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Another straight crush

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So there is a bartender/server at the local steakhouse that I’ve been crushing on for over a month.

It started out as eye contact and on occasion have caught him looking at me. Afterwards we finally meet. He from then on makes a point to shake my hand as I come in and then leave. Makes a point to acknowledge me. He doesn’t do this with other customers that I’ve seen.

Then I go in with a lady friend and get the cold shoulder.

I stay away a couple weeks. When I go back he is bartending and gives me a free drink. We are now back to friendly manner. Talking etc.

Take lady friend again- completely ignored me this time.

I can’t tell if he is even into guys but his behavior is very odd.
 
Bring a guy friend in with you and see what the behavior is.
 
Or, grab ahold of your self respect and ask him out. "...but but but he might not be gay..." Then he'll say no, problem solved - no angsty drama required.

Frankly the usual reason guys come in here looking for answers to this particular dilemma - with strangers on the internet who know neither of you and can't possibly know anything at all about it, or have anything really useful to say; is that the one guy (you) are generally pretty sure the other guy (him) isn't interested and wants someone (us) to say what he wants to hear.

This is never a drama unless you make it one. All you have to do to have all your answers is ask him.
 
...I can’t tell if he is even into guys but his behavior is very odd.
What is stopping you from introducing yourself and talking to him?

It's next to impossible to read what is going on in another person's head. He, like a lot of bartenders, may be a friendly person who acknowledges his regular customers. Or he might find you attractive. You're never going to know for sure until you talk to him and find out a little more about him.
 
hi Danielsan52,

Tell him at your next visit that he has 'nice blue eyes' (or whatever item you think makes him attractive) and see how he is reacting. You can of course also make such a remark about his clothes (in case he is not wearing 'company clothes'), and see how he is reacting .

Good luck & take care.
 
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