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american guys more affectionate?

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This is just a thought for discussion rather than looking for advice. After posting and reading a few threads a thought occurred to me that what seems like normal straight affection in one culture can be a green light for action in another ;). I live in the UK and most straight guys are not very affectionate with their friends :mad:(maybe the younger generation are an exception) You could say that british men are totally sexually repressed.:( Straight guys avoid any kind of touch with other guys apart from handshakes or a hearty backslap. A straight guy giving his mate a hug is still not seen all that much.

I then read several threads about american guys along the lines of "he hugged me around the waist from behind for ages" (:D) "He is always grabbing my ass and slapping it" (:luv:) "He nearly touched my dick" (:sex:) The posts then go on to reveal that the guy doing all this is straight and a lot of the replies said no he's straight and just horsing around. Being as sexually repressed as men are in the UK someone doing all of that would be considered a sex maniac here and definately not straight horsing around. Just wondered whether people think that american guys are therefore more affectionate with their buddies.
 
I'd say the AVERAGE American male is slightly more affectionate than the AVERAGE British male. But there's a lot of leeway in those averages.

Lex
 
Since I'm an American, the average British person that I see is usually on TV. Therefore, they are either old, or James Bond. The old British guys say "oh dear" a lot and drink tea while not touching anyone, and James Bond only touches men when he's killing them. Thusly, I agree that american guys are probably a bit more affectionate.
 
The old British guys say "oh dear" a lot and drink tea while not touching anyone, and James Bond only touches men when he's killing them.
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Ok that might be a bit of a cliche although you're right James Bond only touches another guy when he is killing him. Younger dudes don't say "Oh Dear" so much or drink quite as much Tea, but British guys don't seem to have as much physical touch etc as Americans and maybe Aussies. I think it is a cultural thing (my opinion.) This is why I think that whereas in america a guy grabbing your ass can be just friendly horseplay, in the UK someone touching your arm can mean your place or mine?

Opinions please!
 
How about middle eastern men or southern European men, they kiss each other on the cheeks.

They are not afraid of male on male sex if religion is not on their way.
 
I've actually travelled a lot in the middle east and it is not unusal to see straight guys holding hands walking down the street and being quite affectionate. Whereas the sight of a woman's ankle is enought to work them up into a sexual frenzy!
 
I've spent a lot of time in Britain, and, yes, British men and the British in general, are much more reserved emotionally and physically, than say, the French or the Italians. Americans may be a tad more forward physically than the Brits, but not a whole lot more. Outside of the world of sports, you don't see many Americans men hugging or showing signs of affection.

It's true the 16-25 generation in both cultures is more touchy-feely than their elders.
 
I think the millennial generation is very much more in touch with their emotions than previous ones. My closest friends (all of whom are straight) tell me that they love me and each other all the time, that I'm missed by them if I don't see them for a long period of time, I've gotten random kisses on the forehead while they've been drunk, lots of piggy back rides and games of leap frog, shoulders to fall asleep on during long car rides; and that's only off the top of my head.

Granted, my friends and I are have been close since adolescence, I grew up in one of the most affluent/diverse/socially liberal parts of the U.S. and I'm only 21. I don't know much about British guys, but I've seen every episode of "skins" and found the relationships between the male characters to be very realistically affectionate.
 
Americans are not that affectionate. If you want to see affectionate straight guys go to France. They take it to a whole new level. That's why I used to think every French guy I meet is gay because they are so affectionate. Even when I first meet them they touch a lot, talk close, and give lots of eye contact.
 
How cum in French movies they talk rude. Thats what i'm noticing thats all.
 
They might talk rude but only after they've kissed you on both cheeks. (lol) That seems to go for Italians, greeks and turks too. The Kissing I mean and not the rudeness.
 
What I find confusing about French men is that so many so fashion-conscious, and in touch with their more sensitive side that sometimes when you are in France you feel like you might be surrounded by gay guys. Many straight guys dress in a way that even most gay guys in other countries would not, due to thinking it would made them look like flamers.

My partner studied in France for a year before he met me and he says it was very confusing.
 
As well as that, I noticed that guys have no problem completely shaving and wearing things like speedos when they're jogging in the U.S. (and they still mightn't be gay). Even a few guys I know who are only 0.08 of a second off olympic swimming entry time don't shave here in Ireland. And shaving might even give them that edge, but they won't!

There seems to be no problem in the U.S.

DP.
 
Maybe we should take a vote on which country has the most affectionate and least sexually repressed straight guys. Votes please!
 
What I've found is that most places that aren't in the Americas or places such as Italy and Greece, people just aren't as affectionate with each other, at least not in a very visible context.

I've had discussion with a coworker about this (she's from Russia) and she stated affection is something reserved for those people in your life that you are extremely close to.

Here in America, we throw the word "friend" and "love" around so much it's hard to tell what those words even mean anymore.

It just comes down to a cultural difference. But, you can always fly over here and find out for yourself :).
 
first of all, dont confuse affection with horseplay. grabbing someones crotch or ass isnt affectionate regardless of orientation. also, dont base your opinions on stories from these forums without prior experience or interaction. lastly, american men, in my opinion, are step up from british men. though not as repressed, are still too hung up on masculinity and appearing butch, even in the gay community. affection amongst gays seem to fluctuate from region to region. other cultures are far more affection than most americans will ever be. europeans and middle easterners,straight and gay, hug and kiss each other on the cheek. asians, especially the japanese, walk hand in hand, hugging each other, playing with each others hair. africans are quite touchy feely and huggy, way more than any black guy from the u.s. will. some cultures are more openly affectionate than others, its all about cultural differences.
 
bronzeganymede said:
first of all, dont confuse affection with horseplay. grabbing someones crotch or ass isnt affectionate regardless of orientation. also, dont base your opinions on stories from these forums without prior experience or interaction. lastly, american men, in my opinion, are step up from british men. though not as repressed, are still too hung up on masculinity and appearing butch, even in the gay community. affection amongst gays seem to fluctuate from region to region. other cultures are far more affection than most americans will ever be. europeans and middle easterners,straight and gay, hug and kiss each other on the cheek. asians, especially the japanese, walk hand in hand, hugging each other, playing with each others hair. africans are quite touchy feely and huggy, way more than any black guy from the u.s. will. some cultures are more openly affectionate than others, its all about cultural differences.
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Maybe its the medias fault. Taught people not to be affectionate.
Like holding hands (male/male) is not a good sight.
 
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