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An invitation to move 4hrs north of Tucson!

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Hard to advise. Have you met these guys? Have you slept with them before? Is this offer only good until you decide you don't want to have sex with them, or until they grow tired of you?

Lex
 
Definitely don't agree to anything until you meet them in person. And definitely don't agree to anything until you have sex with them once.

Lex
 
I would say no. You've only known them a week and a half. Get to know them first before you leave everything you know
 
I'd say your friend is very wise.

Keep in mind that, at any time, these guys can say "You know what? Changed our mind. Get out." And you'd have to.

Lex
 
I reiterate. At any time, these guys can say "You know what? Changed our mind. Get out." And you'd have to.

Lex
 
Your and adult and you can make your own decisions but i would go for a visit and meet them before i commit to moving in with them and Lex is right after you move in with them you are at their mercy and they can ask you leave whenever they decide to. think long and hard before you put yourself in that position.
 
If it sounds to good to be true, it probably is.
 
Yeah, um, anyone that decides to move in with someone after only a week and a half gets whats coming to them. Seriously, that's a BIG move (and for somewhat sick reasons I might add). I agree with Lex, if you're not paying rent or anything then you have no say if they decide they no longer want you there. Then you're left out in the cold.
 
For goodness sake you really must go and spend a week or two with them before you even consider thinking about moving.
 
That is difficult to determine; I've gone off to live in Minneapolis, MN, Pensacola, FL, San Diego, CA, and Madison, WI - all without knowing a soul there, but that was for school and never leaving a "home" security behind.

In your situation, I would strongly urge you to at least visit them for a week before committing yourself to such an arrangement. We don't want you to be the next Dahmer Special served over the next five nights.
 
the gay community in kingman is non existent and flagstaff's gay community is so small, there isn't even a bar.
 
Don't give notice yet. Don't commit to staying a week with them in advance. Just say, "I'll come up and meet you, and then I'll decide."

And the worst possible reason for doing this would be to save money on rent!

I know a middle-aged couple who have been living with a third man for everal years now. The couple had been together 30 years and are committed to each other, but they realized they were bored sexually. So they hired a younger man to move in with them and be a sex partner. He's on a salary as far as I know (or maybe just room and board), but he doesn't have any share in their finances. Seems to be working out OK.
 
If it were me I would not do anything until meeting them in person, spending a week them maybe, and by all means sperate the two and see how each one communicates with you individually. I would think of it as moving in with three personalities... the guy + the guy and then them together as a couple. I wouldn't commit to anything without spending sometime with each individual involved.
 
1big14me said:
:wave:I received an invitation from a Gay couple who are 34 and 50 respectively, to move to their place 4 hrs. north of Tucson, between Kingman and the Grand Canyon, and they are at a much higher elevation, therefore cooler temperatures in the summer. They don't ask me to pay room and board, I'd have a bedroom all to myself, and they want a third person in a relationship with them. I can skinny dip in the pool they have. I don't have to have a Job. It would be easier with the waiting on the SSI. I told them that I have to think about it and other things that will have to be done. If I decided to go through with it; that will mean a 30 notice to Apartment manager, appointments with DES and SSA.

What do you Guys think? I hope that I started this thread in the right forum.
Thanks Guys
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Maybe your emo boy will come with you
 
you should listen to everyone here and keep living alone unless you get in a long term relationship with someone and even then take your time moving in together but do not move in with someone else and put yourself at their mercy. you never know when they will get tired of you and say get out. I have never been homeless but i bet it wouldn't be a whole lot of fun. you seem to be ignoring everyones advice to you and continuing to justify why the situation you are putting yourself in will be perfectly fine but when these guys put you out in the street reflect on how many people at jub warned you that it would happen!
 
I don't understand all the complexities of your life's situation, 1big14me; however, there is something dysfunctional about this situation. There's nothing wrong with a polyamorous couple. The issue is that you've only been chatting with these men for 1 1/2 weeks and they already want you to move in as a long term relationship? If you were me, clicking on this thread as an outsider, and reading what you wrote, what would you say to yourself? Honestly.
 
This sounds just to freaky. Is this a joke? Honestly. Free boarding at the expense of providing some amusement to strange people? It would be like being their adopted pet dog. If you have any self-respect, surely you will snap of it an say "what was I thinking?" And think how silly you would feel after they grow tire their new toy.
 
you have health and finance issues. you also have a home base, friends et cetera. now you are considering moving 4 hrs away fm that with 2 gays you don't even know (sorry, internetting for 1 1/2 weeks or even 6 mos is not knowing) you are not independently mobile (i.e. no driving) the new area is not gay friendly. at best gay indifferent it sounds like.

my take is a resounding o. there is no free lunch buddy, there is no free lunch. a week visit will prove nothing, anyone can be nice and gracious for a week. why put yourself in a position of indentured servant subject to the whims of god only knows what kind of people, in a place 4 hrs away from your base and you can't even drive down to visit.

all i can see is negatives and i am an optomist by nature...sorry, but i would tell any friend family member or even just close acquaintance this is a BAD set up right from the get-go. JMHO from the sideline.
 
I wanna know what couple wants someone to move in after only knowing someone for 2 weeks. What if they don't like you, how are they willin got commit to you instantaneously.

ask them this, how long did the last guy stay before he moved out or you kicked him out? and ask them how many there were before him? and ask thiem if they think it's premature to invite someone they basically don't even know into your home. you know what that's like, you got your stuff stolen.
 
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