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Another room mate situation

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...fuck this shit.. Really. Fuck it. With NO lube. This situation just needs raped 'till it's bleeding and soaked in cum.

Reflecting back to the situation with my room mate recently, I realized that we were repeating a certain .. thing.. that happened about a year ago. Basically before he got his laptop I'd come home from work and he would be sitting on his computer chatting away with someone, and finally 6 hours later he'd acknowledge my presence, then it was already too late to go out and do anything because I had to get to bed.

Some of those nights we would end up going out to this coffeehouse but he would just bring along his laptop to chat with people online, eventually wanting to leave so he could engage a more 'private' conversation with his buddylist. I assume it was some kind of cybersex type of thing, and many times I was right and upon getting this said laptop, I lost a friend in him.

From that point on all I ever really saw of him was his backside, and that glowing screen, night after night. Eventually I started getting on his case about it and that just got him pissed off, claiming that I was invading on his "me" time, then later on he would bitch at me for not knowing how to be a friend or how to talk to people or etc..

How can I be friends with a 'backside and a glowing screen'? Really? Needless to say we got into many arguments where he would try to justify his actions and claimed that he used the online world as an escape from 'me', which just flat-out crushed me. From the point he said that, it was purely war. I had even turned off the router some nights to get back at him for saying that, but he threatened to beat down the door and whatnot....

Then as time went on he eventually broke away from the laptop and made efforts to actually be a friend. We were going out more, talking more, watching movies and playing video games, and just doing what friends should do.

I had broken away from the online furry community and pretty soon things were working towards having a real life, as soon as we were moved into the new apartment all these changes were supposedly going to be made. I fail to see what has changed.

After we moved into the new apartment, we were closer than ever as friends and we were doing all sorts of things together, but then I decided to peek my nose back into the furry community just to see how things were going, then something drew me in and I started talking to more furries online, and I eventually wanted to go meet some of these people at their favorite hangout spot to see what was so special about it. Needless to say, the meet was a complete failure and my room mate had gone along, felt uncomfortable about the whole thing anyway, so we left about an hour after we got there. Yeah. Great way to kill my experiment.

Almost the following night he spent time browsing the Internet, and messaged me online. We chatted for a bit via AOL Messenger, in our separate bedrooms with the doors closed. I didn't mind at that instance, but then it started becoming a nightly thing, and now it's to the point that's the only way he has spoken to me 90% of the day, via AOL Messenger or Text Message on our cell phones. It's really upsetting me and here's why.

He proclaims that it's much easier to talk to me online than in "real life". I gave him the reverse version of that saying that the only reason he wants to talk to me via his laptop is so that he can spend time talking to his newly established buddy lists on whatever Instant Messengers he's now using, and to be honest he's spent more time in the past few weeks talking on his laptop than he has put any effort towards 'our' friendship. Literally it's like this daily.

I'll get up, go to work, and come home and if he's home he's hiding in his room, either asleep or online. As soon as he wakes up he doesn't even come out of his room to say hi to me like he used to. Pretty soon he's online and chatting away, not really saying anything to me, then out of nowhere a new message will pop up on my screen. From that point on, for the next few hours we will be chatting about nothing, work, and so on.. not that big of a deal..

..but what the big deal is that thanks to his recent habit, I've truly established that I don't have any real friends (in the flesh). I've got my co-workers but for all I know they could give a shit about me, so they don't really count as friends.

We're also in this situation where we need to find a 3rd room mate because of financial issues (thanks to my room mate's overzealous credit card spending and many many other things that our equally our own thing), and he has the connotation to bitch at ME for not putting any effort into finding someone when he's not doing anything himself. I've put effort into the search, I've found people online that could possibly fill the slot for a 3rd room mate but they've all got obstacles to overcome that makes the idea impossible.

My room mate, on the other hand would rather spend his nights flirting with people online rather than putting any effort into the search, and fully expecting me to take this as my FULL responsibity. I called him on that last night and he said to me to "shut the hell up" so I blocked his screen name on AOL and went straight to bed.

I really don't know what to make of this but I'm really getting tired of this.
 
God, your werewolf room-mate troubles are getting boring.

Everbody gives you really good advice and sympathy and then you just carry on in the same way as always.

For the love of Pete, go outside every once in awhile and actually do something with yourself and your life. Get involved in some kind of real activity and make some actual contact with people.

The room-mate sounds like a total case. Does he actually exist, or is he, as I've suspected for some time your alter-ego?
 
and you dont have to be such an asshole. I do go outside, where wuld i be taking my dog to go to the bathroom, and all those pictures I take outside, yeah.. THATS OUTSIDE. So it's bullshit that you'd even tell me to 'go outside every once in a while'.

and I've not really gotten any advice that I can take.
 
Time to get your own life. Forget him and go do your own things without him.
 
hmmm seems to be just the reasons why I left Tampa.... no one in that city has their head on straight.... and the gay community is even worse....I suspect that the coffeehouse is Sacred Grounds.... is it any wonder why he'd rather be on his laptop if thats where your going..... I feel bad for you because roommates can sometimes suck.... maybe its time for you to find someone else to be a roommate and move out....

Funny thing is I actually had the same situation when I was living down there.... I had a roommate who cut back his hours at work and spent every waking moment online.... then asked me for a loan to help pay off his mortgage because he wasn't making enough.... actually asked me to call my parents to get some money....

Sometimes mate you gotta cut your loses and move on.... its going to be hard for him to pay for his internet and the rent with such lousy credit by himself...

of course I know someone whos always looking for a roommate down in Tampa but he's a lying sack of shit who can't hold down a job for more than 6 months....of course judging by how you look it wouldn't surprise me if you already knew him....
 
ouch.......

Oh and by the way, what does ' he has the connotation to....' mean? I don't believe it is a phrase that exists in the English language....maybe it loses something in the translation from werewolf.
 
It sounds like the room-mate isn't working - in more ways than one - does he actually pay rent? There is no point in living with someone who will not communicate and with whom you have so little in common. If you're looking for a new room-mate then why not look for two and throw the room-mate out.

If you were foolish enough to commit to having both your names on the lease when you moved into the new apartment, despite knowing that the relationship was problematic, then you'll have to take a longer view. Refusing to prop your room-mate up financially or to put any further effort into finding a third room-mate would probably be the quickest way to bring this sorry state of affairs to a close and to ditch your detested room-mate ASAP.
 
Yes, my room mate DOES have a job and he's been with Radioshack since June 2005, so he's more than comfortable there right now, and he isn't cutting his hours to spend time online. He just spends more time online than he spends more time putting effort towards our friendship, or even really going out at all.

I've at least made the attempt to go hang out with people but things don't work out as planned most of the time.

As for signing the lease, at the time I wasn't aware of his detachment from reality but it became apparent afterwards before it was too late to do anything about it.

and "theFallenGod" I am not a slut, if that's what you're trying to say about me and the way that I look. I'm sorry if your image of 'fit and thin' means "slut" but that's you and your mind at work. So fuck off with that harsh imagery you're slamming onto me.
 
He seems like a lost cause. Let him be, make sure he pays his half of the rent/bills and make new friends.

There's no sense in you wasting time and energy with something you are unable to remedy.
 
If you want a serious answer to your question about your roommate, I'd have to say that friendships, like sex, have to go both ways. If one person is less interested in pursuing it than the other, it's not going to work.

For whatever reason, your buddy has decided he'd rather play with his computer than spend time with you. I'm sure that's no reflection on you, but it's a reality you have to deal with. I'd look for companionship elsewhere and just put him on hold till he gets over this phase, if he ever does.

As for helping with roommate-ly duties, that's not optional. Make it clear that he has to do his share or you'll make other arrangements.

There, is that better?
 
Sorry you read what I was saying wrong.... I never intended to even make it sound like I was calling you a slut.... NEVER.... What I meant and I should have been a little more clear is that you are the type of guy that he would normally be slobbering over which is why I said you probably already knew him.... I'm truly sorry that it came out wrong....

I realizze your a little emotional at the moment which is understandable.... but I'm sure things will work themselves out
 
Look, it's very clear that the situation between the two of you just isn't working. A friendship can't work in just one way, it has to come from both. If he doesn't want to break away from the computer, then he can't force himself to be a 'real' friend for you. He has to want it.

So my advice is to indulge your furry community with some restraint. You don't have to cut yourself off (unless it gets so bad that it's necessary), but for your own sake, try joining some real life groups that have the same interests as you. You're more than a furry, right? You're a 4-dimensional person.

That way, you can have more friends than your failed roomie and your online buddies (who are still friends, of course). You may have to accept that he's a lost cause. So find the real life interaction you need for yourself. He can only help himself.
 
So last night was an odd night for me..

He texted me asking me if I was going to let my inhibitions go, because we 'are' working on developing some friendships with people around here and felt that we wouldn't be able to hold back on having sex with any of these people, and the last time we tried this sort of thing drama ensued because I was getting upset at the time, since I had developed feelings for Chris.

I replied, telling him that we could try meeting people to have sexual interactions with together and that I hoped he wouldn't mind me having a craving for a little one-on-one with him, and he was a little surprised at how suddenly open I was about how much I loved sucking his cock. I also explained that we've been fighting too much so I felt it was just time to kick back, relax, and enjoy some cock, you know .. harmless fun and whatnot... I even promised to him that I wouldn't get attached, as I haven't really had feelings for him for awhile now. I've been able to characterize the sexual shit to the same thing it is when you see a room full of straight guys jerking off to porn.

I don't know if that's right or how long I'll be able to maintain that idea though, but I can try. Anyway, last night after the conversation I had with him, he got home from work, he watched me play Burnout then we went to the fitness center for a bit. After we got back from working out, I had made this plan to just grab his shorts and go down on him right there, but my stupid self-esteem was in the way and I ended up messaging him through the computer after we retired to our separate bedrooms.

What I did then was the strangest thing he's probably seen me do in awhile : I started begging him for cock, saying things like "Get your butt in here and make me cum", and "C'mon, it won't hurt...", and just constantly being open about the whole thing, and all he could say was "Wow". Then he asked me what my problem was , I said "I want it... bad... ", but he still kept acting like he was ignoring me... I got frustrated and simply told him "Fuck it, I'm just going to bed."


5 minutes after I had turned out my light and the computer shut down, he shows up at my door, hard as a rock and waiting patiently for me to pounce. I ended up pulling him to my bed where we proceeded to get each other off, and he's gotten much better at jerking me off dry because it used to either hurt me or take forever, but I think he's figured out the right grip and whatnot that gets me off... but I've also managed to figure out what drives him wild, and he came for what seemed like an eternity... after that he got up , wiped what cum I didn't swallow on my belly, then looked at me. I said "Well there you go..", and then he grinned and said "There, no more whining" I just laughed and went back to bed, then I texted his phone, saying "Remember when I said that you owed me? Thank you..."

So this has been interesting so far..
 
boy this is sooo sad!

Your rival is a laptop!!! (it is not even alive) #-o
 
Wow, this thread got a bit carried away, guys. I've edited out off-topic posts, unnecessary posts, rude posts, and attacks.

Remember...this is a NO FLAME ZONE and a zone in which posts must stick to topic. Please either address the topic of the thread in a civil and constructive way, or go to another thread.

Thanks.

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