Any video's showing how to have anal sex?

[Kyle3000]

I've looked online and can't find anything apart from porn which doesn't properly show.

I've been getting close with someone (my first one) and we tried it 4 times now and the first 2 just failed (lol) and the two recent ones, I got half way in (we took it slow and I got to four fingers before that) and it just hurt him everytime it went further even though we used lube and he couldn't take it anymore, even though he was masturbating which usually takes the pain away.

We tried the doggy position, and missionary and even (I forget the name) where you go side by side.

But no luck.

Are there any demonstration videos anywhere online?

Thanks.

 

[Zu-Mendel]

I was hoping to be able to make some smart-assed remark about using porn as a guide, but I suppose that's taken away from me by the OP.

As a damn-near exclusive bottom all I can say is get him to relax, and by relax I mean don't do anything that makes him tense his asshole up. 99% of the time it's not the top's fault; voluntary control over the sphincter is a learned skill, not a natural attribute.

If you can get 4 fingers up there with no pain then I doubt it's any physical thing, as 4 fingers are by-and-large a thicker package than anything but porn-size dick. It sounds mental, requiring an atmosphere he feels completely relaxed in.

 

[G-Lexington]

Have you tried lying on your back, and having him straddle you? Then he can control the speed and depth.

Also, it's been my experience that guys can be a bit too stingy with the lube. Put a towel on the bed, and go nuts with it.

Lex

 

[Nomenclature]

Step one: Condom and lube. Use a retarded amount of lube.

Step two: Lay down on your back.

Step three: Stroke yourself and/or have him blow you to make sure you're hard enough for penetration.

Step four: Hold it firmly by the base so it stands up, and have him slowly lower himself onto your penis in the Reverse Cowboy position:

Basically, he rides with his butt facing you, and his torso leaning forward, toward your feet. This position is excellent, because it perfectly aligns the anal sphincter. This will be far easier and less painful, because you'll physiologically prevent the picture on the left from happening:

He'll also be in full control of depth, so he'll be able to have you penetrate him only as far as he can handle. This is the easiest and safest possible way for a beginner to have buttsecks.



The End.

 

[ChickenGuy]

Step four: Hold it firmly by the base so it stands up, and have him slowly lower himself onto your penis in the Reverse Cowboy position:

I like watching porn vids of exactly this. I sometimes fantasise about getting this done to me.

I mean, you're lying flat on your back, relaxed, doing nothing, as you're looking down at your dick, and then you're watching a guy squatting on you, and then you're watching as he slowly lowers his ass down onto your dick, and then you're watching as your dick disappears up his bum-hole.

What on earth goes through your mind the first time you experience this?

I'd be suffering palpitations like hell and be hyperventilating like crazy.

 

[medic1]

Nomenclature,s instrictions have to be apllauded they are clear concise and an excellent illustration,dont know how it works where you are but here in scotland you can actually get for free usually from groups dealing in support and advice a specially made dvd dealing with this exact problem. So why not make some enquires be it by your local helpline or by contacting some groups directly.Wishing you success,medic1.

 

[Dodger712]

You also might try looking at what "Joy of Gay Sex" or "Gay Man's Kama Sutra" has to say on the topic. The main rules are "GO SLOW" with the penetration and to use LOTS of lube. Being with someone who is patient and who you can trust is very important too. Best of luck and if things don't work out anally there are LOTS of other things to do that are mind blowing!