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am I too "uptight" or what?

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There's this older guy who I met a while ago. I'd like to be in his circle as a friend, but he wants more.

I don't mind talking to him on friend level but I'm uncomfortable discussing sexual topics with him. I don't really even like any physical contact with him. I just fidget away when its a persisting touch but when he tried to touch me down there, I pushed him off...

I tell him I'm not interested in him sexually nor do I want to entertain sexual discussion with him. He says I'm too uptight. Got all pissed off and says I'm too shallow for not coming out of friend zone for him.

I don't want to be a prick since he'll gossip about it...
How do I best handle this kind of situation?
 
He sounds like a letch...I'm not sure why you'd want him as a friend since he obviously has no respect for you nor the boundaries that you asked him to keep. Is it his circle of friends that you are really more interested in? I'd avoid him.
 
Why do you even spend time with him or talk to him. His age isn't the issue. He's a jerk that can't keep his hands to himself. Would you allow someone your age that you didn't like touch you or pressure you into sex? It doesn't matter if he's young or old, a creep is a creep.

How do you handle this situation. Cut him off. Stop being around him. Don't answer his calls or text messages. Tell him to stop contacting you in any way. if he touches you sexually grab his hand and break his fingers. Have him arrested. I'm not excusing his actions but you need to stand up for yourself and make it extremely clear to him that you dont want anything to do with him. When you hang around him or answer his calls/texts you are sending him mixed signals and he's going to continue doing what he's doing.

Steven.
 
Definately not someone you want to hang around with, I dont care how much you want to be part of his circle. Some people just cant handle rejection and they will gossip and try to make you look bad so best to stay away and make other friends
 
There was nothing wrong with his asking, but his groping and demanding are out of line. Don't let the threat of blackmail be your motivation for remaining friendly with this guy. No means no, not later or maybe. Drop him. You have more on him than he has on you. As already stated, he's a letch. He has no claim on your emotions and certainly not your body.
 
so let him gossip about it. he's a loser, why do you want to hang around him? No, it's not "uptight" to reject the advances of a perv.
 
It's not uptight to state your terms and defend them. He's the one out of line for not respecting your boundries.
 
He sounds like a creep. Let him talk... anyone who knows him will know what he's really like.

Stand your ground. He's not being a friend to you.
 
By not respecting your boundaries, he certainly does not see you as a friend. Why would you want to be friend with someone who does not want to be your friend?

Do you live in an area where not many gay people are around? Get online, get a smart phone, get Grindr and other similar apps etc.. You will see that there are more gay people around your area then you think. Google for "gay 'your area name'" (without quotation marks) for community groups in your area/state/country. They will be able to put you in contact with other gay social groups where you can meet like minded people.
 
Burn that bridge. He doesn't seen to take a direct comment, let alone clues a blind man could see coming 100 miles away. He's always going to see any attention, even negative attention, as a chance to be with you and a possible opening. Burn that bridge like your life depends on it.
 
I talk about sexual topics with my friends. But none of us have to leave the "friend zone" to do that, because we're not trying to pick each other up. If one of us would be trying to leave the friend zone, those conversations would be awkward and in poor taste.

He doesn't get it.
 
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