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ryant01

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Hey y'all

Well recently I've been talking to this guy 4 years my senior, i'm 18, and hes so nice, he hasn't pressured me into anything, but recently hes kinda invited me round to his house just to watch a movie and whatever may come from it.

I really wanna go, but my insecurity is holding me back big time!

Any suggestions welcome!

Thanks (*8*)
 
Just push yourself to go. You will probably be thanking yourself later for it.
 
What are you insecure about?
 
Do you feel comfortable around him? If so, and you like the idea of fooling around with him, then give it a try. You might want to bring a couple condoms with you - you don't want to be in the heat of passion, and suddenly realize nobody's got a condom.

Lex
 
Well I've never really just met a guy before so thats why i was kinda worried.

He seems really genuine and so so hot!
 
Take him up on his offer but unless you're ready to have sex, say no. If he is a good guy, he'll support you. Also, at 22, he's likely to be a little more mature so I say go for it.
 
"As you grow older, you'll find the only things you regret are the things you didn't do."
-Zachary Scott
 
DANNO said:
I say go for it. You should know you own boundries though. Be prepared to say no or tell him you aren't comfortable with something.

You never know what will happen unless you take a chance. There is a very good chance that he is a great guy who will respect you!
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Well put.
[stands beside Danno]
 
Hey Ryan,

Welcome to JUB!!!

Have you met this guy before...in person? Have you actually seen him in real life?

My advice to you before you go to his house if this is the first time you'll actually be meeting him in person is to go to a coffee shop, the movies...somewhere neutral and almost public. Somewhere where you can size him up, look at him, listen to him, get to know him.

Sometimes online persona's are far from what people portray in real life...and I'm not suggesting that this guy is anything other than who he says he is.

But for now, with your nerves and expectations...remember that the most important thing here is you being comfortable, having fun, feeling relaxed, being respected...and most of all your safety.

Meet him out. And then when he melts your socks, make a choice about where the next step goes. But this way theres less pressure on you...less expectation. It gives you some control in the situation as well.

But most of all...have good time. Remember mate that there was a first time meeting someone for all of us. This guy likes you, he likes who you are. He sees something in you that means he wants to get to know you. Dont worry about your insecurities...hold your head high and feel proud that theres a guy who wants to take a chance on you too... he doesn't see insecurities...he sees you.

Take care Ryan. Have a really great time...be safe and cautious. But most of all...have fun.
 
tallguy297 said:
Hey Ryan,

Welcome to JUB!!!

Have you met this guy before...in person? Have you actually seen him in real life?

My advice to you before you go to his house if this is the first time you'll actually be meeting him in person is to go to a coffee shop, the movies...somewhere neutral and almost public. Somewhere where you can size him up, look at him, listen to him, get to know him.

Sometimes online persona's are far from what people portray in real life...and I'm not suggesting that this guy is anything other than who he says he is.

But for now, with your nerves and expectations...remember that the most important thing here is you being comfortable, having fun, feeling relaxed, being respected...and most of all your safety.

Meet him out. And then when he melts your socks, make a choice about where the next step goes. But this way theres less pressure on you...less expectation. It gives you some control in the situation as well.

But most of all...have good time. Remember mate that there was a first time meeting someone for all of us. This guy likes you, he likes who you are. He sees something in you that means he wants to get to know you. Dont worry about your insecurities...hold your head high and feel proud that theres a guy who wants to take a chance on you too... he doesn't see insecurities...he sees you.

Take care Ryan. Have a really great time...be safe and cautious. But most of all...have fun.
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:=D: Well said, there's nothing much I can add!

I'll just say - GO FOR IT - and you have my very best wishes!!! ;)
 
Take the chance and go for it. Just be yourself and relax.

I do agree with tallguy297. Your first meeting should be someplace public so if you get uncomfortable, you can leave. I like coffee shops or placed like Barnes & Noble.

The guy I have been seeing for the last months, we first meet at Barnes & Noble with nothing planned more than chatting. We meet at like 8pm and we closed the place at 11pm. Invited him back to my place to keep talking and he left at 530am. A very good time was had by all.
 
ryant01 said:
Well I've never really just met a guy before so thats why i was kinda worried.

He seems really genuine and so so hot!
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If it's first time jitters then I'm with everyone who's saying dive in.

For most people their biggest regrets are what they didn't do, chances they didn't take.
 
Thanks Everyone really appreciate the advice
 
Make it an absolutely compulsory routine to meet up in public first with every single guy, you get to know over the net.

Almost everyone agrees that this now a standard of behavior and nothing more or less is expected as a rule.

If a dude refuses to meet in public first, chances are that something is mightily wrong. You do not want to take such risks and you do not want to make any exceptions to that rule either.

Keep in mind that only the paranoid really survive.

Having said all that, I still see no reason for you not to meet up and enjoy whatever may come next.

SC
 
Well I kinda already know him! Kinda only talked over the net and texting but i've sen him in town and his workplace
 
Hey Ryan,

Well mate...I would still suggest a public meeting as the initial point of personal contact.

The reality is that the vast majority of guys are just normal everyday people like you trying to go forward and trying to meet people who might share in their lives. Theres no way that anyone here is suggesting that your friend is anything other than a decent respectable guy.

But ultimately this is your safety here, and peoples persona's being at work, in public or on the net CAN be different in personal and intimate situations.

For the sake of a little get to know you time...have a cup of coffee together. Its far easier to back off if you dont click or get the wrong vibes from a situation like that than if you were at his house.

Dont go into this thinking its going to be a disaster and this guys a psycho...but dont go into it without considering what might be.

You should be your first priority...you should always feel safe and confident in your security. Give yourself some time to assess him and the situation....then mate, the next move is up to you.
 
Yeah, I agree with Tallguy. Still meet in a public place. It will give you an advantage if something doesn't go as expected.

I think he'll understand this request. Its a very common way of meeting someone you've met online.
 
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