Any actual straight/curious/bi guys in this forum?

[cltguy81]

Most of the threads in this forum seem to be from gay guys who are "out" to their friends asking questions about what to do with their straight friend who seems to be ok with flirting and asks for a BJ or something.

Not sure if most of the threads are fake stories or what, but I am NOT out to people and am completely straight to all of my friends and family (even give off a homophobic/straight vibe to gay people).

So how can I find buds that I can get close with or see if I can be friends with benefits without outing myself? How can I meet other guys like myself that are masculine, straight, not into the gay lifestyle or going to clubs but wanting to find others that want to share something discreetly?

 

[PhalloPhage]

Same situation here. Online sites (gay.com is a good one) are the best bet.

 

[cltguy81]

when i was younger there were opportunities for male bonding during sleepovers, etc. (in a platonic way) and in college same thing since i had a roommate and slept in the same room but now that i am in my late 20's, there is really no opportunity for meeting guys/friends or even being close with any friends other than meeting at a bar for a drink and then going to our separate houses.

 

[smoothoralbottom]

Bi closeted here. I use CL for my hookups.

 

[AsianDream]

Most of the threads in this forum seem to be from gay guys who are "out" to their friends asking questions about what to do with their straight friend who seems to be ok with flirting and asks for a BJ or something.

Not sure if most of the threads are fake stories or what, but I am NOT out to people and am completely straight to all of my friends and family (even give off a homophobic/straight vibe to gay people).

So how can I find buds that I can get close with or see if I can be friends with benefits without outing myself? How can I meet other guys like myself that are masculine, straight, not into the gay lifestyle or going to clubs but wanting to find others that want to share something discreetly?

I'm BI - but in the past was "Gay" only.

I'm not sure you giving off homophobic vibes is a good idea:

1. It's rather rude and unneccesary
2. Guys with a homophobic attidue are assumed by many people to be insecure in thier own STR8 identity

I've often found Point 2 above to be true (as in your case) - so you are actually partly "outing" yourself by giving off homophobic vibes.

As to meeting guys for sex - if you live in a major city there will be several Gay Saunas (Bathhouses) - at which you'll find a surprising number of guys who claim to be STR8 - but more than willing to have sex with you.

 

[plowboy82]

I thought the same thing. Found a guy like me "masculine, straight...." on Craigslist, been together for almost 2 years.

 

[swiss142]

same situation here too

 

[cltguy81]

I don't mean to give off straight/homophobic vibes - I've never said anything ill of gay people or used slurs or anything. One guy I knew in high school said he had a crush on me but always assumed I was 100% straight - that's all I meant.

Also, this subforum is straight/bi dudes but most posts are from guys that are "out" to friends as gay wondering if they should do something with a friend. I was just curious if there were closeted guys that did that and how it came up since there is that added need for discretion. I tried meeting people on CL, manhunt, etc. But many times when I meet the person they are effeminate, like to wear women's panties, and probably have hooked up with other guys that same day.

I'm not judging or stereotyping, just saying I haven't really found people in my situation - need to be discreet, aren't comfortable coming out, but would like male companionship and friendship.

 

[stroker]

Same shoes as you. Only 3 people know. And they are the same way that i am.

 

[killdawabbit]

Is there really a straight guy who would love to hug another guy. I'm gay. But I want a straight man to love me. I'm not a sex fiend just want male companionship. I've never had it and I crave it.
I do not want to fuck his ass. But I would like to feel his hairy chest, his pubes and dick.
How did I turn out this way?
And I love all you other gay guys.
I wanted to be straight so bad. But I couldn't. I am out to everyone now and looking for a BF.
Thanks for listening.
Love you all, Kyle

 

[Justlookinginohio]

Same here. Just looking to share pics and maybe skype on the side.

 

[JustJuice]

I'd say I'm 97% straight. The 3% of me wants cock. I'd say that the word "bicurious" would be the best description of myself. I guess my biggest issue when I become sexual with men is that most men would want more than I'd offer, resulting in disappointment for him, which would make me feel bad probably. Anyway, time will tell I guess.

 

[PoppaJunk]

I'm in the exact same boat as you. The best way is to go online and advertise for exactly what you want. There's guys out there, just like me looking for what you're looking for. I've advertised and answered ads on CL and Adult Friend Finder but it's a difficult search to find the right guy. Been looking for a few years, think I have a lead now though. Been exchanging emails with a guy for the last month, traded pics, asked questions, talked about our desires and why, etc... Going to meet sometime soon (in public) and see how it goes. So far we have the same sexual interests and needs. I wanted a monogamous FWBs (no relationship), someone to fool around with from time to time w/o worrying about the other screwing around with multiple partners, and so does he. Another one of my requirements before we have any physical contact is both getting tested and he agrees to that too. We'll see how it goes. Nothings panned out yet but this might be the situation I've been looking for. Just gotta see how we get along.
Try craigs list for starters but be sure to put up front what you want and you're expectations are.

 

[mbamike]

So how can I find buds that I can get close with or see if I can be friends with benefits without outing myself? How can I meet other guys like myself that are masculine, straight, not into the gay lifestyle or going to clubs but wanting to find others that want to share something discreetly?

I use Manhunt and Adam4Adam. There are lots of guys on there who are looking for discreet sexual encounters.

 

[MindBlast]

But many times when I meet the person they are effeminate, like to wear women's panties, and probably have hooked up with other guys that same day.

I'm not judging or stereotyping, just saying I haven't really found people in my situation - need to be discreet, aren't comfortable coming out, but would like male companionship and friendship.

Wow, you must be new/terrible at the online thing.

I'm gay, and I've never *once* met up with another gay or bi guy from online who was anything like what you're describing.

If you really want help being clear on things, PM me and I can help you set up a couple paragraphs for any profiles that you post that are much more specific to what you want.

 

[cltguy81]

Wow, you must be new/terrible at the online thing.

Here is what I recently posted on Craigslist...

Probably wasting my time posting on Craigslist, but I'm a 29yo straight/curious/bi professional average white male that is inexperienced at this type of thing but looking for a similar masculine white guy who is also "not out" to others and wants discretion as well.

I'd be up for just JO and watching porn to hanging out and grabbing a beer as two straight buds that just happen to also release stress together or just nsa oral or potentially more.

Sorry, but not interested in feminine, flamboyant, or "out" types or those that hook up with a lot of guys. I'm just a regular educated guy here with a good job and need to be safe and discreet so am looking for someone in the same situation. I'm 5'11", 240lb, stocky/few extra pounds from business travel but good looking and interested in a guy that is the same body type (not scrawny - just an average white guy or few extra pounds)

If you are in the same boat and interested, send me your info and pics and we can exchange and chat or meet up. Thanks.

And here is a selection of the replies I got...

• 65yo guy who has supposedly never been with a guy but his email address is "barebackcumslut"
• several replies that have little information and no pic but just says something like I want to be used or bend me over or I'm going to be parked in this parking lot and will take all customers
• a 350lb guy sent a pic of himself wearing a wig and lingerie and make-up
• a few replies of people that refer to their boyfriend,are out and hang out at gay clubs with their friends, wanting an orgy, or being HIV positive
• one guy trolling for pictures and when I replied and asked him to tell me a little about himself and send a pic, he said he doesn't have any and doesn't know how to take one.

 

[strangepoetry]

And here is a selection of the replies I got...

• 65yo guy who has supposedly never been with a guy but his email address is "barebackcumslut"
• several replies that have little information and no pic but just says something like I want to be used or bend me over or I'm going to be parked in this parking lot and will take all customers
• a 350lb guy sent a pic of himself wearing a wig and lingerie and make-up
• a few replies of people that refer to their boyfriend,are out and hang out at gay clubs with their friends, wanting an orgy, or being HIV positive
• one guy trolling for pictures and when I replied and asked him to tell me a little about himself and send a pic, he said he doesn't have any and doesn't know how to take one.

that made me laugh cuz that's exactly what I've always imagined happens when people post ads.
Craigslist stikes me as a creep magnet. Guess I assumed correctly.

 

[s72450]

That is sadly the basic responses you get when posting on craigslist. I've gotten many of the same. It's no fun really, especially when you're looking for a certain type.