Am I wrong to take him back?

[Darted]

Why did you post this topic at all? It's obvious that he's a complete scumbag, it's also obvious you've decided to be the convenient home fuck for him. SO why the topic? So you can answer with "But oh gosh, I love him so!" after every reasonable advice?

Emotional dependency is unattractive. Seek help.

I posted this topic to know how other people felt about this since I didn't have many people to talk to about this. Your bitchy attitude isn't really necessary, but thanks.

 

[Darted]

I've seen a lot of people go through that without loving someone.

If he loved you, why would he willingly hurt you and do things that totally disrespect you.

I'm taking notes and translating everything into french so I can bring up these really good points when I speak with him later this evening. Thanks guys

 

[Rolyo85]

I know it comes across as bitchy. It does convey the point though, and the point is that the problem is not him, but you. He has proven time and again he does not love you (because, surprisingly, you don't need to screw around if you do love someone), but you prefer to not see the proof. This is called emotional dependency, and the choice to get out of this loop is yours.

Don't get me wrong, he might even REALLY want to change. But will you ever be truly able to trust him after all the lies? And is he capable to? Are you really going to put your life on hold until he gets all the slut out of his system? Is that fair to you?

I know that's not what you want to hear, but I believe it's what you NEED to hear. And the reason I can talk so sure is because your situation is not unique. Stay in this forum long enough, you start seeing patterns.

You are better off without him. Find a person who has the self-respect and maturity to be honest and respectful of you. Leave. Now.

 

[chance1]

^ good re-write of your original

Makes the point better

I agree with you

 

[Georgiadude]

Since you asked. In my opinion, Yes you are wrong for taking him back. Your his puppet on a string. He knows he can do what he wants and you will allow him to do it. He doesn't care how bad he hurts you because if he did he wouldn't do it. Take a look through this forum and read how many guys have been in this same situation. Seldom do they turn out the way your hoping. Save yourself the further heartache and tell this jackass to find someone else to play his game with.

I've been in a very similar situation and it tore me apart but I had to end it. Take a long look at your posts and the replies. He's lied and cheated repeatedly and each time you've taken him back. Only to have him do it again. He's a cheater. Cheaters cheat. Every minute your away from him your going to be wondering where he is and who he's with. That's not how a relationship should be. You should be able to trust him and you can't trust him. If you do your a fool. He's proven time and again you simply can't trust him. I hope you've been having protected sex with him because only the lord knows what he's done behind your back.

Believe me. I know how much it hurts but you need to look out for yourself. Save yourself from more pain and end it for good. I guarantee you it wont bother him a bit. He'll be out looking for someone else a hell of a lot faster than you will. You have a heart. He doesn't.

I'm so sorry for what your having to go through but you deserve better.

Steven.

 

[medic1]

^^^^^

That was one of the best post`s in this Thread .

 

[Georgiadude]

Thanks

Steven.