Any straight fucked their gf gay friend?

[kel0078]

I don't see myself being labeled (gay, bi, straight). It's all natural.

 

[Marksman]

I guess my mistake in thinking you consider(ed) yourself gay was the title you gave this thread: "Any straight fucked their gf gay friend?". Maybe you meant you only wanted straight guys to respond.

What do you mean: "I don't see myself being labeled (gay, bi, straight)." except for asexual, that's basically all the categories there can be for human-oriented sex. What you said is like someone saying 'I don't see myself being labeled (vegetarian, omnivorous, carnivorous). It's all natural.' Not wanting to label yourself doesn't mean there isn't a correct label. It maybe more straight forward to say something like 'I don't want to say', or 'I'm too confused to know how I really feel'. Trying to reject labels as if descriptive language is somehow unnatural and the unknown is a claim to what's natural just makes you look like someone with something to hide. You're not, are you?

I think what he means is that he would rather be seen as a person and not as a mere sexual orientation. we may have the tendency to dehumanize people that way, instead of evaluating them based on character or personality.

 

[MrBarbrey]

No,Can't say that i have

 

[Marksman]

My gf went to Europe for the summer. Her best friend (is gay) and I started to hang out. Long story short, we messed around. We messed around alot. I tried to end it but I keep going back for more. Anyone in the same boat?

What's your purpose for starting this thread? Are you feeling guilty for being in this situation, or are you just happy to share it?

There are underlying issues here. The first is about faithfulness because you are in a committed relationship.

"I understand you're a guy, do what you want; just don't let me find out."

Don't use those words to justify your actions. If you loved her you would stop what you were doing. Gay or not you are CHEATING ON HER with her "best friend." In my opinion you're a total douche bag.

The second issue is your sexuality. You didn't really tell us how this all started or what you were doing that led to it. Was there any physical attraction to this so-called best friend before it happened?

"Yes to him, because I see him daily. Yes, to my gf, we don't see/talk as often. "

I think at this point you're more attracted to the friend but are just keeping the girlfriend to keep your "straight" label.

 

[kel0078]

Thanks again. Label me what ever you want. Maybe I do have something to hide. Maybe I am feeling guilty. I am a "Cheater", and "douche bag". You all answered my question. People will be judged regardless.

 

[Ninjitsu]

I'm also concerned that you cheated, period. Doesn't matter if it was with another girl or a guy. Cheating is cheating. And if you cheated this time, you'll be tempted to do it again. And until you find some way to deal with it, you will never be able to maintain a healthy relationship.

Quite the sticky situation. In more ways than one.

 

[MrXane]

My advice: do what you want to do and don't do what you'll regret...
'Cause when I am on my death-bed, I really don't want to say things like: 'If i only had done... ' or ' why i never...'
Enjoy life and don't mind too much what other people think....

 

[Ninjitsu]

You end up hurting other people that way.

I'm all for living your life the way you want it, but when it involves the emotional and physical well-being of other people, you need to follow boundaries. If the only person you hurt is yourself, then that's your prerogative. Otherwise, check your selfishness at the door.

 

[Rex]

No,Can't say that i have

I think in your case you experimented with the girl's gay friend but it didn't end in fucking.

 

[stripes]

Trying to reject labels as if descriptive language is somehow unnatural and the unknown is a claim to what's natural just makes you look like someone with something to hide

that's a load of shit. not everyone feels the need to categorise everything. sometimes things aren't black and white

 

[jamessmith08]

Thanks again. Label me what ever you want. Maybe I do have something to hide. Maybe I am feeling guilty. I am a "Cheater", and "douche bag". You all answered my question. People will be judged regardless.

why can't i meet straight guys like you? How often do you have sex with him? what do you do?

 

[esteboner]

Trying to reject labels as if descriptive language is somehow unnatural and the unknown is a claim to what's natural just makes you look like someone with something to hide. You're not, are you?

LABELS ARE UNNATURAL. LANGUAGE IS UNNATURAL. WITHOUT PARENTS AND SOCIETY TO TEACH IT TO YOU AND WHAT IT MEANS YOU WOULDN'T DEVELOPE NORMATIVE LANGUAGE SKILLS ON YOUR OWN. SO WHAT IS THE HARM IN REJECTING LABELS? OR COMMING UP WITH NEW ONES? LANGUAGE ISN'T SATIC IT'S EVOLUTIONARY.

 

[kel0078]

TO ALL:
THANKS FOR ALL YOUR COMMENTS. IT'S TRUE WHAT THEY SAY, " OUT SIGHT, OUT OF MIND". MY GIRLFRIEND WHO IS STUDYING OVERSEA HAVE DECIDED TO REMAIN IN EUROPE AND PERSUE HER MASTER STUDY. WE DECIDED THAT IT'S NOT FAIR FOR US TO CONTINUE THIS LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP. IT'S A MUTUAL PARTING. I'M GRADUATING NEXT SPRING AND MOVING ON ...

 

[sexyjayy]

i was bi-curious and my gf came over with her gay friend who i was cool with. She didnt know i was curious, and we got in an arguement over sumthing stupid and she left and he stayed.

I asked him how gay sex was and i replied with "awsesome, why u wanna try it?" i said yes.

Then I sucked him and fucked him, then he fucked me.

I broke up with her a week later and had sex with him only twice after.

that was my first intercourse w/ a guy

 

[silver098]

I think you need to break up with your girlfriend now because cheating is wrong and if you like her at all, you shouldnt be screwing her friend behind her back. I would sit your girlfriend down and just say you have been going through a bad time and your not sure if your gay or not. Be honest, but be honest without saying 'oh btw im fucking your best friend lol'.

 

[AngelFromAbove]

I think you need to break up with your girlfriend now because cheating is wrong and if you like her at all, you shouldnt be screwing her friend behind her back. I would sit your girlfriend down and just say you have been going through a bad time and your not sure if your gay or not. Be honest, but be honest without saying 'oh btw im fucking your best friend lol'.

This thread died a few weeks ago. He already brought the story to a conclusion.

 

[covert boy]

do wheat you know is right and i am in the same boat i have a striaght friend who is my roomate i blow him off in his bed as he sleeps. when his grilfriend is gone i take over.

 

[banpei]

my best straight friend fucked me twice.
the first time he was a bit drunk nut the second time he knew what he was doing