Anal sex-how often?

[d33pInside]

discussion with my BF/FWB that I wanted to bring up here.

He(total top) and I (total bottom) have been together for about 6 months. We don't live together, but we hookup pretty often, usually once a week. With that kind of schedule, I can plan my diet, make sure im clean and warmed up and enjoy the event. sometimes its more spontaneous, but even then I have SOME notice to douche and get ready. There have been times though that Ijsut haven't eaten right and I can't play that day.

In the fall, I had an opportunity to stay at his place for almost a week straight. LOADS of fun. but I didn't anticipate what nightly bottoming meant. first few nights were fine, but by the third night, I was SORE. he is not pornstar size, but definitely endowed, but I was struggling to take him. the fourth day I told him I just couldn't do it, AND I really needed a real meal then too. Im no amateur at anal, I know to warm up and go slow, etc. but taking a man's dick multiple times a day several days in a row seemed like too much. I recovered after a night off, but I just couclnt do it that next day.

We have the same opportunity coming up in January and it made me think........ How are the real couples doing it? How often are you getting ass fucked? do you take planned time outs?

 

[BiBtm64]

discussion with my BF/FWB that I wanted to bring up here.

He(total top) and I (total bottom) have been together for about 6 months. We don't live together, but we hookup pretty often, usually once a week. With that kind of schedule, I can plan my diet, make sure im clean and warmed up and enjoy the event. sometimes its more spontaneous, but even then I have SOME notice to douche and get ready. There have been times though that Ijsut haven't eaten right and I can't play that day.

In the fall, I had an opportunity to stay at his place for almost a week straight. LOADS of fun. but I didn't anticipate what nightly bottoming meant. first few nights were fine, but by the third night, I was SORE. he is not pornstar size, but definitely endowed, but I was struggling to take him. the fourth day I told him I just couldn't do it, AND I really needed a real meal then too. Im no amateur at anal, I know to warm up and go slow, etc. but taking a man's dick multiple times a day several days in a row seemed like too much. I recovered after a night off, but I just couclnt do it that next day.

We have the same opportunity coming up in January and it made me think........ How are the real couples doing it? How often are you getting ass fucked? do you take planned time outs?

I've never had the pleasure of taking a dick nightly, or several times a day. But I can imagine that I'd be sore too, in your situation. It matters how you loosen up and ease in, and how passionate/rough the sex is, but we all have limits. You're being reasonable to ask for a break and to pace yourself.

From one experienced bottom, I suggest you make a tweak to how you prepare. There's no need to starve yourself. Just eat reasonably healthy - grains, vegetables, and you can have meat but don't overdo it - eating healthy is just part of my lifestyle, not only to prepare for sex. The other important thing (for me, and from my experience that I can suggest to you) is to supplement your fiber intake with a psyllium product such as Metamucil, daily dose at the same time each day with lots of water. This will make your stool bulky, non-sticky, and regular, and easy to clean and prepare. You can't be expected to be ready for sex at any time, 24 hours a day. With the diet and Metamucil, I find I'll have a bowel movement regularly in the morning then I'm able to clean (right after, or any time later that day) and I'm good to go. No craving food, just clean and ready for dick.

But also, yes, take planned time-outs if you need to. Don't feel guilty or feel like there's something wrong with you. And finally - when you say "How are the real couples doing it" - you're a real couple, as real as any couple. Don't run yourself down.

 

[KaraBulut]

I agree the above commentary on diet. If you're swinging back and forth between a healthy diet and an unhealthy diet, you're making the problem worse. There are times, especially over the holidays, where you can indulge and enjoy yourself. And if you know you're going to be having sex, maybe that big mexican food dinner is not the right choice the day before. Try to eat healthy on a regular basis and then have days where you have a little more fun with your diet. It is easy to incorporate fiber into your diet daily and that seems to be the key to being "clean" without having to worry on days when you're going to have anal sex.

I would amend the psyllium to suggest trying different forms of fiber to find the one that works best for you. Everyone is different and you might try different forms until you find the right one for you. Psyllium is a good bulk former and it is nice because it is both soluble (soaks up liquid) and insoluble (bulking agent) fiber. Others to try are Citrucel is mostly soluble fiber and doesn't cause gas but some people find it doesn't clear them out like a bulking agent. Benefiber is less bulk-forming and easier to drink and it has some pre-biotic qualities that some people like; it's also less "slimy" that some of the other forms of fiber. Try different types of fiber and find the one that gives you clean, consistent bowel movements.

Probably the biggest problem you're having is the change in frequency of getting fucked. Look at it this way: your anus is a muscle. Any muscle that you work out is going to have soreness. If you are used to going to the gym once a week, but then suddenly you change and start going everyday, you're going to be really sore after a few days of daily workouts. You're also going to feel really crappy until your muscles get used to the new workout schedule.

The same is true of bottoming. If you were getting fucked once a week and then you suddenlychange to daily, your ass and your prostate are going to be really unhappy. It's really going to be up to you to set a realistic expectation with the other guy. If your top really wants to have sex daily, maybe blow him before bedtime and give your ass a rest that night. Or maybe try some kinky role play to make things fun without having to take an ass-pounding every night?

 

[snakeeater1]

I was introduced to a guy, by a friend, who was looking for a guy to fuck on a regular basis. He didn’t want a lover just a guy who liked to take it up the ass about once a week! My friend asked me if I was interested, he knew I was a bottom! So I agreed to meet with the guy and we kind of hit it off! He said “i don’t suck cock and I don’t want to get emotionally involved but I’m horny!

I agreed with the guy so we started meeting at a bar every Friday night. We would have a few drinks then go to his place and take off our pants! After he got hard he placed a big pillow on the bed and had my lie on my stomach with my ass up! He didn’t like reg lube, just spit. Crawled on and stuck his big cock up my ass and fucked me for what seamed like an hour!

After he was finished I would get dressed and go out to my car and drive home! As I was driving home I usually opened the front of my pants, grabbed my hard cock and jerked off. .. this went on for about a month and one night we decided to take a little road trip for about 2 weeks.

So at night we would get a motel and every night I got fucked in the ass. After about 4 nights of this my ass got so sore I couldn’t take it anymore, so I says to him “this isn’t going to work, we’ve got to cum up with something different!” He looked at me and asked if I had my ideas! So I said to him “if you only want to fuck me, how about fucking me in the mouth instead!”

He looked at me for a moment and answered “you would let me do that?” I told him yes, my tender ass needed a break! So he had me lie down on the bed, on my back, straddled my chest and gave it to me in the mouth! Just before he started he says “I’m not sure your going to like this, but I know I am!”

So for the remainder of the trip we alternated, one night ass, the next might mouth etc. wen we got back from the trip I had a sore ass, a sore throat AND a sore dick from jerkin off! But, we did have a great time! After the trip we went back to once a week until after about 6 months he said good by and moved to California. I still think of that guy often!…..