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Hello everyone, i have sorta been struggling with wanting to look better and maybe eventually look nice enough to talk to people because i feel insecure about my body/clothes and i think if i attempt to fix the things im insecure about i can talk to people and get out of my bubble.

I have been sorta on a health journey because i am pre diabetic so ive been trying to drink more water and move around more but my weight fluctuates i try to keep up with stuff the lowest ive gotten was 195 but idk im trying not to get discouraged because i know its normal for it to happen but i have been slacking on forming better habits as of late and need to attempt to go back to healthier habits i try to do.
 
Do you have male gay friends or female friends that you trust to give you frank feedback?

It is very difficult to have an objective opinion of yourself. Start with finding people to help you update the superficial stuff- a new haircut, basic grooming, finding clothes that are the most flattering.

For health, especially for someone at risk for metabolic syndrome, jt takes a bit more work and it depends on your overall health status. Start with talking to your PCP and an annual physical. If you have friends or coworkers who enjoy walking, begin with joining a coworker for a break to take a short walk a couple of times a day.

If you have friends who enjoy wallking or getting outdoors, make arrangements to take a walk in your neighborhood, a public park or for an outdoor hike. It's a good way to socialize but when you make a commitment to join another person, it makes it more likely that you'll follow through. If you have a dog, take the dog for a walk.

As you trim down, you can add longer walks, short runs, working out with weights, etc. Start slow and ask your cardiovascular strength develops, you can add more activities- alone or with friends. The key is to make it part of your daily routine, like brushing your teeth or making dinner. It's rought at first but as you lose weight and your energy level improves, you'll find it easier as time goes on.
 
KaraBulut said:
Do you have male gay friends or female friends that you trust to give you frank feedback?

It is very difficult to have an objective opinion of yourself. Start with finding people to help you update the superficial stuff- a new haircut, basic grooming, finding clothes that are the most flattering.

For health, especially for someone at risk for metabolic syndrome, jt takes a bit more work and it depends on your overall health status. Start with talking to your PCP and an annual physical. If you have friends or coworkers who enjoy walking, begin with joining a coworker for a break to take a short walk a couple of times a day.

If you have friends who enjoy wallking or getting outdoors, make arrangements to take a walk in your neighborhood, a public park or for an outdoor hike. It's a good way to socialize but when you make a commitment to join another person, it makes it more likely that you'll follow through. If you have a dog, take the dog for a walk.

As you trim down, you can add longer walks, short runs, working out with weights, etc. Start slow and ask your cardiovascular strength develops, you can add more activities- alone or with friends. The key is to make it part of your daily routine, like brushing your teeth or making dinner. It's rought at first but as you lose weight and your energy level improves, you'll find it easier as time goes on.
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In person i dont have many friends at least not yet but i do have friends online im sure i could ask them what would look good on me.
but i have went to my doctors but i am healthy for the most part but i just need to be more consistent with it.
I feel like i could attempt to walk by myself i do walk with my cousins/siblings around the neighborhood since i don't have friends who are usually busy with work/school.

but thank you i will try to take this into account and attempt to get outdoors
 
Agreed about working in some more out doors cardio. The biggest thing for me was finding stuff I enjoy doing makes it less of a chore and I was more likely to be consistent. Variety in activities can also be helpful.

If your concerned about other aspects as silly as it might sound try AI. I uploaded a picture of myself and asked ChatGPT to show me with different haircuts and facial hair. I’m rocking a mustache now because of it. lol

Lastly it’s hard to believe, but most people are much harder on themselves and assume the worst in other people’s thoughts on them. I’m sure you’re a lot more handsome than you give yourself credit for.
 
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