I think the only people that are 'weak-willed' and 'vulnerable' are those that insist on making the weak strong, on changing a word that means something negative into something positive, on somebody that just can't accept the nature of things.
Of course if I'm weak, and I hate myself- then I have no arguement right? I have nothing substantial to say, and so it must be my entire fault. What an easy way to write me off when I actually have the most correct point.
"Self-loathing gay guys" (as people so condescendingly call them) don't hate themselves. They just don't get turned on when people say how gay they are. They're not attracted to straight guys, they're just attracted to men period. And common sense.
Why can't we just man up and stop using the word 'gay?' like it means some positive self-identity. <3
I guess you have a point. Although straight male throat fuck porn will ALWAYS be hotter than gay porn, EVEN GAY MALE PORN ACTORS THEMSELVES HAVE ADMITTED THIS. AND THEY DO GAY PORN.
i still watch straight porn sometimes. however, i'm not turned on by women very much, if any. does that mean i'm in love with straight guys? No. the dynamic between a guy and a girl in porn *can* be a turn on to me, despite being gay. however, it doesn't make straight people better. take yourself for example, you seem to have a throat-fucking fetish. well, it may be rarer in gay porn, but throat fucking still exists. and even if it didn't, which it does, it doesn't have any links towards how you view straight PEOPLE and gay PEOPLE. just because you have a sexual fetish doesn't effect the people that you meet and interact with in real life. so that's a complete non-starter. a gay guy with a fetish for straight sex has nothing to do with his perceptions about a social hierarchy.
... and TRUST me, straight women do find gay guys sexually attractive. if i wanted to, i could hook up with waaaaay more women now that im out than i ever could have when i was closeted.
hmm.... no. Being gay is great, but being straight always one-ups the gay thing for many reasons .That's what its like in my own head, and i don't know how to change my brain.
I am so insecure about this, and the idea of going to a gay bar and asying im gay or a gay event is too terrifying, every therapist i said said i should do that though, but all i can think of is how hot str8 throat fuck porn is compared to politically correct gay homoerotic shit.
I guess I do feel poorly about myself, since I am gay myself but I feel these same things about other gay people. But straight guys are just so RAWWWR.
say it. say "i'm gay." outloud. or in your head. who cares if you think there's a difference between being gay and being sexually attracted to guys. the first time i said "i'm gay" outloud, i was scared, it's ok to be scared. i said "i'm gay" outloud despite the fact that i couldn't accept that i was gay at the time, and i still considered myself bi. (because heaven forbid, i just COULDN'T be gay! oh noes!)
anyways, most of us get over that with time. it seems like you aren't though, and it seems like you're trying to justify your inability to progress past that point by pretending that you're intelligent enough to discern some nuanced differences in what you are. Well, it's time to get over that, and it's time to get over yourself. you aren't overly intelligent. that's what YOU need to accept, as well as your sexuality. you could be einstein and you'd still need to 'get over' your perceived intelligence, because your arrogance seems to be a hindrance to becoming 'smarter.' as is typical of arrogance, btw.
as for gay being 'something people are made fun of for,' well, you're right. people are made fun of for being gay. but it doesn't have to be. its funny, i seem to be more popular than ever now that i'm out, perhaps its just because i'm far more confident than i was before in my interactions with others, but tbh it seems like the 'fact of being gay' itself is the reason people seem to like me even more. (i wasn't disliked previously, mind you) so whatever, if social stigma is a problem for you, fine. that DOES happen, and people ARE hated for being gay. conversely though, people are loved FOR being gay. some of my straight friends have expressed a little bit of jealousy now that every girl seems to be in love with me
so know that, know that your perceptions of what gay "is" is a narrow viewpoint, and don't just know that as you know a scientific fact that you don't have to live by, "know" it by truly experiencing it. because that narrow viewpoint of what gay is within society, isn't what i experience. if someone makes fun of me for being gay, THEY are the losers. they are the people with no friends. and they aren't that just because 'i love myself' and i can comfort myself 'in my own head,' *they're* the losers because no one likes them and their homophobic asses. that's the reality if you act like it is, and others will pick it up too, if not lead that charge for you. and if they don't, simply change your environment, because the people in your environment are then the losers. those are the people who everyone would hate if they lived anywhere else, and those are the people who everyone hates despite living thousands of miles away.
so deal with it.
