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I’ve always been fine with any form of sexuality. Straight, gay, bi whatever, even as I learned about sexuality I was never bothered by any of this. Anybody remember the TV show Oz? I remember watching it with a few friends who would always flip out when there was male nudity. I never had an issue. I’ve never had an issue with male or female nudity.

So I’m very open. However I am a little confused. I find myself attracted to both sexes but I’ve never found myself with deep feelings for another guy. I may like him as a person but I never saw myself loving him (love in a friend way nothing more) whereas I’ve had those feelings for women. I’ve done the whole sexting with guys and girls before. Back in February (maybe late January), I met a guy on a dating site. I was attracted to him. We had some messages, phone, texts. We’re both adults so at some point it turned sexual. That lead to him driving down to where I’m at, we met up, found an isolated place and I ended up sucking his dick. I should mention that was the first time I did that.

In case anyone is wondering, yeah I enjoyed the act. After that though we didn’t talk as much. To some degree I guess he got what he wanted. But I was ok with that as even though I liked him, I never felt it was ever gonna go anywhere. Since that night I’ve chatted with both genders (though with everything going on it isn’t wise to meet people just yet).

What does everyone here make out of this?? Is it normal I can have sexual attraction to men, act upon it, but yet never feel anything more then just a friend? I met a girl back in October. Fell hard and fast for her, only to be left with a broken heart. I still miss her from time to time. Those feelings I’ve never felt for a guy. No matter how hard I tried I just couldn’t feel anything more than attraction.

So any thoughts? Can that change? If I can get with a guy, get hard at seeing nude men, is it possible for me to ever feel more as it’s been years since I first sexted with a guy, even after blowing a guy which I liked but yet still didn’t feel anything besides thinking he was cool guy
 
From your post all romantic and physical attraction lean towards women but you like to have that occasional arousal and fun play with men. IMO, I don't think your're even bi. You just like to have that occasional sexual fling with a guy with no romantic strings attached because none is there. So I wouldn't worry about it. There are guys like you out there. Trust me.

I've had sex with straight guys. Mostly blowjobs. They want that sexual thrill but would never, ever, be seen with a guy romantically or want any more than that. Some were even married to women. Their feelings are 99.99% with women. They just wanted to get off.
 
Well in the very least I would say bi. I mean I can’t think of many straight guys that suck dick lol. I do seem to connect more on a deeper level with women, though unfortunately I often meet the worst of the worst lol but that’s another subject. But thus far I’ve never met a guy that I developed any deep feelings for. I may have like him but not in a way that I wanted to be in a relationship. I suppose however one day that could change perhaps. The complicated part is I’ve had my emotions played with the last girl I was somewhat involved with did that to me yet I’m the bad guy some how. So I don’t wanna play with someone’s emotions (not that I would do that on purpose)

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Well in the very least I would say bi. I mean I can’t think of many straight guys that suck dick lol. I do seem to connect more on a deeper level with women, though unfortunately I often meet the worst of the worst lol but that’s another subject. But thus far I’ve never met a guy that I developed any deep feelings for. I may have like him but not in a way that I wanted to be in a relationship. I suppose however one day that could change perhaps. The complicated part is I’ve had my emotions played with the last girl I was somewhat involved with did that to me yet I’m the bad guy some how. So I don’t wanna play with someone’s emotions (not that I would do that on purpose)
 
I wouldn't call yourself bisexual just yet. Keep thinking things through. You could be reacting in a way that because you were hurt by a woman you began to reach out towards men as a safer way of sexual intimacy. The sex drive is there but there are no romantic emotions involved with other guys as you have said. No emotional attachments mean no pain can be inflicted upon you. A lot of straight men I've known have done this. Sometimes they do it once. Sometimes they do it a few times. But they would never call themselves bi.

Again, forget the labels for now and work out your feelings. In the end you could be somewhat sexually attached to men but you lean predominately towards women for sex and romance. And there is nothing wrong with that. :wink:
 
I can say what happened had nothing to do with the girl. I knew by November it wasn’t going anywhere. This happened sometime in January by that point I more or less moved on even if still sometimes talking to her (I was holding on to the person I first met not who she was. Bad habit).

The one thing you’re spot on about though is with a guy I won’t get hurt. At least as of now.
 
DWK79 said:
The one thing you’re spot on about though is with a guy I won’t get hurt. At least as of now.
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Don't let that be the only determination that might make you believe your bisexual. Guys can be very hurtful too. I know. My last relationship hurt me so bad I didn't date for years. I wanted nothing to do with any romantic/sexual relationship because the hurt and the pain was so bad that I threatened to leave Vegas and go back to LA. I have had family and friends over the years, set me up on dates, tell me people are interested in me and checking me out, but I wanted nothing to do with dating. I wanted to remain in my safe space. Now, I regret wasting all those years.

I had truly fallen in love with the guy. He was HIV+ and he told me we could never have sex because he didn't want to infect me. But I didn't care. And for me to say that was shocking because I'm a very sexual being. But I loved him and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. One day he told me over the phone he had been dating someone else behind my back and decided he wanted to be with the other guy. Within a few days he moved in with him. Several months later he came home to find his boyfriend in bed with another guy. HA!

Karma is a bitch I tell you! :badgrin:
 
From what you said it sounds like your trying to figure out what you like more of women or guys and it's how you feel towards that person weather sexually or just for fun times.
 
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