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[ImpracticalPracticality]

So,

I just came out to my Dad (like, twenty minutes ago). His reaction was nothing but positive – it makes me thankful to be brought up with parents like him. However, I’ve read in a few places that people are meant to feel somewhat relieved or happy about coming out. I don’t feel this at all. In fact I feel more anxious than before I came out. I can’t put my finger on exactly why I feel this way.. but what if it changes things between us? What if I decide tomorrow I’m not ready to come out? I don’t know... Is it normal to feel this way? Or am I just being melodramatic?
I’m sorry if something has been posted like this before but my mind is all over the joint at the moment. If so, please point me in the right direction.

Ps. And as a side note – Thank you to everyone on this forum. I’ve been lurking here for quite a few months now, and the support this community gives each other has been in part what has helped me be true to who I am.

 

[looseliam]

That's the feeling of what great things will come now that you're out.

Mazel tov!

 

[Eagle653]

Wonderful news--and congratulations!

 

[ImpracticalPracticality]

Thanks for all the replies guys

Do you plan on coming out to more people / everyone?

My mother, and a couple friends. I would have come out to my mum at the same time but she's on holidays at the moment, and it was kind of a spur of the moment thing.

I'm not planning on coming out fully at the moment due to my current plans. Im heavily into basketball and currently trying to get a scholarship to an American college. [I live in Aus.] My current team is not gay-friendly. However, I need them to get along with me and work along side me for the coming year in order to perform well enough to get a scholarship. So for now at least I have to stay closeted to the majority of people.

I feel a bit better about telling him now... But I still almost regret telling him, and half wish I left it alone. I think I'm just over thinking things and being melodramatic though. Hopefully

 

[altlover85]

I think I'm just over thinking things and being melodramatic though. Hopefully

This.

You'll be okay. Congrats on coming out!

 

[rareboy]

Congrats.

A little letdown and anxiety is not uncommon.

Relax.

Find joy.

It sounds as though your father wants you to be happy.

What a great guy.

 

[swerve]

WOW...

What a COOL dad!!!

It sounds like you'll have his support for whatever else may or MAY NOT happen down the road...

Congrats dude...

 

[ImpracticalPracticality]

Quick update.

Everythings turned out pretty well. He told me today that after going away and thinking about it that he was worried for me; incase it made my life harder with sport and in general day to day activities. At the same time he told me his love for me was unconditional.... Then proceeded to tell me to also practice safe sex ahaha.

Thanks for all the support guys, think I'll tell my mother tonight/tomorrow night if all goes according to plan.

Congrats.

A little letdown and anxiety is not uncommon.

Relax.

Thanks for that Rareboy, I was kind of thinking that I'd done something -wrong- considering that all I felt was anxiety. Glad to hear its semi-normal.

 

[rareboy]

Glad to hear that it is going okay.

Tell your dad not to worry about sports.

Most sports are totally gay.

 

[rareboy]

^ Good luck with your mom.

And be patient.

She may have a somewhat different reaction than your dad, but she'll come around when you bring home your first really great bf and she sees you happy.

 

[bankside]

Yeah it feels a bit like being on an alien spaceship for a week or two. It will pass. It is probably almost impossible to come out without instinct causing you to build up a big "fight or flight" response. It will take a little while for that to wind down but it will be fine.