Am I still a homo?

[LuckyK87]

What's up JuB so this is my real first thread. Ive commented on a few but never started one. Anyway you all seem pretty good at giving advice so id thoght i give it a shot.

My name Kwame 21 yrs old and have been out for about 4 years and fairly "straight acting".

Here's my dilemma: I currently have been single for about a year and half now and it sucks. Really bad actually. poor me right? lol. Anyway, I feel like I'm in a point in my life where I wouldn't mind sharing it with someone. Here's the thing though I just found someone a couple of days ago and can't get them out my mind. Congrats right? However as excited as I should be to be so infatuated..., it's a GIRL!. It's crazy. I've flirted with girls before as I am sure most of us have but it's more the just flirting.
She knows I'm gay and out, but she continues to flirt with me, tells me that she wants to dump he current boyfriend, and that "I'd be speechless when my hands are on her ass." (Can I say that here?).
Anyway now that you all know the reason for this cry of advice.
WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? There's no other girls that I feel this way for. Did I slip of the gay train?

 

[mikeiscool]

maybe ur just bisexual

Or maybe you're mistaking friendship with attraction. It seems like you really want to find someone badly, so maybe you just think she's the one because of your close friendship. I don't know. Just a thought.

 

[sixthson]

Sounds like you are really messed up. Your profile says you are a female. D'oh!

 

[LuckyK87]

Sounds like you are really messed up. Your profile says you are a female. D'oh!

HA Good looks Sixthson.

Maybe you guys are right, I just might be a bi-sexual but that doesn't explain why I haven't like girls till her. Am I making this more complicated than what it really is?

 

[Caaake]

sexuality is not black and white.

 

[tallguy297]

Am I making this more complicated than what it really is?

Maybe mate, its really possible.

Questioning your sexuality for years often makes us over think things. Hell all most of us did was run this whole thing though our heads until it hurt!

So, just follow your heart. See what happens... stop thinking and feel. You dont have to fit in any other box except one - HAPPY.

Just be sure she means what she says. Just because shes a girl, doesnt mean that she hasnt got that awful ability to hurt your heart if shes not serious.

And no matter what Lucky... JUB will always welcome its doors - no matter who you love.

 

[LuckyK87]

Aw man, you guys are the best! I knew I could count on you guys. Thanx a bunch.

 

[biguy732]

Well my friend, you would not be first guy on here to be attracted to both men and women.

 

[Horse90]

Sometimes you label yourself, gay, straight, whatever, but at one point, you meet someone who you just love for themselves, regardless of their gender. This seems to be the case with you mate, you might still like guys, but there's something about this girl which you like.

So yes, it is normal. Don't think too much of it, unless you want a headache. Just go with the flow and be happy

 

[Autolycus]

Do you get a buzz when you are with her in the same way that you have done with a guy?

If you are both happy - just go for it, why bother whether you are gay, bi or straight?

 

[hanzosword]

I think what you are is human. It's just inherent in us to be able to love others no matter whether they are male or female. I don't see why people have to put themselves in boxes labeled as gay, straight or bi. I'm sure your attraction to guys is not going anywhere because of this girl though.

 

[shea]

Fuck the labels, Lucky! If you are really attracted to her sexually, then by all means go for her. Of you prefer labels, then you may be bi-sexual, only you know the real answer to that one.

What he said is very wise advice.
Best of everything, shea