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Am I the only bitter Mo?

Do you Hate Being Gay?

  • Yes

    Votes: 3 11.5%

  • NO

    Votes: 18 69.2%

  • Sometimes

    Votes: 5 19.2%
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socalistud3

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Hey just wondering if i am the only bitter Mo who can't seem to find happiness in his life...i hate being gay...i wish it were a choice like so many ignorant people think because i can't find anyone...im alone...even my "friends" are over me and just into their bfs/gfs....i have nobody to cry with or laugh with.....nope...just me alone...lame

so am i the only bitter MO?
 
Well, there's no way to say this without sounding like some pollyanna, so I'll just put it out there, socal.

If you hate it, you won't live it. If you won't live it, you'll never love it.

If you can't do anything about it, then you best embrace it and figure out the way to be content.

Otherwise, you'll just find yourself looking back and lamenting all the time you lost because you didn't like yourself.
 
I was bitter... not cuz I was alone, but because boys were stupid.

Now, for some reason, I am totally not bitter, even though I know that boys are still stupid. Go ahead and throw rocks at them but see if you can just get over them and not give even the tiniest shit. It can be done-- trust me. ..|
 
No, you're not the only bitter person.

I'm not angry about being gay, nor do I hate it; in fact, as far as I'm concerned, it's probably one of the more interesting things about me as a person.

Now, I'm assuming that the picture there in your avatar is you when I make this comment...But if someone as attractive as you is having this kind of trouble, what does that bode for a man of average looks such as myself?

I think everyone goes through their little rough patch; some suffer longer than others, but eventually we all get what we deserve in the end. For some of us, we do deserve to be alone and that's what happens.

For others, well, they find their little slice of happiness. To an extent, your actions and your attitude will have an effect on what outcome you have. So, do what you must.

Then again, that's just my thoughts on the issue.
 
I think that it's perfectly normal to feel bitter about being a part of an oppressed minority. But as long as you can keep it all in perspective, you'll be fine.
 
Hmm.

I dunno, sometimes it is really easy to be bitter. And why shouldn't we be ? We've been made to believe that somehow we are not "as good" as the heteros are, and even worse than that, we are going to "burn in hell" for our thoughts, ways and acts.

Call me cranky, but society's dismissal and condemnation of us can tend to cast rather a gloom over the evening.
 
^No, that sounds like Socalistud. He's always like that. ;)
He could be optimistic, but then, where would Socalistud be? Everyone'd be wondering what happened to him. He'd walk right up to them and he'd be invisible, if he were optimistic about it all. "What ever happened to Socalistud?"


But, Socalistud, if you're really in a rough spot, guy, First, be patient. Over time, your life will grow into something beautiful. But lay off the junk food and too-much caffeine.
Seriously.
Maybe you need a new friend or two. Or, entirely.

Talk to us. I know how Southern California can be a lonely place.
 
NO. I agree with all the things you said. I feel the same way most of the time, and I wish I could change the way things are for me. But thinking that there's more to life than being gay, I'm just like an ordinary person - hetero, bi or gay - who breathes, eats, sleeps, and goes through life's ups and downs just like everybody else.
 
It doesn't necessarily has to do with being gay IMO. Not being able to find happiness MAY have something to do with it, partially, due to the prejudice and discrimination that exist towards gays...but this is not all there is to it.
Happiness embraces several aspects of your life, not just the fact that you're gay.
I think you better start analyzing your feelings and perceptions of the world and yourself as a PERSON, not as a gay man but as person, a human being.

Btw...are you out, socalistud? If you're not, then you may got bigger fish to fry.
 
Socal, you're only 21, you have plenty of time. Relax and let things happen, eventually you'll find your way. BTW, if you weren't gay you wouldn't be you and that would suck.
 
Jasun said:
I prefer to think of it as hitting them over the head with a bit of reality.

I always used to think that I'd be happier if I was thinner or taller or a bit better looking.

but no.. I'd be happier if I stopped the "woe is me" routine, got off my ass and went to get those things that made me happier. And I did it and now I don't really feel like I need to be taller, thinner or better looking because I'm happy just how I am.
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Seriously, though, we're much less likely to bump our heads on stuff.

Though I do have an issue with being referred to as a "pocket gay." *glares at drhladnjak*
 
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