Anti-gay abuse

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

Have any of you ever been victims of verbal and/or physical abuse from others because of your sexuality? If so, how did you respond? How did it change your opinion of yourself (if it did)?

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[SimonSays]

Yes, I have, and it was shocking, it really took away a lot of the idealism and optimism.

 

[swerve]

I've received VERBAL abuse a LOT!!!

My inner soul feels SORRY for those throwing the insults -- and my OUTER self just giggles and carries on...

 

[jensu846]

verbal abuse. seems constant. i live in a smaller community & people know about me. I was just sitting a bar one night (waiting for a friend)& this stranger comes up to me & said, " I hear you're gay" which I said "ya". then he says "well dont go hitting on me , i hate gay people" this was completely out of the blue & so random. I was kinda stunned for a second & confused cuz I have never seen him before.
I just replied "Dont flatter yourself, you're not my type" I mean wtf was that all about?
This kinda shit always happens, I found out that people(some friends) call me Gay-Jay when i leave the room or when i am not in the room. My name is Jay-Jay.. just sucks. At least it hasnt gotten physical yet..

 

[Ryuusei Boy]

I guess if there's something good about being in the closet is that you completely avoid this stuff.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

I guess if there's something good about being in the closet is that you completely avoid this stuff.

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[Críostóir]

Well, anyone my age was either subjected to abuse of one form or another, or was in the closet until the 90s.

I was verbally abused from grade school on (I wasn't always as butch as I am today), spat on and harassed and occasionally roughed up in high school, and beaten bloody on the street in the late 80s.

The current generation of young guys doesn't know how it was for us. And that's exactly what we worked for in the 70s and 80s: a world where gay men don't have to worry about this shit. So it's OK.

 

[saymyname]

Verbal abuse and tons of it, especially where I grew up.

 

[EqualsThree]

I was getting abused verbally since I was seven. It got so bad at one point kids threw rocks at me because I was 'different'. Mind you this was because I attended a very strict catholic school and was raised as a Jehovah's Witness.

I probably should have manned up and owned who I was sexually but I didn't and remained in the closet for thirteen years.

 

[EqualsThree]

Yes but one can make the argument that that's the cowardly way out.

I wouldn't call it 'cowardly'. In some parts of the world being gay could get you killed. I don't think wearing your sexuality on your sleeve in those areas is a smart idea, so it's all about adapting to the environment you're in.

Eg. Is it 'safe' to come out? Is your life in danger if you do/don't and so on.

 

[EqualsThree]

I wasn't really talking about those kinds of environments. I'm saying that people who remain closeted and don't acknowledge who they are do a disservice to the whole point of gay liberation, which is based on coming out, not "passing" just to avoid difficult situations.

It's the flight or fight reaction that kicks in. When you're abused you either fight back or you avoid the conflict entirely. So any form of abuse triggers most people to hide in fear of who they really are.

 

[saymyname]

I guess if there's something good about being in the closet is that you completely avoid this stuff.

Oh god, hear we go again. Yeah, that's really a GOOD, POSITIVE thing that you're AVOIDING things that make you who you are and build tons of character. You avoid this stuff by giving into the social pressures and becoming a part of the problem, and taking advantage of the privilege (which is a part of the problem) that straight people have. THINK!!!

 

[EqualsThree]

Oh god, hear we go again. Yeah, that's really a GOOD, POSITIVE thing that you're AVOIDING things that make you who you are and build tons of character. You avoid this stuff by giving into the social pressures and becoming a part of the problem, and taking advantage of the privilege (which is a part of the problem) that straight people have. THINK!!!

What good comes out of all the personal suffering each and every one of us goes through?

I'd rather people stay in the closet and come out when they're ready then to have thousands upon thousands of people committing suicide because they couldn't handle the emotional turmoil that comes with being different in a world where being different is frowned upon.

 

[Críostóir]

Don't let's attack each other. That benefits our enemies.

 

[EqualsThree]

^ I'm not attacking people, I'm wondering how personal suffering somehow benefits the entire gay community?

 

[fetaby]

I wasn't really talking about those kinds of environments. I'm saying that people who remain closeted and don't acknowledge who they are do a disservice to the whole point of gay liberation, which is based on coming out, not "passing" just to avoid difficult situations.

Self acceptance is for the individual to accomplish. Once that occurs feel free to lay on the guilt trip.

 

[Críostóir]

^ I'm not attacking people, I'm wondering how personal suffering somehow benefits the entire gay community?

I wasn't really talking about you.

 

[EqualsThree]

I wasn't really talking about you.

Whoops, my bad.

 

[The Reviewer]

As a young teen, yeah there was teasing, but never abuse. I did my fair share of teasing back and making fun of others too. As an adult and in a relationship, the BF and I make it pretty damn obvious that we're a couple; we've never been harassed, mistreated or verbally abused. Mind you, we live in Asheville, so it's not something we've ever run into. That doesn't mean it never will because it really doesn't matter where you live or where you are at any given time.

 

[saymyname]

What good comes out of all the personal suffering each and every one of us goes through?

I'd rather people stay in the closet and come out when they're ready then to have thousands upon thousands of people committing suicide because they couldn't handle the emotional turmoil that comes with being different in a world where being different is frowned upon.

Yay! Love and rainbows and unicorns!

... In case you haven't noticed, we're in the middle of a civil rights struggle. I think a LOT of good came out of the personal suffering I went through. It made me a stronger person and it gave me a sense of values. Some things are worth suffering for. What good comes out of it? Oh, just having dignity, not being in denial, standing up for yourself, etc. Basic human qualities.

You also failed to address my point that staying in contributes to the problem in that you protect yourself by becoming a part of the very system that destroys you.