Any help would be appreciated

[xtreme1983]

Hey everyone,

Ok here is my situation, about 7 years ago I had my first guy/guy expierence. I was curious and met this guy and I must say it wasnt enjoyable. He was 9 inches and a dominate top, I didnt tell him I was new to the whole thing and he really hurt me when he fucked me. A few years later I tried again and this time the guy I met was very nice and treated me right and although I enjoyed it I was very nervous and didnt go as far as I wanted to. He had a beautiful cock and he was a bottom so I got to top and it felt really good.

I havent had sex with a guy in a long time and I thought it was just curiosity. I am married and my wife doesnt know this ever happened.

Lately I have been looking at more and more gay porn and finding myself aroused by it. I know I am not gay because I love women, but these feelings keep coming up and sometimes when I jack off I think back to the enjoyable expierence I had with that guy. I dont know what to do and I seriously need advise because I would like to try again but I dont want to cheat and risk everything I have.

 

[G-Lexington]

Here are your options.

* Remain faithful with your wife, and keep it a fantasy.
* Admit to your wife that you're interested in having sex with men, even though you're not gay.
* Cheat on your wife.
* Divorce your wife and experiment all you want.

You say you don't want to do option 3, and I would highly recommend against it as well. That leaves three more options open to you.

Lex

 

[xtreme1983]

is it safe to say that I am bisexual since I have had 2 same sex encounters and that cock turns me on?

 

[G-Lexington]

There's that waterfowl that noelie was alluding to...

Lex

 

[Just_Believe18]

With the exception of Option #3, I would advise you follow Lexington's choices.

 

[alley]

Xteme---I really feel for your situation. I was married for many years and have finally just come out this year--after we separated. I had never been with anyone but my wife until then, the first time I was with a man it was a revelation. I do like women as well, but the attraction is no where as strong as what I feel for men. I wish that I had been strong enough back when I was 25 to let my wife know that things were not working and to be true to myself. I sometimes feel like I wasted so many years trying to make a relationship stay together that should have ended years ago---for both of our sakes.

I don't know what the relationship is like between you and your wife--but I hope that you would end things with her if you plan on being with more men.

 

[KaraBulut]

I know I am not gay because I love women,

Sexuality seems to be the one place in our lives where everything has to be black or white. Very few people are 100% straight or 100% gay- most people have some degree of attraction to both sexes, however we still cling to the idea that we're either gay OR straight.

But labels aren't the big issue for you. The big issue is that you're a married man who is interested in sex with other men. Unfortunately, there's not much that your wife can do to satisfy that interest, so you're placed in the unfortunate position of being unfaithful to her.

The price for infidelity- either with a woman or a man- is very high. And it's very difficult to provide advice to someone who is still sorting out their feelings.

Your attraction to men is something that you're going to have to work through. And only you can decide whether having affairs with men is worth the risk of ending your marriage if your wife finds out.

 

[unloadonme]

Well, I've never been near a woman so I can't hold forth about that, but after what happened earlier I think I can safely say you ain't no straight boy.