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An Unwanted Bromance (sorry, long post)

Romantico said:
Yes, your right. We discussed this tonight. An awkward talk is inevitable I think, but its a comin'. As for the gym, I do want to join but I have issues with gyms. I run and bike and eat well and do crunches and stretches at home but when I go to the gym I like to have my space. I HATE working out when theres a lot of people. We have gay friendly gyms here but I need to ask myself how often I am going to go. I'm thinking maybe twice a week and is it really worth it for that? I'm not really trying to work on an area, just to keep fit and tone. I weighed myself last on New Years Day and then last night and discovered since January I have lost 16 pounds, and I wasn't even trying. So, I may rethink the gym thing.

Well, I better get to bed. I have a big date tomorrow with, as my GF has been kidding me, 'my other better half.' Isn't she hilarious? (*8*)
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Your other better half.:eek: That's a scary thought.
 
Yeah, she thinks she's funny. The abuse I take from her.....

(she's reading this, so I gotta pile it on thick!)

:kiss:
 
Time to Updates Us on "Your Preverted Handy Man". How's it going Romantico??????
 
Well, if something exciting had happened I would have posted it by now. It was really hot here yesterday and I was debating on wearing shorts. I know it sounds dumb, but I know when this guy first met me it was at the house and I was wearing gym shorts and he talked about my legs. So, when came by the house first thing out of his mouth was, "you got nice legs dude".

There were some awkward moments but nothing really bad. He did mention about 3 times how he gives good massages and how his girlfriend loves them. I told him that my GF takes care of me in that department, but he still kept reminding me on how no one gives massages like he does. Other than that, all went well. He does smile at me a lot and in the truck while he was driving I couldn't help but notice him starring at my legs. I really felt uncomfortable because I felt he was not spending enough time watching the road.

Last night my GF and I talked about it and I'm either getting use to it or he is slowly realizing 'it ain't gonna happen'. Oh, he did ask me how often my GF and I have sex, which I answered PLENTY and switched the subject. I think I am getting my point across and he can't accuse me of being a cock tease, thats for sure.
 
Trust me, I was not flirting. It was 74 degrees here yesterday and its the warmest day of the year so far, which makes it feel a lot warmer. If I wore long pants I would have been miserable. We were working in the house and I had fans on in every room. By time he left my clothes were clinging to me so bad, if I wore long pants I would have been soaked! Besides, we're going to be working all summer long. He'll eventually see me in shorts sooner or later.
 
Palindromos said:
It was 74 degrees and hot? Have you ever been south of the Mason Dixon Line? Here in Dixie, 74 degrees is a cool day. I'd have long pants on for sure! LOL

I'm sure you were not flirting; just put yourself in his place is all I'm saying.
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Trust Me. After -20Degrees F to go to 74 degrees F and Hartford,CT is near the Sea,So High Humidity is a given. It feels like 90 Degrees F.

You C fans can figure it out. Not my Job. American and Damn Proud of It.:p
 
If a straight but curious guy showed interest in me I would be flattered. I wouldn't view it as negative. You may be missing out on a very good friendship. It's just innocent flirtation. If you don't flirt back he will get the point. No need to have a deep discussion about it with him. Don't turn your back on a nice guy who's willing to help you out.
 
Don't get me wrong, I was flattered at first. But like I have posted, it was just getting weird. I guess him stealing my underwear is what freaked me out the most. Friends don't steal from others. If he were a friend he should open up and discuss his 'bromance' with me, even though I can understand that it's not easy. Did I mention I have only known this guy for a bout a month? He is a nice guy and if I turned my back on him there would be no post regarding the subject. To be clear, I have not flirted with him at all. Your the second person who has claimed this and I have not seen anything I have posted that would imply I have. I guess the fact that I haven't exploded or confronted some of his comments or personal questions could be perceived as me being okay by his behavior, but that's stretching it I think.

By the way, if it friendship he wants thats fine. However, my GF and I both feel he wants way more than that and something tells me me my friendship is not enough. I hope I am wrong.
 
Romantico said:
Don't get me wrong, I was flattered at first. But like I have posted, it was just getting weird. I guess him stealing my underwear is what freaked me out the most. Friends don't steal from others. If he were a friend he should open up and discuss his 'bromance' with me, even though I can understand that it's not easy. Did I mention I have only known this guy for a bout a month? He is a nice guy and if I turned my back on him there would be no post regarding the subject. To be clear, I have not flirted with him at all. Your the second person who has claimed this and I have not seen anything I have posted that would imply I have. I guess the fact that I haven't exploded or confronted some of his comments or personal questions could be perceived as me being okay by his behavior, but that's stretching it I think.

By the way, if it friendship he wants thats fine. However, my GF and I both feel he wants way more than that and something tells me me my friendship is not enough. I hope I am wrong.
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You tell them'll Romantico.:gogirl: I just think you have been far to patient and understanding in this whole situation. Far more so that I would be.
But, An Evil thought has crossed My Mind. Could this all be a Set-Up. A Test,If You Will. Cooked up by Her(GF) Friends to show Her(GF),That your a Bi-Banging So and So.](*,)
 
Thanks ejbonk! I can't help be understanding because this guy was me about 7 years ago. I was confused and played this game with a few guys I liked as well. He's about 2 years older than me and in my opinion, you should sort of know who and what you are by then. I really didn't have anyone to turn to and had to figure it out myself. If this guy is confused and needs a friend, I'm right here. Just talk to me. Hell, if he is comfortable enough to ask me some of the personal questions he has asked, then opening up about his sexuality should be a piece of cake. I just don't want him to cross that line or worse, become violent if he feels rejected.

You have an interesting theory. I know they are all friends so anything is possible. If so, they are not getting what they want and I think that I've been honest and open with all this with my GF has shown them I keep no secrets in this relationship. I don't think its a set up but if so, it's way to much drama and mind games for me. I'll put an end to it very abruptly if I discover a sinister plot in all this to separate my GF and I.

I don't really have a temper, but some of these attempts by friends and family to break us up are really testing my limits.
 
Romantico said:
Thanks ejbonk! I can't help be understanding because this guy was me about 7 years ago. I was confused and played this game with a few guys I liked as well. He's about 2 years older than me and in my opinion, you should sort of know who and what you are by then. I really didn't have anyone to turn to and had to figure it out myself. If this guy is confused and needs a friend, I'm right here. Just talk to me. Hell, if he is comfortable enough to ask me some of the personal questions he has asked, then opening up about his sexuality should be a piece of cake. I just don't want him to cross that line or worse, become violent if he feels rejected.
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Some people do not come to grips with their own sexuality until 30 or older. They ignore it,surpress it,pray about it. You get the picture. Others live in denile about it,and I'm not talking about a river in egypt.

Sex to the human race is one big hang up. Religion has not helped the matter either.
 
Hey,romantico. How's It Going? Time To Update Us. Don't Leave Us Hanging,dude.
 
Romantico said:
He's about 2 years older than me and in my opinion, you should sort of know who and what you are by then. I really didn't have anyone to turn to and had to figure it out myself. If this guy is confused and needs a friend, I'm right here. Just talk to me. Hell, if he is comfortable enough to ask me some of the personal questions he has asked, then opening up about his sexuality should be a piece of cake.
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That's a big assumption.

You're tacitly allowing this behavior to continue and you're not confronting him about it. Confrontation doesn't have to be negative.

The next time he starts asking these personal questions, stop him and ask, "Can I be honest with you? I don't mind talking with you about it but I'm not sure why you're asking about my sexuality but never telling me anything about yours".
 
Well, I feel this guy has only known me now for about a month but at times acts as if we are childhood friends. I mean, the things he brings up and the personal questions are really out there. Still, your not the only one who suggest I talk with him. Everything that has happened sort of caught me by surprise but after giving it time and consideration if anything else does happen that makes me or my GF uncomfortable, a talk will be in place.

My assumptions are based on what I and others have seen and I can not explain every detail in a post for anyone online to draw any conclusions. I stand by what I said regarding this guy being very confused.
 
seems to me you are using him

If his behavior weirds you out....tell him to start kicking rocks

and do the work yourself and stop whining about it
 
Well duh! Your just now catching on that I'm getting something more than being weirded out by all this? Where have you been? I've never once even come close to pretending that I am not. When I started this post not that much had happened.

As for me whining, just shows your not paying attention. Things have been going pretty well. If things get out of hand, I will deal with it. How is that whining? I started this post asking for simple advice, which I got an appreciate. Your coming to the party kind of late offering helpful hints.
 
Want some simple advice? How about you be "real" with him instead of using him and then complaining about him behind his back. Why the hell don't people talk about things to each other if something is going on. Grow up and have a real friend conversation with him, unless of course you are getting off on this(which I think is partly the case, anyone took my underwear would have heard about it immediately). Talk to him.
 
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