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An unexpected situation

You still could have done it, you can't expect him to make the first steps. He's not going to admit something like that during a game of spin the bottle, hell I've said that when playing with guys I really wanted to kiss, back before I was comfortable with it.

I don't think he's a tease, I think he's nervous and on the fence. However, I think you still handled it well because if he's on the fence he might have regretted it later, and it's nothing to lose a friendship over. If he wants it, he'll still be wanting it and that voice will keep getting louder in his head until he has to do something about it, and he'll feel safe around you because you weren't a lech about it.
 
I say trust your gut on this one. Allow your friend to lead while keeping your emotions in check as much as possible. Many of us have had encounter with men that go on to male/female families that produce children.

Enjoy the friendship and let it flow and see what happens and come back and tell us how it went.

Blissful Fool said:
I don't want to vigorously pursue this, and I feel I'm level-headed enough not to let any personal desires get in the way of friendship, but this offer seems at the same time, too good to pass up, and too good to be true, so I was hoping for some insight from those more experienced. Perhaps, though I'd regret it, it'd be safer to ignore the whole thing, or perhaps I should simply take what's offered in friendship but no more. I'm glad I know at least enough to not fool myself into thinking I can convert him or form this sexual bond, but if even a bit of playfulness is offered, why not?
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I was in a rush in my last post, so I was unintentionally a little vague. In addition to games and such, I did make a move and utilized inside jokes and such that are hard to explain, and he turned it down but said "Nah I just don't see it being that likely, but if I'm REALLY drunk you never know what could happen."

It seems to me like he might just be enjoying the attention, and I don't want to put forth that image of available on his terms, because it feels like a form of disrespect. It's like, simultaneously he'll turn the idea down but allude that it one day may be possible. If he isn't interested, I don't know why he'd pretend he is and hang that out there for any reason other than he enjoys attention and building his confidence.

He assures me it doesn't make him uncomfortable on the rare occasions it comes up, and I texted him at a later date apologizing for my drunken behavior, as I'm a horny drunk and he was the nearest guy and my best friend to boot. He says it's no worry and our friendship has resumed as normal, but for me at least, his putting himself out there and then reticence is weird. I can wait, or if necessary I can just dismiss it, but I don't want to hold out on some vain hope that might not actually happen. I dunno, it's just weird and childish to me, as in most circumstances I make it clear where I stand.
 
I would never mention it to him again. If he really wants to do something in the future, I would make him be the one to make the move, and even to bring it up. He should have to step up and ask for it rather than jerking you around in little ways since he knows on some level you want him.
 
he's enjoying the attention. i've had friends like this. they like you thinking they "might" and so you keep trying and they get all the attention. i would never mention it again and stop giving him so much attention. then see how he is.
 
Blissful Fool said:
I was in a rush in my last post, so I was unintentionally a little vague. In addition to games and such, I did make a move and utilized inside jokes and such that are hard to explain, and he turned it down but said "Nah I just don't see it being that likely, but if I'm REALLY drunk you never know what could happen."

It seems to me like he might just be enjoying the attention, and I don't want to put forth that image of available on his terms, because it feels like a form of disrespect. It's like, simultaneously he'll turn the idea down but allude that it one day may be possible. If he isn't interested, I don't know why he'd pretend he is and hang that out there for any reason other than he enjoys attention and building his confidence.

He assures me it doesn't make him uncomfortable on the rare occasions it comes up, and I texted him at a later date apologizing for my drunken behavior, as I'm a horny drunk and he was the nearest guy and my best friend to boot. He says it's no worry and our friendship has resumed as normal, but for me at least, his putting himself out there and then reticence is weird. I can wait, or if necessary I can just dismiss it, but I don't want to hold out on some vain hope that might not actually happen. I dunno, it's just weird and childish to me, as in most circumstances I make it clear where I stand.
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I'm starting to think that he really is just enjoying the attention. I know quite a few straight guys who are more than happy to be "admired" by gay guys. In fact, many have told me that if another dude is into them they take it as kind of the ultimate compliment they can get.

On the other hand, he is still probably serious about messin around with you if he was REALLY drunk. He obviously cares for you and trusts you so if the time were right and he wanted to explore, you would probably be the one he would consider first. Of course, like many of the other guys and you yourself have said, you can't get that wrapped up in finally getting to make it happen.

I would honestly just say put it at the back of your mind and focus your energy on meeting a guy that your into just as much that plays for our team! (I almost feel like a hypocrite saying that, I'm always attracted to guys that end up being straight!!..lol) #-o
 
I see your other reply here but I would just say that both of you have well and truly broken the ice on this topic and it would not be a case of "shock, horror" he (you) has hit on me or he wants to rape me.
So I would just let it flow,do all the things you intended with no inuendo and if something happens that is all profit..........good luck, keep us updated.
 
Yeah I'm not really keen on getting jerked around, so it's really just sort of on the backburner. If it comes up, I'll definitely enjoy it, but for now there's a really attractive guy who lives around the corner, and naturally, has the proper inclinations.
 
^^ You have your head in the right place, my friend. Well done.

Don't even bring it up again, let it go completely, and you may find that his curiosity gets the better of him. I've been with any number of guys that wouldn't respond to advances, but eventually one drunken night decided they wanted to try something. He knows exactly where you stand, and if he ever gets to the point where he wants to try something, you're the awesome friend he's comfortable with and won;t make a big deal out of it, he won't go to anyone else but you.
 
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