Any married / committed gay couples here?

[lefingum]

I'm just asking. Any couple here who are married or committed and monogamous?

I want to be in a committed relationship (and if possible, get married) but it seems every gay man around me is just after the 'sex' bit. That's OK, that's their choice, but why is the relationship part seem so less around guys here? Maybe it's because people know sustaining a gay relationship in a country where homosexuality is criminalized is nearly impossible. I don't know really. I just hope (for my, and people like me, sake) that gay guys around the other parts of the world are more diverse.

The few gay relationships I know of from online communities, seems to break apart very easily from my experience. Again, my perspective is based off of my personal experience -- I am not claiming them to be facts.

I just wanted to ask -- is there anyone here who is in a relaticommitted relationship and happy? (by happy, I don't mean the fairy tale-ish happy, but overall happy?) Is it possible to sustain a marriage or a long-term committed relatotionship? Is it just a myth or not? I know a "happy marriage" is rare, but they are not exactly nonexistent. And to those of you who are single, when you do get into a relationship some day or would you rather be single?

Just answers needed. Not a topic for "debate" whether commitment is good or not or whether gays are more or less committed etc.

Personally, if I find the right guy and love him and he loves me back, I'd rather be in a relationship, despite the problems that come with it, and try my best to make it work.

 

[eastofeden]

I was definitely one of the "only after sex guys" and I thoroughly enjoyed recreational no strings attached sex...and I have had a great relationship now in my 28th year...and I am extremely happy in my relationship.

Moral of story...maybe some of the guys who want sex might be the same guy who falls in love with you. I certainly was not looking for a relationship (EEK) but when a guy steals your heart...well...

 

[Rolyo85]

I was definitely one of the "only after sex guys" and I thoroughly enjoyed recreational no strings attached sex...and I have had a great relationship now in my 28th year...and I am extremely happy in my relationship.

Moral of story...maybe some of the guys who want sex might be the same guy who falls in love with you. I certainly was not looking for a relationship (EEK) but when a guy steals your heart...well...

Yeah. I am currently single, but my happiest relationship started as purely a hook up. It's not an either/or thing and casual sex has been an outlet for building things for me for years.

 

[Ontariobear]

Then we're rare. Married and happy together for over 6 years. Own our home and planning for retirement. Possibly growing a little older might be the reason that some men are truly ready to "settle down".

 

[G-Lexington]

Been together almost 16 years now.

I keep running into guys who want to settle down because "I don't want to die alone". I always found that weird. What are you going to do - move in, then commit suicide so you die before the other guy dies and "leaves you alone"?

Lex

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Been together almost 16 years now.

I keep running into guys who want to settle down because "I don't want to die alone". I always found that weird. What are you going to do - move in, then commit suicide so you die before the other guy dies and "leaves you alone"?

Lex

 

[eastofeden]

Then we're rare. Married and happy together for over 6 years. Own our home and planning for retirement. Possibly growing a little older might be the reason that some men are truly ready to "settle down".

Possibly for some men.....fear would be the last motivating factor for others of us. I think a foundation of fear may very well be the worst foundation for a relationship.

 

[rareboy]

32 years.

Yes Virginia, there is a relationship fairy.

 

[The big yin]

I proposed to my now fiance in May this year. We've been together about 2years and we just click. Don't get me wrong the sex is great but its not the most important thing. We laugh, argue, comfort and overall are happy so I'd say it is a possibility.

I do live in Scotland and no one tends to give a shit about other peoples orientation.

 

[FPNY]

ive been with my partner for 32 years. we're getting married on New Years Eve...

 

[Alnitak]

Not married but I've been with my bf over four years and not open.

The US has had hundreds of thousands of legal same sex unions, but obviously some of those will not be monogamous. Most same sex marriages are lesbian though.

 

[Maklaar13]

We have been together for 30 years, it also started as a bar hook up. I was not looking nor interested in any type of committed or monogamous relationship when we met, that change very quickly as we got to know each other better. There have been some bumps throughout the years, but I must say that we have a mutual respect and admiration for each other, we have also worked on making our dreams and goals come true whether personal ones or things that we wanted as a couple. We enjoy each others company and are very deeply enamored with each other and have a great sex life. There is no relationship fairy, all of these things we have accomplish by being good friends, getting to know each other and supporting one another through thick or thin.

Like someone else mentioned, when someone steals your heart in the right way that is when the magic begins. I feel blessed to lay next to him every night and to wake up thinking about him. To this day we talk on the phone or text several times a day, we manage our household together and we are never short on conversations, whether it is about our future, our pets or the theory of relativity, we do talk about everything.

Hope this enlightens some of you who may think a long lasting relationship is unattainable.

 

[m1thousand]

applause @ the couples

Great job!!

 

[Alnitak]

Seriously for the decades+ guys. Congrats.

 

[ibill1]

As Lex said about dying alone, it makes no sense. I met Steve at 17 and we were together for 34 yrs. Guess what? He passed away and I'll probably still die alone except for family and friends. One is going to die alone without the other unless you both go at the same time. I considered making that happen the morning I found him dead but that was grief and shock mostly. I'm fine with dying alone since I had all those wonderful years with him. I got to spend his last evening on this earth with him and I'm grateful for that. I'm glad he didn't have to die alone, I'd rather me be left behind instead of him. I really don't think he could have handled it if I went first. My family and friends are in complete agreement with me on this.

 

[The big yin]

As Lex said about dying alone, it makes no sense. I met Steve at 17 and we were together for 34 yrs. Guess what? He passed away and I'll probably still die alone except for family and friends. One is going to die alone without the other unless you both go at the same time. I considered making that happen the morning I found him dead but that was grief and shock mostly. I'm fine with dying alone since I had all those wonderful years with him. I got to spend his last evening on this earth with him and I'm grateful for that. I'm glad he didn't have to die alone, I'd rather me be left behind instead of him. I really don't think he could have handled it if I went first. My family and friends are in complete agreement with me on this.

That was very touching dood, my condolences.

 

[racer2438]

We are married.....love it too..

We have been together for 29-1/2yrs and we just got married this last August 7th 2013....so looking forward to our 30th year together August 6th. My honey tried to arrange the marriage date the same as when we met but they had no opening so the next day was our day.

I love him so much that I have no idea what I would do w/o him....

love you--Boo-

 

[agayguy]

We've been together 25 years, going on 26 next spring. Been through a heck of a lot, but it has been worth it. It's not perfect, but I wouldn't give it up for anything. We're good to each other.

 

[CowboyBob]

I was in a committed relationship for 20 years until my companion Dan died January 2008. We spent almost every waking minute together all that time. God I miss him!

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

I have been in a relationship with him for 8 years and it feels like I love him more and more everyday. We are not married but we are planning on it.

I feel real lucky that I met him and that we git together.

 

[Latimer]

My partner and I met when we were barely 24 years old, and 14 years into a committed relationship we continue to love each other, sometimes more, sometimes less, but through highs and lows the love continues. Likewise the happiness--but then happiness is like that. Life is extraordinarily good for us.

Our relationship was and is open--I can't imagine that it would have survived the first 10 years unless we had allowed ourselves experiences with other men.