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An Unusual relationship request

Weren't relationships like these common until the turn of the century and rise of homophobia?

Go with it.
 
A "sexless relationship" is what millions of other people call a marriage. It's very common in society.

First of all i'd find it very flattering a straight guy is willing to give up pussy for you.
Second, you have to ask him why????
Perhaps there is an underlying problem within him that he needs sorting out. Was his last relationship harsh? Has he been cheated on too many times before that now he's had enough?

I'm not sure you're relationship would last in the long run unless you were both asexual. You would start to desire sexual intimacy from him, which in theory he may not be able to reciprocate. He in return would eventually start to pine for females.
So then perhaps the solution would be to have an open relationship???
I dont know, it's up to you, I would be willing to give it a go myself.
By the way, show us all a pic because if a straight guy is saying that to you, im guessing you're pretty hot.
 
Interesting. Is he willing to give you a good night kiss at least?
 
ACE000 said:
Like I mentioned, he regards himself as being 100% straight but I now see him as someone who is perhaps looking for something more but is unsure or afraid of what he really wants. Maybe it is just a fetish on his part.
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I think that's exactly it right there. It seems like he's interested in exploring a certain side of himself without going too far in at first, in case he doesn't like it as much as he thinks he might. If I were you I'd try to figure out his real motives because it doesn't exactly sound like they're totally heterosexual. Who knows, he might just really like spending time with you, but then again he might want more.
 
i have close friends with whom i could do (and have done) that - but well .. every once in a while. not as a "relationship"

would cuddling be involved? maybe some skin contact and closeness is missing from his life ..
 
ACE000 said:
Has anyone ever heard of or experienced such a thing as a sexless relationship of this nature?
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Honestly, this sounds like what the majority of straight guys outside the western world live with until they get married. They're lucky if they can get a kiss or a handjob before marriage.

These types of same-sex "relationships" used to be quite common. Read Brideshead Revisited or rent the movie Another Country. But they were usually associated with younger men- usually in their teens and early twenties- and they ended when one or both men got married.

The question here is what you want. If you're happy with a cuddle-buddy/bromance thing with a guy who is curious but not ready for sex, then go for it.

But there's three issues-
  1. Are you going to be able to look and not touch?
  2. What happens if Mr "I just want to cuddle" decides "oh, what the hell, just do me" one day? Or more accurately, what happens the day after?
  3. Every day you spend on a guy who can't be real about what he wants is a day you spend without a guy (who is out there somewhere) who wants you.
 
this is more or less what i have with some of my closer female friends.

i have no idea what exactly is going on in his mind, but the relevant question here is: what do you want?
 
As long as it doesn't prevent you from pursuing and having a wild monkey sex filled real relationship with another guy, then no harm.

But how jealous is this friend going to be when you find someone who wants it all, including sex, and he's left sitting out on the front stoop.

Danger, Will Robinson, Danger.
 
Sounds to me like your friend needs a hug, but is afraid to ask. I say go for it!

However, how will you two handle the morning woody after he has slept over. That is a great deal of temptation there! Two hard cocks in the same bed! WOW!
 
"terms of endearment"

Funny! It sounds like a bromance, but usually, friendships like that fall into place and don't require a definition. It's really sounds like he doesn't know what he wants but could be open.

As friends, is the amount of time that you spend together much more than what is usually the case?

Are you out to him?

Seriously if you're willing to put yourselves out there, have fun, and see where it goes, but also suffer the consequences if you "take it there".

In my humble opinion, there is an implied pressure and undo expectation once you place a "relationship" on something; you might be best just doing what you do as friends, and then cuddling for the night.

It's best if you not place pressure on yourselves that this is a "relationship" though. Just let your friendship be
 
OK, come on, it's pretty obvious you're angling for us to call him gay for your cock.

If you think he's gay, do something about it, if you think he's straight, don't.

If what you say is really happening I can't see how you'd have any questions at all.
 
See, that's the problem, you're supposedly both laying all over each other naked with boners and you want to know if anyone has seen this before?

Sure. I see it every time I get into bed with my boyfriend.

No, straight guys do not do that, so if you aren't sure where this is supposedly going, he's not the one who's blind. This isn't a "relationship," I don't know why you would put yourself in this position in the first place.

What is the draw? Can't you have a close friendship without the naked snuggling and the erections?

What is clear is that the question you're asking is not whether any of us have seen this before, your story is escalating, in the next update, I fully expect one of you to have gotten off.
 
Yes I know what you said the question is, the problem, it’s not consistent.

This:

ACE000 said:
So he basically wants to go and catch a game sometime, or grab a drink, or workout together, or etc. and then climb into bed with me and just be with me, without any seminal fluids being ejected into any orifices or onto any body parts.
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Is quite a bit different from this:

ACE000 said:
...I went and took a shower and then went into the living room and relaxed on the couch. While I was there, he went and took a shower. I was sitting there on the couch in my boxers and he came into the room with nothing on. So I took my boxers off and sat back down in the corner of the couch. He sat down between my legs and leant back against my chest. I put my arm down over his chest and we just lay there while we watched the sports highlights on t.v. He didn't seem nervous or anything. We talked a bit but it was just the normal stuff that we talk about; nothing about him being naked between my legs, lol. We ended up watching a movie and just relaxing there together. I know that he felt me get hard a few times while we were laying there but he didn't say anything...

…I put my hand on his waist and he moved himself in as close as he could to me. His hand was on my chest and my arm was around him. I could also feel that he was erect. Again....

...it did cross my mind a few times that I wanted to fuck him as he lay there next to me but I wasn't about to pressure him into something which he didn't want or was not ready to do...

Whether he wants to call himself straight, curious, bi or gay, really doesn't matter to me as long as he calls himself my friend. Overall, I think he was just looking to experience something which may have been a fantasy for him; although he wants to experience this fantasy more than once.
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Why the need to take off your boxers since you knew nothing was going to happen? Are you both nudists? Why the need for bringing up how many erections he had? Why the speculation about what “he” wants to call “himself?”

You know he’s straight and a just wants a hug kinda guy, right, so what’s going on here? Why are you questioning what he told you?

Because probably you think he’s wanting to have sex and you want us to reinforce that.

Which is fine really, and if he's doing what you say he's doing, he's not straight. Period.

You don't have to fuck him, but come on, dithering over the obvious isn't going to get you wherever it is you want to go with this.

And while we're on the subject of you, if you're already wanting to fuck him after only one naked, erect cuddle session (come on, you tell us that then expect people to sit back in puzzlement?) where do you think this is going to go next? What do you expect he'll get out of it?
 
He's in denial. There's no other reason that he chose you over any girl out there to sleep with you, and he considers himself straight. :rolleyes: Make him admit it, there's some internal pressure built in him that must be released. Talk to him, and see why he wants to be very close to you.
 
Okay I think people are being a little bit harsh with the OP. But I do see what some other posters are saying. It is obvious the OP likes the guy. I could be wrong but I think the OP likes his friend more than just a friend. The OP has to ask himself what does HE REALLY WANT? Let's just forget about the friend for a moment. Do you really want to waste your time on a guy that is not at least bisexual?

Maybe you like the excitement of maybe potentially being involved sexually with this guy.

I think the OP and the friend need to have a serious talk. You both need to know what is really going on here and where you two stand. No point in playing games here. You need to sit this guy down and have a frank conversation about both of your feelings. Just ask the guy bluntly what he really wants from you and what is his true sexual orientation.
 
don't let them get to you ace000 i think you are handling this very well. not sure if i could/would do the same in your situation, but for now it seems like it is working.
but sooner or later you will need to find/make a decision about where this is going ..
 
Whatever works.

I've never heard of this kind of relationship before to judge on this isolated situation.
But did you ask him why he wanted this before you guys did it? Did you try to seek out any possible underlying issues he may have elsewhere?
Was he just testing the waters of his sexuality, from your posts you don't seem too curious for his motives whereas i would be.
Are you going to do it again?
 
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