Another One

[dereperez]

I've had enough with dating. Just when I thought there may be something with my most current guy...he breaks it off, right before Valentine's Day (not that it would be any better if it were another day). I'm not outright sad, I'm just frustrated. This tacks on another tally to my failed relationships.

I've had plenty of short-term relationships and flings if you will, but nothing long-term. Nada. Zip. ZERO. Am I really not long-term material?

I used to think it was the other guy or girl. Or maybe it was something mutual. But now I realize it maybe is me. I treat everyone with respect, loyalty, and compassion. I don't expect to walk down the aisle or move in and have two children, a dog, and a picket fence. Not at this point in my life. But something a bit longer and stable would be just fine.

Some day...

 

[Guest]

I'm sorry to hear about this, dereperez. And as you said, regardless of the time of year, it wouldn't be easy. But right before Valentine's Day is certainly a shame.

I used to have thoughts such as yours, perhaps it is me. And then I realized, no it just wasn't meant to be. It was very difficult for me to accept that fact and in some ways still is when I think about my failed relationships, however I do feel as though that is the truth.

Stay strong, and continue searching for that person. I'm quite certain they are out there for you!

All the Best,
hopelessromantic88

 

[dereperez]

Thank you, hopelessromantic88. A good venting always feels good. I will just let things go with the flow, like I tend to. C'est la vie.

I hope you stay strong as well, my friend. Chin up!

 

[Guest]

I know the answer! Really...I do! Now make sure to jot this down and hide it somewhere because one day you will realize it was true and you will smile....

One day in the future you are going to be deliriously happy with your life...whether it be coupled or single...and you can look back and when you do you will be thankful that all of the right doors and right turns led you to that place...and things are exactly as they should be.

At one time in my life a lot of things didn't make sense...and they didn't until the thing that DID make sense happened...and then I realized that all my disappointments were necessary to bring me to the place I was at.

You will realize it one day too...I promise

In the meantime

 

[Gentleheart]

I am completely baffled that guys aren't lassoing you and holding on tight. If you're anything in RL like you are on the forums, I'd say you are quite a catch. I honestly don't think you're the problem, rather...some of the guys you're trying to work with aren't quite sure what THEY want. You know...some guys will talk a good game early on, make you feel like they really like you, want something "stable", etc...but then they see something else, just get bored, etc. and then they start fading. It's not their fault, and it's certainly not yours.

Just give it some time and you will find that right guy that is completely in sync with you and ready to go long term. Some people are incredibly fickle and change like the weather.

I suggest changing up your game a little. Go for guys that you wouldn't normally give the time of day, etc. Not saying you should go out with guys you don't find attractive...rather, zero in on qualities, quirks, etc. that you normally wouldn't. Also, if you aren't making your intentions known early on--start being more vocal about what YOU want.

Hang in there, friend. Some guy is going to be extremely fucking lucky to have you as a boyfriend/partner.

 

[Guest]

I've had the same problems. Don't know what advice to give, but I understand.

 

[Natello4]

Yep, someday. Sometimes it is better to simply relax and focus on some other things in life, improve oneself and think positively about the future. If you a searching for the significant other, it may take a longer time, but is it not worth waiting? Also, don't forget that sometimes even a smile and a positive outlook in life may attract a person you dream about. Take care.

 

[Natello4]

Sorry, pressed the button for too long.