Any other bi guys?

[outlandish]

So i was kind of dating this guy for a while and he was out. I told him i was bi, but the whole time we were together, it was like he was basically trying to get me to say i was gay and not bi. and when we broke things off he was saying how it was just me being scared about being gay and shit. So i guess what im trying to ask is, how confident are you in your bisexuality? Or what do you think about bisexuality? because i know theres a bit of a stigma about it. and im pretty confident in mine. i still get aroused by girls. but certainly do get aroused by guys as well. i just don't understand why so many gay guys think that every guy they meet are gay or that there is no in between.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Insecurities makes people do funny things sometimes. I think psychologically it was the only way he could deal with aspects he couldn't understand that you were attracted to that he felt he couldn't compete with.

 

[itsmeagain]

sexuality is infinite

 

[umjreon88]

I'd date you Outlandish, I know bisexuality is not a curse and we should celebrate the diversity that is Sexual Attraction!

 

[MatttheBruinsfan]

He may have only previously run into gay men who were using a cover of bisexuality to test the waters rather than those who were genuinely bisexual. There's a reason the community has the saying "bi now, gay later." Though ironically there are probably a lot more bi men than gay overall, even if most of the former pretend to be straight.

In any event, you seem to be confident in your sexuality, which is a good thing regardless of how others react. Better luck on finding someone who'll take you at your word and appreciate you for who you are.

 

[blackbeltninja]

He may have only previously run into gay men who were using a cover of bisexuality to test the waters rather than those who were genuinely bisexual. There's a reason the community has the saying "bi now, gay later." Though ironically there are probably a lot more bi men than gay overall, even if most of the former pretend to be straight.

In any event, you seem to be confident in your sexuality, which is a good thing regardless of how others react. Better luck on finding someone who'll take you at your word and appreciate you for who you are.

Yes: stereotyping and prejudice.

-d-

 

[toogood4u2have]

So i was kind of dating this guy for a while and he was out. I told him i was bi, but the whole time we were together, it was like he was basically trying to get me to say i was gay and not bi. and when we broke things off he was saying how it was just me being scared about being gay and shit. So i guess what im trying to ask is, how confident are you in your bisexuality? Or what do you think about bisexuality? because i know theres a bit of a stigma about it. and im pretty confident in mine. i still get aroused by girls. but certainly do get aroused by guys as well. i just don't understand why so many gay guys think that every guy they meet are gay or that there is no in between.

My ex was the same way, we ended up splitting and all of a sudden I told him I was fully gay in our relationship :/. Wishful thinking. Men are great, but I love pussy too.

 

[bijaxfl]

Its not just "the gay community" it is society in general. If you jerked off with a friend as a teenager some people would label you as gay even if that was all you ever did with another male. Its sort of like the "one drop" rule of racial categorization.

The most sensible explanation to me is sexuality is on a continuum. Very few totally hetero or homo,,, most of us are somewhere in the middle. I know for me the attraction to men and women waxes and wanes. Sometimes I feel stronger toward women sometime more towards men

 

[HunterM]

When you say you're bi, there are people (gay men and straight women) think you have a tendency to cheat on them with the other sex. I think it's because of their own insecurities more than anything else. They forget that there are plenty of gay men cheating on gay men with other gay men...or plenty of straight men cheating on their girlfriends or wives with other women.

 

[chewchilla]

sexuality is infinite

Now that's the ticket!

 

[Chiboi115]

I will use the terms interchangeably, depending on the context/situation; as the common understanding of linguistic terminology hasn't evolved such that the term "homoflexible" is commonly known/understood.

So sometimes I'll use the word "gay," sometimes the word "bi," but often just the description "Oh, there's a little stripe of straight in my personal rainbow." Sometimes I'll get these "Oh, yeah, you are technically bi" comments.

I'm open to fooling around with a girl if the right situation were to present itself, but only if she's truly accepting of who I truly am.

 

[LAPan75]

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Every Human is Bi, it just depends upon what level.

Gay............Bisexual............Straight
-∞........................0.........................∞

The idea that anyone is 100% Gay or 100% Straight is probably a myth.
So if anyone was in denial, it was him.

Then there are those who are Bi+ or Pansexual.​

`

 

[willhunt]

Life is often messy and not so orderly. Do not mindfuck yourself. If you find someone attractive and they are willing, have safe sex with them. It is not about the labels, it is about life and enjoying your sexuality. If someone has a hard time pinning you down...that's their problem. Go play safely and do not worry. We do not agonize whether we're left footed, or right footed, because it doesn't matter. Enjoy yourself and those who will share themselves with you. A rose by any other name would smell as sweet. Be sweet.

 

[MatttheBruinsfan]

But the original poster was talking about issues in a former relationship, not a series of hedonistic sexual encounters. In a relationship it's important to share your feelings and reveal things about yourself, and ideally those feelings and revelations should be respected and appreciated by the partner you're sharing with.

 

[chewchilla]

Who cares, if you like both sexes then go for it! I can be attracted to both sexes, well a certain type of guy anyway......but I feel lucky to have so many choices out there. If this is just a sex thing remember: An orgasm is an orgasm. Why people get hung up on things is a mystery.

 

[mnpervert]

I have been told by gay men that there is no Bi I must be gay. I was called a Fence Sitter and some other names but that was quite a few years ago. Sexuality has been more and more in the forefront and eveyone being accepted.
I am turned on equally by men or women, I have dated both I have lived with both. I get aroused by beautiful women and hot guys just the same.