Free Gay Movies and Photos, Gay Porn Site Reviews and Adult Gay Forums

  • Welcome To Just Us Boys - The World's Largest Gay Message Board Community

    In order to comply with recent US Supreme Court rulings regarding adult content, we will be making changes in the future to require that you log into your account to view adult content on the site.
    If you do not have an account, please register.
    REGISTER HERE - 100% FREE / We Will Never Sell Your Info

    PLEASE READ: To register, turn off your VPN (iPhone users- disable iCloud); you can re-enable the VPN after registration. You must maintain an active email address on your account: disposable email addresses cannot be used to register.

  • The Support & Advice forum is a no-flame zone.
    The members offering support and advice do so with the best intention. If you ask for advice, we don't require you to take the advice, but we do ask that you listen and give it consideration.

Am I seeing a sex freak?

Joined
Jul 26, 2012
Posts
5
Reaction score
0
Points
0
I need some help from you guys. I think I might be seeing someone with a serious sexual mental disorder. I can't really figure him out.

So I've been hooking up with this guy I met on Grindr about six months ago. He lives in Jersey, so it's just a 5 minute drive away from my house. He invites me over every other week to have sex with him. Booty call anyone...?

I had originally messaged him and asked him out for a serious date. He clearly wasn't into that sort of thing and suggested that I came over to his place to have sex. He appears to be a free sexual soul and he probably wouldn't want to allow some relationship to put an end to all of that. It was either sex at his place or nothing. He didn't like to communicate either. No kissing. No talking.

I chose to go along with it, thinking in the back of my head that he would eventually start to like me emotionally after a while. And on top of that; I really needed to activate my sex life some. I couldn't say no. He's 24 years old like me, blonde, tall, he has a huge wide jaw, he's always tanned and he's got a law degree. I mean why not? Everything about him was just great. His sex skills are amazing. He has great control and it's like being in a professional porno when having sex with him.

Time went on and he eventually found some liking in me. Just what I wanted! This is where all the weirdness unfolds. He adds me on Facebook, Instagram as well as a to his WhatsApp, which allowed me to view his entire social life, as well as his full name.

Doing a quick google search on his name revealed a blog entry written back in 2010 by someone who had "hot steamy" sex with him under the Burlington bridge.

Whenever he messages me on WhatsApp, there's always a reference to sex. Either a funny gif of two bunnies fucking or a video/photo of himself squirting his load on stuff such as books at the library, small statues in the park, etc. He's got tons of these. He's like an old dirty geezer trapped inside a 24 year old's body.

His Grindr profile status is always suggestive. "Orgy tonight at 8?" "Looking to fuck!". :##:

His Instagram and Facebook photos on the other hand, show a very deceptive image of him. He appears very wholesome. A student with his head on his shoulders. Someone who hardly goes out to party. There is no trace of the real him on these platforms. He keeps his sick behavior in secrecy. With my trained eye, most of the random "guy friends" in some of his older photos are probably ones whom he has slept with.

I really like him and he appears to like me back, but something is very odd about him. What sort of sexual mental disorder does his behavior fall into?
 
You're the periodic entertainment for a sex addict.

It also sounds like you're trying to get something out of this that isn't going to happen. Either accept it for what it is or move on because this is one pig's ear that is never going to be a purse.
 
Guy sounds like he has a few weird (and some might argue distasteful) kinks he doesn't choose to shout about in public- but then so do a lot of people. He's probably highly sexed, but hardly sounds like someone with a "serious sexual mental disorder".

If anything, it sounds like the only problem is you're viewing things through the prism of how you want them to be, rather than how they are.

Doesn't sound like you were ever misled- the fact you met him on Grindr makes quite clear he was looking for no strings attached sex rather than a long term relationship.

You come across as if you knew the score, wanted it to be something it wasn't in spite of that, then read too much wish-fulfilment into the first sign of "liking".

The reason the guy's communications with you are focused on sex is because that is all it's about between the two of you. That's all it ever was- and as KaraBulut says- all it ever will be.
 
Not very sure what to make of the situation, but I will keep playing along to what he wants to do. He sure is addicted to his sexuality. It's never just normal sex stuff either. It always has to be some sneaky perverted stuff. And I mean how can someone go from having sex with different guys 1-4 times a week, to staying committed to only one person? Does that even exist?!
 
"Sneaky" and "perverted?"

Lions and tigers and bears OH MY!

OK, so if this situation is what you say it is, you think he has mental health issues, you think he's too promiscuous, you know he isn't interested in stopping, apparently he's sneaky (?) AND perverse, and then you ponder if he can be monogamous?

This sounds like a drama you are busy manufacturing.
 
Your reply doesn't seem to acknowledge or take in anything that KaraBulut or I posted. Perhaps it wasn't what you wanted to hear?

Not very sure what to make of the situation, but I will keep playing along to what he wants to do. He sure is addicted to his sexuality. It's never just normal sex stuff either. It always has to be some sneaky perverted stuff.

As a dispassionate observer, I'm seeing that you met a guy on a site primarily known for fuck-and-forget hookups, who hasn't given any indication that he's interested in anything much beyond that from you- in other words, a stereotypical Grindr user who doesn't appear to be pretending otherwise.

Yet for some reason you're analysing this as if you're in some sort of relationship with him, contrary to the evidence?

Why are you interested in someone whose sexuality you consider "sneaky and perverted" anyway, since there doesn't appear to be more to it than sex in the first place?

how can someone go from having sex with different guys 1-4 times a week, to staying committed to only one person? Does that even exist?!
Sorry- where did this come from? :confused:

Did he ever come close to suggesting he was going to do that, or is this just something you're hoping will happen?
 
Why are you interested in someone whose sexuality you consider "sneaky and perverted" anyway, since there doesn't appear to be more to it than sex in the first place?
One would think that it's a no-brainer. It's very superficial to be quite honest. He has killer looks and he's highly educated. He's a 10, but his sex antics annoy the living crap out of me.

Your reply doesn't seem to acknowledge or take in anything that KaraBulut or I posted. Perhaps it wasn't what you wanted to hear?
I do take what you guys said for consideration. That's why I will just keep seeing him for the sex.
 
The guy who wrote the old blog entry about his encounter with him years ago was in the same situation as the one that I am currently in. He had been hooking up with him for a while too and was expressing his hopes for a long term relationship with him in his blog. Looking around further into his blog, this probably didn't happen. My guess is that he attempted, but failed and got ditched because of that.
 
Back
Top