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LordVoldemort

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My Boyfriend and I have recently started having sex, we're both new to anal and I have a few questions. We've reached penetration but sometimes we can get there, othertimes we can't and start losing errections to where it starts becoming difficult, but my question is, What is/are the best position(s) for beginners? Also, kind of embarassing but the 'awakening of the bowels' if you will has been a recent problem that has forced us to stop soon after penetration. I've heard that having a movement earlier in the day helps but is that something that one gets used to and goes away or something you just have to deal with?
I'd appreciate any help anyone can provide!
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Well, I usually prefer to have a movement ahead of time and not eat anything about 3 hours before I anticipate having sex. But in truth, there shouldn't be any fecal matter in the rectum unless you actually feel like you have to go to the bathroom.

A good position for beginners is to have the penetrating partner lie down on the bed and the bottom squat over and slowly slide down on his penis. The squatting position is the most natural position for the alignment of the bowels (meaning his penis won't be trying to go straight through a curving entrance) and allows the bottom to have some control with penetration. This is also a good position (facing him) for prostate stimulation, since the slight upward curve of his penis will put it in prime location to move against the prostate, which is on the ventral wall of the rectum.

Another good position is the sideways position, where the two of you are basically in spooning position. This also afford the bottom control of penetration by closing and opening his legs.

Hope that helps!
 
Awesome, I was wondering about this and a thread has already been made.

Two questions:

1. At some point does anal sex ever easier? That is to say, will the anus ever take penis as easy as a vagina would? Also, does it ever stop hurting? ( Never did it, just heard that it hurts.)

2. Is it possible to experience pleasure from the prostate alone? Have any of you ever climaxed without ever messing with your penis?

Thanks.
 
A1) Yes and no. It really depends on how comfortable you are with your partner, at the particular moment, and with anal sex in general. If you're feeling tense, your anal ring will be tense and it'll be hard to relax and let anything up there. As well, no, an anus very rarely takes a penis as "easily" as a vagina, but it does get easier just from experience and comfort with the act on the part of the bottom.

Anal sex will hurt if your partner is entering on a bad angle, if you're tense and therefore the penis has to sort of force its way in, and a number of other reasons. Again, it's mostly about your own comfort. Sometimes I'm tense and it hurts, sometimes I'm really rarin' to go and it all goes in without hurting.

Also, when it was my first time, I was really sore afterwards because my anal ring wasn't used to that kind of work out, so it was pretty bad for the rest of the day. But ever since, unless I've had an extremely vigorous fucking, I've never been sore after.

A2) Yes. For me, having my prostate touched feels just like the deep pleasure I feel when getting my dick touched and also sometimes makes me feel like I have to pee. I've never experienced a hands-free orgasm, but many people have.
 
Thanks for the info everyone! I was also curious to know what peoples thoughts were in regards to lube. I've heard that anal lube was best particularly for those who are new to the experience. I've recently purchased some and while it does help for the most part, it is extremely thick and hard to work with compared to other brands such as KY and Astroglide. Would you recommend sticking with the anal lube or does just using lots of Astroglide proove no different?
 
For the lube question i find KY is really good. being water based it is designed for condom use. and it doesnt dry out quickly. KY is definetly my fav.
also th best position for me is either spooning or doggy style. i think these are the easiest positions for beginner and the most fun.
If it hurts to means that the top is doing something wrong. just tell him to go slowly and just get used to it. there is always a bit of pain at the start, but then it feels great. so just relax and have fun. as long as ur both happy. its all good
 
best advice i can give you on lubig techniques

lube up

insert

pull out

relube

insert

pull out

relube

and then go for broke....

it really helps get things lubed in al the right places and makes it alot easier for the bottom....

give it a try and tell me what you think
 
Hey,

When I started with my bf we were in the same situation as u r: we were both 100% tops and bottoming was kind of new. Now that I read the "troubles" that u r facing with anal sex is like I've written it myself.

First, like the others said, you have to feel comfortable with your partner and really want to do it. Take your time, take a deep breath and don't force anything: if something is hurting, stop.

I also agree that the easiest possition is "ridding" your partner, this gives you complete control of the penetration and you can do it at your own rhythm; also the stimulation is intense and if u cum you do it in your bf's chest.

Now the "movement bowels issue": I must admit that I've been always concerned about it and even sometimes it doesnt let me relax completely (that's silly, I know). I dont have the answer for this: sometimes u r 100% sure that u r 100% clean and at the end you have a little "surprise"; sometimes when is more spontaneus (and u just dont worry about it) u r just fine. Try an enema maybe this will help u to feel safe and maybe u will be more relaxed...

And last but not least: use tons of lube, tons, tons, tons; never try without it...

Hope that this helps and dont hesitate if u have any other question
 
Anal evacuation and cleaning is a help in advance.
Part of the equation is the need at first to simulate a bowel movement for ease of penetration. But when you get used to
it, it becomes more comfortable and enjoyable. Use this as
part of your love making.
Vary your sexual activity doing a variety of things to get off.
Shep+
 
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