Anal Tear

[gdude30]

-_-

Damn this sucks.

So yesterday I met up with a good friend of mine. After driving around and going to random places we finally found a hotel and then after much foreplay he lubed me up, slipped a condom on and opened me up. It wasn't as hard because I was really hungry. Which made it easier because usually I have a hard time opening up. It was great and I loved it.

And when I told him let's stop so we can eat he pulled out and I diddn't hurt at all. Nothing hurt even when I had to use to bathroom. Usually becuase I am so tight it's a little sore.

So after lunch, going to some places, and then finally getting back we got some new lube. The store owner recommended this one. I brought a sample pack of ID Lube the first time and it worked great.

So we get back and I am wanting it so bad. So he pours tons of that new lube into me and puts a condom and and pushes in. He doesn't force himself in he gently pushes himself in and I don't resist because I am relaxed and more loose then before. He then pulls himself out and pushes in again. This time it hurts and I tell him to stop immediately. He takes it out and it still really hurts. He takes a look and doesn't see anything. But then he notices a little blood.

He says we need to stop and I need to take a shower. He tells me it was the lube and it did not go well with the rubber. But he has used Magnum condoms on all types of lube before and it's never made a tear. He told me it wasn't too big though. So after I washed off and soaked we went to get some neosporin and he applied it to the area.

He told me what I have to do is after time I use to bathroom that I need to take a shower and rinse off behind. And to not wipe becuase it will irritate it. And that also after I take a shower I can't dry off behind there. I need to air dry and then apply the neosporin to the spot.

He said chlorine will also hurt it so I shouldn't swim.

But has this ever happened to anyone. This really sucks because the first lube was fine but it was the second one that made the tear. If I used a Dildo on myself with the lube I would have made a tear as well.

Is there anything else I should do? He said it's not too bad and I don't need to see a doctor. But the main things I need to do is make sure it don't get infected with excrete and to use that neosporin on it twice a day. It's not too far deep in my hole too and it doesn't hurt that much.

Oh by the way the lube we used is "Joe Lube" he said different lubes can have different effects on people but I advice you to stay the hell away from that one. Can't even go to the pool party now

But I was just wondering if there is anythign else I should be doing or using to make this heal faster and not be a potential problem. It sounds like for the most part we are stopping it before it becomes a problem. But I just wanna make sure that everything he told me is right and that there isn't anything he missed that someone here knows or if anything extra should be done.

Thanks in advance for help.

And fuck Joe Lube.

 

[gdude30]

Yes I am comet. For now.

Yes there is brushstrokes and capulets.

Capulets is the fun store with movies and toys.

He did the same to me. Because I was trying to decide between WET or ID but he said he used Joe Lube and it works fine. I asked him if it worked for anal and he told me yeah and he's used it like that before.

But at first it sounded like he was speaking only of masturbation. I know that Boy Butter is masturbation creme and isn't used for anal. I'm wondering if certain lubes that are for masturbation only have this effect when you do anal. They need a warning sticker on it then.

But it could be my ethnicity or just something about my body that doesn't react well with rubber and joe lube. Could happen to someone else though.

I guess I'm sticking with astroglide and ID from now on.

But my friend even asked him questions about what was in it because he was skeptical. But the guy told us what was in it but this one ingrediant was questionable but I got it anyways

I had mixed feelings about getting it and using it. Looks like I diddn't feel that way for nothing.

DON'T TRY IT WITH ANAL. This sucks having to shower after I crap and apply the creme back there.

I think I was told I couldn't use soap either because it would burn like hell. But I figured soap would disenfect it. Guess the creme does that.

 

[gdude30]

I guess you shouldn't pour the lube on your dick, then put a condom on and rub it either.

Or then you're dick will probably bleed o_o

It looked suspicious. It's not funny that I have to worry about this >_>"

I really am nervous about not cleaning it well enough, or missing the spot when i apply the neosporin. If I do then I think I'm fucked. But I don't know. He sounded pretty worried. But I know it could be worse. I'm gonna tell him next time how much it sucked -_-

Yeah. Don't do it with anal. I was actually looking for another type of lube but they diddn't have it.

I think they astroglide anal lube. I've seen it at southern video nights. But I think with me ID works best.

 

[jockboy01]

It doesn't sound like it has anything to do with the lube. Rather, it just sounds like a small tear. As to no chlorine, that's bullshit. It might hurt, but it won't cause damage. You just want to keep the area as clean as possible. Lubes should not cause tears.... size/position does. You're fine, go to the pool party, use the neosporin, wipe down there (just don't be too rough), and it'll heal on it's own.

 

[gdude30]

Oh wow what a dilemma.

Listening to my friend who I trust more then pretty much anyone or listening to someone online who is a mod. It's hard to trust people online but they can be really helpful at times. Sometimes more then people outside of the internet.

And those who have experience with this would know more of it. What he is saying might be just what he thinks or is common sense. But someone who has had it happen would know exactly what to do.

Jockboy.

Has this ever happened to you or anyone you know. I am really not sure who I should listen to but if you've had experience with this then I'm more likely to listen to you.

 

[jockboy01]

It has not happened to me. But I know people who've had it happen. And I assure you, I'm correct. But I understand your dilemna. Take it or leave it. You'll heal either way.

 

[gdude30]

I'm sure it was worse when it happened to them too..

I'm sure you probably do know what your talking about.

I don't believe he ever said it would anything to it. Just hurt. If it doesn't actually infect it or make it worse then it hurting isn't much of a problem. And it probably wouldn't hurt that much. I think I'll go and wear my bathing suit underneath and decide if I should swim or not by what everyone else is doing. If no one is swimming then I won't have to worry about it. But if everyone else is having fun then I should too.

I don't get to see them much anyways...

But Jockboy he fucked me before when I was tight as hell with the ID lube. And then a few hours later I am more loose and he goes in with the Joe Lube and it's a tear.

That can't be just coincidence can it?

Position?

I have a clue of what you mean by that but I'm not entirely sure.

I think I will swim if it's to have fun. But are you sure it wasn't the lube?

 

[jockboy01]

That can't be just coincidence can it?

Sure it can. Or maybe you tore it when tight and didn't notice it until the second time. Not sure exactly what happened. But I can all but guarantee it's not the type of lube.

And if you don't know what I mean about position.... well, you should probably do a little research. Different positions are more conducive to easier penetration.

 

[gdude30]

I asked that. But he told me the tear looked new and fresh. Because the first time it diddn't hurt when we were done. When I went to the bathroom it hurt a little. But not enough for concern..I think.

But it's always like that after anal. But normally it hurts after I use the bathroom but this time it diddn't. Just a little during..which is normal..I think.

That's another thing. The position I was in was on my back the first time. And the same for the second time.

The position wasn't changed. I thought you meant if the penis enters straight in the middle, from above, or from below.

I wondered if that made some sort of a difference.

I don't think he tore it the first time. If he did it would have hurt a little. It had to be during the second time. But how did it happen is what doesn't make sense.

 

[gdude30]

Maybe I was a bit dry. But the first time after he added more lube it went in and out so easy and it wasn't painful anymore.

...I won't lie and say he's small. But he isn't something queen size people would approve of. Thank god of that.

That could have been it too. Since when my legs are in the air it feels weird for me like that and all the stress goes to my legs which makes me tighter. But he said that's the easiest position for me. But it's not easy for me to calm down and relax >_>"

When I think about it now even taking a shit can cause a tear. I've had that happen once or twice in the past even before I ever had sex. Just took a big crap and there was some blood and I just wiped and showered and it was fine.

I heard that unfortunately rubber causes tears more then anything. It keeps ya from getting a disease but makes you bleed sometimes I guess.

Still better then getting a disease like AIDS anything is.

So maybe it wasn't the lube. Maybe tears just happen sometimes when it comes to using the bathroom or sex. Amazing that when I've gotten tears from using the bathroom it's much worse. This was very minor. The only reason it hurts a little more then the other times is because I'm nervous like fuck about it and thinking about it too much so it's noticable. I guess I don't have too much reason to worry.

..Thanks jockboy and steven

But one last question.

Is it safe for me to use soap?

Or will that make it burn or hurt.

 

[KaraBulut]

Jockboy is correct. Lube helps reduce trauma to the anus and rectum by reducing friction.

An anal tear (fissure) is caused by stretching the skin in the area too much. Lube does not cause a tear. A tear is the result of either a tight ass or a big dick (or both).

I'm not convinced that this is a tear based solely upon your friend's finding blood in the area. It's probably an abrasion or a hemorrhoid. But the treatment is the same, so it doesn't matter at this point.

Use soap to clean the area. You should take baths if possible since warm baths will relax the area and helps clean it.

You will need to increase the fiber in your diet until it heals. You want your stools to be soft so that they do not stretch the area. Keep things out of your ass for a while.

You will also find that using a softer toilet tissue such as Charmin- or better yet, using moist wipe (e.g. Cottonelle or a butt wipe made for infants) is going to feel a lot better than the toilet paper in the dorms.

 

[gdude30]

It could be an abrasion.

Maybe it could be. I doubt a hemorrhoid. Even though I do spend too much time in the bathroom..

So the more lube the better? I kind of figured that. But he used plently of lube and I was more loose the second time. Maybe what happened was he made a small tear the first time but it wasn't realized. Maybe by that point it was just a little skin peeled nothing bad. Then the second time he made it a little bigger and the condom rubbed against the skin which hurt so that's what made the result.

I guess that is possible.

Maybe what I should do is shower first for a minute or two and use some soap. And then soak in warm water for the baths. I can do that tonight and tomorrow while I'm here. But once I go back to college I can't.

Fiber?

I'm so slow I don't know what is. But I'll follow that sex diet thing that someone posted on here. Like no cheese and stuff like that.

Well yeah of course I don't wanna stick nothing up there. Well I want to. But know I can't >_>"

Probably will. Maybe I'll take one or two rolls from home and use that when I go back to school.

Thanks alot Kara.

I think I will go the pool party within a few minutes and have fun and not worry

 

[KaraBulut]

Fiber?

I'm so slow I don't know what is. But I'll follow that sex diet thing that someone posted on here. Like no cheese and stuff like that.

Vegetables and grains are what make the stools soft and make them pass through the colon without straining.

In a nutshell, be sure that you drink lots of water and eat grains, cereals or vegetables with every meal. This can be as simple as having a bowl of cereal or a bran muffin in the morning or eating an apple after dinner. If you don't like vegetables, drink a fiber supplement dissolved in a glass of water (e.g. Citrucel) before you go to bed.

http://www.citrucel.com/

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/fiber/NU00033

 

[gdude30]

Vegetables and grains are what make the stools soft and make them pass through the colon without straining.

In a nutshell, be sure that you drink lots of water and eat grains, cereals or vegetables with every meal. This can be as simple as having a bowl of cereal or a bran muffin in the morning or eating an apple after dinner. If you don't like vegetables, drink a fiber supplement dissolved in a glass of water (e.g. Citrucel) before you go to bed.

Oh cool. I like veggies and grain. So what food do I stay away from? Calcium?

I have been drinking water more lately and I like veggies and cereal. Should I stay away from meat?

That's okay I don't need no supplements. I'm a broccoli lover

Gdude, I assure you Jockboy and KaraBulut are correct. Fiber is always good for your digestive system. You can do the natural way of eating veggies and grains, or you can take supplements. Those supplements are readily available at CVS/Walgreens, and come in packets you can stir in juices, or you can take them as a capsule form.

I like to use wipes anyways. I find that toilet paper can and does get abrasive, and can irritate an already irritated area. Whether you have a small hemorrhoid or if it is just a small fissure, proper cleaning, care and soothing is required. I'd recommend the "Preparation H" cleansing wipes. Use those instead of toilet paper. I use them, because I find it moisturizes, cleans and is gentle on my rear end. Go out to the drugstore and try some, they are about $5 for a pouch. Even though you may not have hemorrhoids, it won't hurt you, and it will only sooth it and keep it cleaner down there.

Also, IF you do have a fissure or a hemorrhoid, the best way to handle it is indeed fiber, wipes and cremes designed to reduce inflammation and there are even anal suppositories, one comes to mind called Anucort which is nothing more than hydrocortisone which will promote healing. You would need to see a medical professional in order to get those.

At any rate, if it doesn't get better by trying some of these things that have been suggested, a quick trip to the doctor should fix you up. I do agree that the lube was most likely not the culprit here, but rather the amount of lube used, positioning, and force used to penetrate you.

Hope you get better soon!

I heard rice has fiber too. Wait no OATMEAL. YEAH I LOVE OATMEAL. I should eat some of that. So that makes it soft? Doesn't apple juice help too?

Now that I know I can use toilet paper I'll use that. I'd buy wiped comet but I'm a college student who lost his wallet. I really don't have much money. I need to conserve money for 2 weeks. Just have some backup money.

I don't think I do. According to my friend it was a tear. He actually saw it I diddn't. He said he could see some skin peeled back.

Hmm. I'll try to remember that. With me spending hours on the toilet I'm bound to get them when I get older *tear*

I don't think it will have to come to that.

Amount? He used alot..that's bad?

The position i think was right..

At least I think.

But anyways. I swam tonight and loved it. Some perverted drunk horny guy kept poking me behind too and it diddn't hurt. I think I'm better now. I'm a damn fast healer

But I think the creme' helped too.

But thanks Jockboy, steven, comet, and kara.

If it wasn't you guys I would have missed out on having fun tonight.

But maybe I had a little too much fun.

PROBLEM SOLVED.

 

[gdude30]

Yeah..

It is important to wash down there regardless of tears I suppose XD

In some ways it would be cruel irony if you got a tear or cut down there from sex or not from sex and that your own stools infected yourself.

That would be really unfortunate but I think something like that could be possible since technically stools are bacteria.

But yeah..I'm sure that keeping yourself clean can prevent many things.

..Thanks Joe