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Am I too much of a romantic?

You make yourself sound like a puppy.

If you have that much love inside you waiting to burst out, get out there and share it with whomever you can. You might just bump into someone else who is looking for the same thing.
Along the way, you'll meet some interesting people in any event.

I can guarantee you that if you don't get out there, but sit around creating ooey gooey romantic fantasies about how great true love would be when prince charming finally arrives at your door with the slipper, you're going to end up with nothing.
 
I knew we had some underlying similarities! That is all my feelings exactly, well kinda. I think about it and it's like, I don't ever want to settle.

And I know I will miss "opportunities" as people tell me, but if I'm fine by myself am I really missing anything? I really have been changing my views somewhat and trying to just "dive in" to something and just see how it goes though, just to try it. But I really am looking for what you described, just someone who I want more than anything and he wants just as much, but who can be apart and just as content knowing they are each others. Which is a big thing for me, I don't understand people being obsessed with someone and all consumed in the person and let everything else go to crap, I want it all I guess.

Ehh, I'm horrible at trying to say what I mean, especially in things I feel most important.

There is a lyric from a Postal Service song "Clark Gable" that I really ponder on.

"I was waiting for a cross-town train in the London underground when it struck me
That I've been waiting since birth to find a love that would look and sound like a movie So I changed my plans and rented a camera and a van and then I called you
"I need you to pretend that we are in love again" and you agreed to

I want so badly to believe that "there is truth, that love is real"
And I want life in every word to the extent that it's absurd


Mostly the bold stuff is what I'm talking about, but thats not necessarily true about wanting it like a movie.. well kinda.

Well I guess thats as clear as I can be at the moment.
 
I'm in that boat too.

In the morning after I'm awake, but not ready to get out of bed, I dream of what it would be like to have someone to hold & kiss. My parents have an amazing marriage (a couple of hopeless romantics themselves) with very little conflict and lots and lots of love. They've given me a terrific example to try to follow, and I hope to do so.
 
no, youre not too much of a romantic =]

maybe its cuz im a romantic myself and im not seeing all sides to this, but oh well
 
Don't ever compromise your beliefs/feelings on love for anyone. We need more people like you in this world. Romantics don't seem to be as common now as they used to.

Plus, when it comes down to it, who doesn't want to be in love? It would be so nice to come home after a long, hard day at work and have someone amazing there to give me a big hug and make everything better.

Sweet small gestures of caring are always appreciated in my book. When I get involved with someone I always go out of my way to share those sort of things. It's so much fun and the type of thing I'd want in return from that special someone.

Keep looking, your guy is out there somewhere. :)
 
Hmm I don't ever see myself getting "hurt or taken advantage of" for being a sweet romantic caring person.


They leave: their loss. I'll find someone who deserves me eventually! No biggie, plus at least they showed their true colors.
 
Romanticism is best tempered with realism, I think. My worry is that you might picture the relationship, and then attempt to make a guy fit your image. And that's gonna cause some issues. But I doubt that your head is so far in the clouds that you'll ignore problems and issues when they pop up in relationships. As long as you're aware that "life ain't perfect", I think your goals are both worthwhile and admirable. :) ..|

Lex
 
G-Lexington said:
Romanticism is best tempered with realism, I think. My worry is that you might picture the relationship, and then attempt to make a guy fit your image. And that's gonna cause some issues. But I doubt that your head is so far in the clouds that you'll ignore problems and issues when they pop up in relationships. As long as you're aware that "life ain't perfect", I think your goals are both worthwhile and admirable. :) ..|

Lex
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Lex couldn't have said it better. I know that I am a romantic at heart too but I have always been realistic with what I want. I don't dream of finding the PERFECT guy, I just want HIM to be HIM, just someone who I can be with, someone whom I can share my ups and my downs with (life ain't always sugary sweet I know), someone I can trust..........
 
The key to a relationship is compromise. I don't know of any relationships that do not include this, but the compromises should be equal and fair, and this is not easy to accomplish. To think that there is a perfect person to be your mate is a bit unrealistic - especially for him.

I'm extremely romantic also - so much so that I have rejected all relationships that I have been in because they were not ideal - or at least not close enough to what I considered acceptable. The higher your standards are, the less likely your chances are. Some people place more importance on a relationship than they do on their own standards, and these people are often known as co-dependent. A relationship is a delicate balance between idealism and reality.
 
huntneo said:
***WARNING: If sappy love talk makes you sick...exit the thread immediately***




This is something I've been thinking about a good deal lately.

I've been involved with a few guys in the past couple of years...but none of them ever moved over into an official relationship.

The closest thing I had to a relationship was with a guy who wasn't sure if he wanted to settle with men or women- and apparently, I was just something for him to test the waters. Still, he and I had some great times together...and I won't forget what we had. :-)



My thing here is...do you guys think that it's possible for someone to be too much of a romantic? Not that it's necessarily a bad thing- but I'm just wondering if it could be one of the reasons I feel as if I am missing out so much by not having a partner.#-o

I worry that maybe I sometimes have such an idealized view of what it would be like to be in a relationship and share my life with someone.

I have been told by many guys who are already in relationships, that things are not always sunshine and rainbows...and I am well aware of that. I just know what I want, and what I can contribute to a relationship. ..|

Having someone to share myself with who I care about, and who cares about me in the same manner would be such a great feeling. You know...having a guy who makes you smile just to think of him, and vice versa. Not being able to live life without him, etc.

Just thinking about it all makes me excited.

I want the love where I can look at a guy and have him know exactly what I'm thinking just by looking at me, and I with him. The kind of love where I can run into his arms whenever we are together. To feel like there are no cares in the world when I am with him... :D

I just know that I would love to give my love and affection to a guy who is open and willing to go the distance with me. I would be there for him to lean on, as we'd grow to be each other's support system. I would make it my duty to be faithful and loyal to him in each and every way.


Maybe I am hung up on the idea of being in love and having someone to love.
There is more I want to say about it all, but it's hard to put some of it into words...so I guess i'll have to add more later into the thread.



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I understand where you are coming from, Adrian. I would feel that way too if I wasn't so damn busy with school and work. No, you are not too much of a romantic. You are just trying to the silver linging of the clouds that is a good thing.
 
OK, so I might be old-fashioned and straight-acting, but I'm holding out hope for a loving, romantic relationship. One where you can spend hours and hours just laying there in each other's arms without saying anything and the experience being out of this world. I think we've gotten a little beat up in the last couple of days. But I'm still here with you.
 
A bit late to respond, but I have the same take on relationships as huntneo. That's the type of relationship that I'd like ultimately. I thought I had it...and to an extent I did. We did actually spend hours cuddled next to each other in silence. We did do all those sappy things mentioned in the original post. So, it's definitely possible to have a relationship like that. Sex didn't even figure into the equation until a month after we started dating/going out.

So, to all you hopeless romantics...it's definitely possible.
 
After thirty-seven years of shit pain around the issue
of my sexual identity, a romantic like myself, invited me to lunch.
The rest is now 18 years of history. I believe we romantics have a lot to offer one another. Keep looking. Good luck.
Shep+
 
You sound so sweet huntneo.

I'm a hopeless romantic too and I like sappiness. lol ... I don't know why some people don't ... [Spending time at the beach, rose petals in a hut and just looking at each other over the sea] ... ahhh ...

Sounds more like a honeymoon and I wished that things would be like that forever. Unfortunately real life isn't like that.

Maybe what you want hunt and to a certain extent me is a love that never shows anger. That whatever the circumstances and the problems that we face, there will never be criticisms, just love. I dunno, maybe something like that?
 
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