am i the only guy that finds cockiness, a big ego and arrogance in a man unsexy?

[refujiunderground]

you know, i go to the gym and there's some guys that walk around in a certain way with their arms 6 inches away from their body, their chest sticking out, walking around like thor. you can sense that by their attitudes that they feel that they are the shit and they are better than everyone else. i guess that they think to themselves that if they carry themselves that way and make themselves think they are that special that that equals being confident when it's not. confidence is basically being content with yourself where you can accept yourself for who you are. i can sense when a guy is confident and actually is cool where you can say something to him, joke around or whatever from when a guy is a dickhead who is self centered and arrogant. i think a guy who is humble, cool, level headed and even not that confident with himself to be way sexier, i guess because you know he'll lean on you and would be more open to expressing himself that way in opposed to an arrogant dude that has to cater to his ego.

 

[blackbeltninja]

Re: am i the only guy that finds cockiness and arrogance in a man unsexy?

Hmmm

Is it just me or are you determined to only see faults in people, regardless?

-d-

 

[refujiunderground]

Re: am i the only guy that finds cockiness and arrogance in a man unsexy?

Hmmm

Is it just me, or do you actually only see faults in everbody, regardless?

-d-

naw, i'm just saying. from my past experiences and observations of dudes that are like that, they always have to belittle someone to make themselves feel good or their personalities stink. i only treat people accordingly to how they want to be treated. if i see some big rumble tumble dude walking up on me on some intimidation shit like i'm supposed to kiss his ass or something, then i'm going to treat him like the asshole he is.

 

[blackbeltninja]

Re: am i the only guy that finds cockiness and arrogance in a man unsexy?

naw, i'm just saying. from my past experiences and observations of dudes that are like that, they always have to belittle someone to make themselves feel good or their personalities stink.

Hmmm.

Ironic, then, that this is pretty much exactly what you're doing now in your OP, no?

-d-

 

[refujiunderground]

Re: am i the only guy that finds cockiness and arrogance in a man unsexy?

Hmmm.

Ironic, then, that this is pretty much exactly what you're doing now, no?

-d-

i'm just saying that's how most of them act. basically narcissistic assholes. you basically want to show them love but they fuck it all up.

 

[refujiunderground]

You can "sense" it? So far, you are simply judging people by how they walk around the gym. Stop sensing things and start experiencing them.

you're right but hey.. that's how they come off though. i would be glad to give them dap, show them love or whatever but i don't see them reaching around to dap me or show me any love either so.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

How about going to the gym to work out and not to show respect to every Tom, Dick and Harry you see?

Or is that a foreign concept these days?

 

[pat grimshaw]

Refuji, the fashion industry is telling men to aspire to be 'badboy' and 'badass'.

The fashion industry will tell men to aspire to another look and attitude next season.

 

[refujiunderground]

How about going to the gym to work out and not to show respect to every Tom, Dick and Harry you see?

Or is that a foreign concept these days?

i do go to the gym to work out so that's not a thing. i also don't say anything except to the people that i work out with and occasionally people that i know or start a convo with me. it's that the gym for the most part is a place full of tension where you have dudes feeling the need to show that they're stronger and tougher than the next man. even though dudes don't say it or whatever, you can sense that how their body language, the way they look, how they might stare someone down and whatever that they think they're better than you or that you don't belong in the same room they do.

but being that i've been at the gym for 3 years already and plan to go there until i'm banged up and unable to. i pretty much workout for myself and not the people around me. in other words, i may not be as big as the next man or whatever but i'm working out as much as they do so ey...

 

[refujiunderground]

Refuji, the fashion industry is telling men to aspire to be 'badboy' and 'badass'.

The fashion industry will tell men to aspire to another look and attitude next season.

i agree with you but right now, i think it's the opposite. i think it's now about men keeping in touch with their feminine side where you have guys dressing up in skinny jeans and tight clothing. i have no problem with that if you're not of those beefcake guy dudes where you wearing those shirts where i can see the imprint of your muscles BUT i most definitely can't get into that shit myself with the exception of tight t-shirts. i made the mistake of buying skinny jeans though.

 

[pat grimshaw]

Not enough men have got the right legs to wear skinny jeans. I'm laughing when I see matchstick legs in them

 

[refujiunderground]

Not enough men have got the right legs to wear skinny jeans. I'm laughing when I see matchstick legs in them

like this...

 

[pat grimshaw]

^ That's looks OK because it looks loose and comfortable.

But most skinny jeans use elastic which clings and displays skinny legs. And often the guys walks funny because the tight elastic is constricting his movement.

 

[Nomenclature]

Narcissism is a HUGE turn-off to me. I've noticed that so many gay men and straight girls are attracted to these total fucking douchebags just because they have abs, or something.

I don't get it. I'd rather have a decent, cute "guy next door" type with a really good personality that "clicks" with mine. Anything else just pisses me off.

 

[Beachguyj]

Yeah just you.

 

[pat grimshaw]

Only a passive submissive guy could like all that arrogant attitude

 

[refujiunderground]

Narcissism is a HUGE turn-off to me. I've noticed that so many gay men and straight girls are attracted to these total fucking douchebags just because they have abs, or something.

I don't get it. I'd rather have a decent, cute "guy next door" type with a really good personality that "clicks" with mine. Anything else just pisses me off.

exactly... i don't see what is so sexy about dealing with a guy who you have to basically cater to his ego all the time. i know a guy like that will not settle down either.

 

[palbert]

That's why mirrors are dangerous.

 

[geloge]

there is any kind of guy you like in this world?

 

[HunterM]

That's why mirrors are dangerous.

...to the OP?