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Any advice???

Let him have fun with friends who only care just enough about him. He obviously never knew what it meant to be a friend. let him wallow in his own misery and die in his own misery.

Live life, buddy. You've let an asswipe waste your friendship. It's time to get the good stuff you deserve.
 
Hey thanks guys for your advice. I have been really adamant on not calling him or talking to him. I'm staying as far away as I can (which is pretty far) It's weird not seeing him everyday, I feel like something is missing. BUT, I don't miss the month of criticism, name calling, and condescension. He still tells me he doesn't care if he has any friends, but he still calls me to whine about his soon to be ex-wife and once to yell about how everyone talks to me but not him. (I can't imagine why no one wants to talk to him! ;) )

Some days I don't feel like I'm doing the right thing because we had 10 years and like 8 months of normalcy. I agree that if I don't make a stand now, it will only continue and/or get worse.

If he levels out, do I reintergrate him back into my life? Or just file him away for good? I'm pretty sure I need an apology of epic proportions and a long, long time after to start to get over the things he said.

I've also not been wallowing. I've been doing a lot of work and when my brother invites me to do something I go. I've been bowling quite a bit. Gotten pretty good too!
 
Keep him out of your life. I don't see his behaviour changing permanently anyway.

Just my 3 cents.
 
keep him out of your life. minus one friend, as they say. don't be a martyr. it is not your obligation to be a sounding board. unless you enjoy being his undervalued friend, it is plain as day that you have to extricate yourself from that absurd friendship. ;-)
 
>>>If he levels out, do I reintergrate him back into my life? Or just file him away for good?

I'd leave that up to you. If he does calm down, if he does seem apologetic, and you're willing to give him another chance, then do so. But keep him at arm's length for awhile until he's proven himself to be an actual friend. But yeah, he's going to have to do a LOT of apologizing. More likely, he'll just gradually fade away. And luckily, you seem like you can handle that. Good for you. ..|

Lex
 
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