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Lewiz55

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I know I ask about this a lot, but something different has kinda happened. I went through a period (like a month or two) where I was pretty much straight and didn't really think about gay sex at all or get any urges to have gay sex.

When I realized that I really haven't been thinking about gay sex and hadn't been having any gay urges I suddenly go to the opposite side and now keep thinking about gay sex a lot and I'm a lot hornier (cus I'm hornier when I feel gay for some reason) and I'm thinking about cuddling with guys now.

I still get turned on by girls when I see them (nude or clothed) just like I got turned on by guys when I saw them (just nude).

Just thought I'd see if anyone thinks this is a bit out of the norm or whatever.
 
One thing I do know is that a lot of guys fail at dressing hot. Hot guys can look mediocre being buried under layers and layers of baggy clothes.

Girls on the other hand tend to have their tits practically popping out, and shorts that are very very short (GO AWAY CELLULITE THIGHS IN THE MALL!)
 
that's true, but I've never really found guys that I've seen in person to be all that attractive even when I saw them in the locker room w/o their shirts and pants ;)

I should also mention a part of me kinda wants to be gay, idk why but the thought of having a boyfriend can really get me off sometimes, yet at other times the idea freaks me out cus idk what I'd do w/o girls (I should also mention for those who don't' know I'm a total virgin)
 
Lewiz55 said:
that's true, but I've never really found guys that I've seen in person to be all that attractive even when I saw them in the locker room w/o their shirts and pants ;)
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Maybe you just lean more towards the girl side of things?

I'm not really sure how bisexuality works, since I'm super gay. The thought of making out with someone who can't grow facial hair and has a penis weirds me out.

Have you done anything with guys yet? Or girls?

If not, I recommend you try it, cause it's fun (I'm sure both will be fun for you).
 
I did mess around with a guy once (the guy wasn't very good so I'm not really basing anything on it) but have never been able to get anywhere with girls
 
yea it is kinda confusing at times. I just sometimes wonder if I'm actually gay or if I'be been straight all along and I'm just really kinky or which I'm more into.

(oh and I'm a bottom if that helps at all :sex: )

I also feel really happy when I'm more into boys and such (no corny pun intended :rolleyes: )
 
Well like you said, you've only been with one guy. Maybe why that's why you've been having these urges is because you want to try more.

I think you are still in the discovery phase but since you're saying guys are making you hornier, maybe you're more gay than bi.
 
arabbb said:
Well like you said, you've only been with one guy. Maybe why that's why you've been having these urges is because you want to try more.

I think you are still in the discovery phase but since you're saying guys are making you hornier, maybe you're more gay than bi.
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That has crossed my mind a bit, but I'm also a lot more emotional with girls and have more romantic feelings for girls which is something I really don't have for guys.
 
Lewiz55 said:
I know I ask about this a lot, but something different has kinda happened. I went through a period (like a month or two) where I was pretty much straight and didn't really think about gay sex at all or get any urges to have gay sex.

When I realized that I really haven't been thinking about gay sex and hadn't been having any gay urges I suddenly go to the opposite side and now keep thinking about gay sex a lot and I'm a lot hornier (cus I'm hornier when I feel gay for some reason) and I'm thinking about cuddling with guys now.

I still get turned on by girls when I see them (nude or clothed) just like I got turned on by guys when I saw them (just nude).

Just thought I'd see if anyone thinks this is a bit out of the norm or whatever.
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Well man, cannot say it's the norm for me... I've always been 100% in to guys...

But for a bi guy I guess it could be the norm.
Some bi guys lean toward guys and some toward girls. But they can still be bi. I mean they can go either way.
Guess you just have to figure out for yourself which way you want to go.
If you are just hookiing up for sex then I dont' think it really matters.... But if you want to head to a ltr... whether with a girl or guy, just be sure you have it all figured out.
Could be that will take you a long time, I don't know.
If you hookup with a bi guy or girl then all will be fine.
But if you meet a gay guy that falls in love with you, and you with him... then figure you want to move back to a girl.... well man, that is just going to hurt the b/f....
Sex for sex is fine and dandy man. Just watch out that you dont' meet a gay guy that falls in love with you and you then decide that after the fun of sex you want to leave because you'd found a cute girl you want to be with.
That's all.
 
You do realize that you don't have to choose?

Some people like vanilla ice cream. Some people like chocolate ice cream. Some people just like ice cream.

There's no reason to make it more complicated that it is. Get out there. Explore. Figure out what you want. And be safe about it.
 
KaraBulut said:
You do realize that you don't have to choose?

Some people like vanilla ice cream. Some people like chocolate ice cream. Some people just like ice cream.

There's no reason to make it more complicated that it is. Get out there. Explore. Figure out what you want. And be safe about it.
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Amen.

And just because today you like vanilla ice cream doesn't mean tomorrow you can't pick chocolate, or strawberry, or a swirl of all three.

Trying to box your sexuality as gay/straight, top/bottom, or BDSM/fetish, isn't necessary either. One month you may want one, the next month or year you might change.
 
I can tell you I was much like you lol. I did fool around with a couple of guys before (never went on to penetrate, just oral sex)and I always felt I loved it, but I also felt guys were just a sexual thing for me. A guy can turn me on with just a look. A girl on the other hand needs to work me up but for many years I believed I could only be emotionally attached to women... until I met a guy that rev'd up my gas pedal! I learned that I can feel as much love for a man as I can for a woman, although right now I think I'm pretty gay. In fact, I'm considering coming out gay in the meantime... since its more accurate than telling people I'm bi. But I've never had fear of feeling the urge to have sex with the other sex if I choose to lean towards one of them. I've found that when I'm really feeling someone, that's the ONLY person that matters in my radar. Everyone else is just pretty and has potential. But then again, it's a roller coaster and you never know what might happen :rolleyes:

I suggest you experiment. You sound pretty insecure about the whole thing, but I'm guessing it's because you haven't really tried much. Get out there, meet guys and girls and see what happens. You might just be scared of gender monogamy and can actually be faithful to one at a given point in life. Everyone reacts differently! There's no real way of saying if you'll be able to endure it or not until you give it a go. Bisexuality is really confusing. It took me months to accept I was falling for Sam and when I did, even though he's with another guy right now (read my first thread for details), I felt liberated and found another chunk of myself lying on the ground waiting to be cherished and dusted. :)
 
thanks for all the good advice everyone. One of the biggest reasons I haven't really done a lot with guys is cus I can't meet any and I haven't really told that many people about the whole bi thing (since I'm not 100% sure about it and all I don't think I should go around telling people I'm bi just in case I turn out to be straight cus they won't believe me) but whenever I meet a cute gay boy I'll be sure to have some fun with him :sex:
 
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