Anyone else in a relationship with a bisexual?

[Ninja108]

Anyone else here involved in a relationship with a bisexual male?
If so, do you still have people tell you that someday you'll get dumped for a woman?
I am still amazed that more than six years later, I still have to hear that from people. For the most part, yes, he prefers women but if he wanted to be with a female, we would have broken up long ago.
As he told me once,true love only comes along once in your life time and you don't let it go once you have it.
Yes, it took a long time before he was fully comfortable being with and having sexual relationships with a man..but we made it. That apperently isn't good enough for many.

Sorry for the long rant... I just had a "friend" give me the biphobia speech yesterday. It gets old, it really does.

 

[TriBi]

I just had a "friend" give me the biphobia speech yesterday. It gets old, it really does.

QFT.

Tho' I'm sure there will be a few of the usual haters along shortly.

Meantime - Thanks for promoting the more positive viewpoint. It does make a very pleasant change from the usual 'bashing' that goes on around here.

 

[tonyboy]

Anyone else here involved in a relationship with a bisexual male?
If so, do you still have people tell you that someday you'll get dumped for a woman?
I am still amazed that more than six years later, I still have to hear that from people. For the most part, yes, he prefers women but if he wanted to be with a female, we would have broken up long ago.
As he told me once,true love only comes along once in your life time and you don't let it go once you have it.
Yes, it took a long time before he was fully comfortable being with and having sexual relationships with a man..but we made it. That apperently isn't good enough for many.

Sorry for the long rant... I just had a "friend" give me the biphobia speech yesterday. It gets old, it really does.

Hey man.. don't worry about it..
If your b/f is loving to you and he says he's bi.. well so be it.
Good for you and him..
I've written to lot's of guys via jub and usually it does happen that guys that are bi end up going back to a girl..
But hell, that does not mean that is always the case..
Don't give a damn about what others tell you... just be happy you have a great b/f and that you and he have lasted so long together.. Be happy about that.. Celebrate it..
Not that often that even to totally gay guys last that long..
I say good for you and your partner..
Damn if you lived near me I'd buy you and he a bottle of fine Champagne..
of course you'd have to let me share at least a glass with you.
Good for you guys man.. Best to you in the future too.

 

[palemale]

Lot's of people get dumped, period. Gay couples aren't immune to breaking up, heterosexual couples have a divorce rate of 50%. Older men often dump wife for younger women, etc, etc. People should learn to be happy for you, shut their mouths and hope you beat the odds and stay together with your bf forever.

 

[Thrasher12]

Lot's of people get dumped, period. Gay couples aren't immune to breaking up, heterosexual couples have a divorce rate of 50%. Older men often dump wife for younger women, etc, etc. People should learn to be happy for you, shut their mouths and hope you beat the odds and stay together with your bf forever.

What he said

 

[HorniLad89]

Anyone else here involved in a relationship with a bisexual male?
If so, do you still have people tell you that someday you'll get dumped for a woman?
I am still amazed that more than six years later, I still have to hear that from people. For the most part, yes, he prefers women but if he wanted to be with a female, we would have broken up long ago.
As he told me once,true love only comes along once in your life time and you don't let it go once you have it.
Yes, it took a long time before he was fully comfortable being with and having sexual relationships with a man..but we made it. That apperently isn't good enough for many.

Sorry for the long rant... I just had a "friend" give me the biphobia speech yesterday. It gets old, it really does.

^^^^

To be honest, that last part sounds disturbing. What did you do? Kidnap a straight man and molest him until he turned bi? LOL

 

[GiacomoPisani]

my boyfriend is bisexual,i'm still waiting for the right moment to end this relationship.he is not bad with me at all,many of the things that have happened between us ,i guess are due because of way that i am.he is not an angel either.i think i love him and i gonna miss him a lot.
he is 10 years older than me,we began our relationship as if it were only for sex,but as time passed i realize that he does love in his own way and i love him in my own way,usually, when i see that he hasn't come home after 7 pm i start getting worried about him and i constantly watch the clock and things like that.he gets extremely jealous when he see me talking to other gay men that he doesn't know or when i spend too much time on the computer.

he has always tell me that he prefers women,he used to jack off to female porn very frequently,but he is little by little quitting with that.i think that is the major thing that piss me off about him,i used to feel very hurt and angry at him we he tell me that, but i no longer react the way i used to.if he wanted to be with a woman he would be already,because he has always told me that he want kids,and besides he is very good looking,and has a rough masculinity that has women hitting on him all the time.and yet,he is with me.at this moment, i'm unemployed and he is the one who is supporting me financially,so i feel a lot of gratitude for him and we've been together for three years now.

we stated our relationship as if emotions and feelings for each other were not important.so he didn't expect me to fall in love with him and i wasn't supposed to fall in love with him,but somehow we know that there was a very strong attraction and feeling for each other.but we don't communicate,sometimes i have the urge to hug him and kiss him and tell him my problems,but something inside of me stops me.

yesterday we went out and when we came home we fucked,and after that he hugged me,and he told me how much he loved me. i feel very happy when he is like that with me ,but i also feel bad because i have many things going on with me right now.he sort of perceives a change in me.he has told me that he perceives like i'm unusually un-talkative and distant with him.

so i think that a relationship between a bisexual man and a gay guy,could be possible,but there has to be A LOT of communication between both,and if the bisexual guy tells you that he prefers women,the the gay guy has to understand ,i guess ,and be willing to bear that shit for long long long time.

 

[drewthesaltyboy]

Been there done that. Eventually they'll get bored and find a female to screw.

 

[AsianDream]

Been there done that. Eventually they'll get bored and find a female to screw.

WRONG - I'm in a long term relationship with one other bisexual male and two other bisexual females and this works just fine.

You just have no idea at all what you are talking about

 

[drewthesaltyboy]

WRONG - I'm in a long term relationship with one other bisexual male and two other bisexual females and this works just fine.

You just have no idea at all what you are talking about

I don't know what alternate universe you're living in, but I was taught that a relationship should be between 2 people, not 4.

Not to mention that you're tripling your chances at contracting HIV or some other disease.

That is a no no, and you're in no position to say I have no idea what I'm talking about.

 

[AsianDream]

I don't know what alternate universe you're living in, but I was taught that a relationship should be between 2 people, not 4.

Not to mention that you're tripling your chances at contracting HIV or some other disease.

That is a no no, and you're in no position to say I have no idea what I'm talking about.

I'm even more sure you have no idea what you're talking about

So who taught you that a relationship should be between 2 people not 4 - is this some hotline you have to God?

Also you have no understanding of sexually transmitted infections - any sex outside our relationship is safe sex only - so our risk is no more than any other open 2 person relationship

 

[yummylongsword]

WRONG - I'm in a long term relationship with one other bisexual male and two other bisexual females and this works just fine.

You just have no idea at all what you are talking about

A relationship with four people is obviously not a traditional two-person exclusive relationship. He has already found "some woman to screw" in those two other women... you can't really give advice on other peoples' relationships, because yours is so completely unusual that it doesn't really hold any relevance to anyone else.

 

[AsianDream]

A relationship with four people is obviously not a traditional two-person exclusive relationship. He has already found "some woman to screw" in those two other women... you can't really give advice on other peoples' relationships, because yours is so completely unusual that it doesn't really hold any relevance to anyone else.

Our sort of relationship isn’t that strange and is one I know is very emotionally and sexually satisfying for all of us.

What I was trying to say is that the traditional “two person” exclusive relationship is far from the only valid model for how to live your life. Which I think is very relevant to the original question about bi-sexuality and how this impacts on relationships.

I’m not trying to promote pansexuality – but for some of us this is very real thing and does transcend traditional ideas of either pure homosexual or heterosexual thinking.

 

[yummylongsword]

Our sort of relationship isn’t that strange and is one I know is very emotionally and sexually satisfying for all of us.

What I was trying to say is that the traditional “two person” exclusive relationship is far from the only valid model for how to live your life. Which I think is very relevant to the original question about bi-sexuality and how this impacts on relationships.

I’m not trying to promote pansexuality – but for some of us this is very real thing and does transcend traditional ideas of either pure homosexual or heterosexual thinking.

Well it's great that it works for you, but you can't really look at a traditional two-person relationship and use your own four-person thing as evidence that something may or may not work. A multiple person, pansexual relationship is so incredibly different and culturally unknown (comparitively) that the typical interactions are almost nothing alike. It takes a very unique kind of person to engage in a multi-person long-term relationship, and most people can't deal with that.

 

[AsianDream]

Well it's great that it works for you, but you can't really look at a traditional two-person relationship and use your own four-person thing as evidence that something may or may not work. A multiple person, pansexual relationship is so incredibly different and culturally unknown (comparitively) that the typical interactions are almost nothing alike. It takes a very unique kind of person to engage in a multi-person long-term relationship, and most people can't deal with that.

But the original question does cross over into the area of pansexuality.

Whilst you take a very “bi-polar” view – that is not how I think reality is.

Also – I’m not going to take umbrage against you – but I do hope you do understand how profoundly insulting your ideas are to people like myself

 

[blackbeltninja]

Been there done that. Eventually they'll get bored and find a female to screw.

And so it begins.

-d-

 

[Ninja108]

Been there done that. Eventually they'll get bored and find a female to screw.

He hasn't yet, unlike my first ex bf who simply used me as a way to get a star in his boo. But hey, at least I was cheated on with another guy right?

 

[GiacomoPisani]

i think that i would feel worse if he cheated on me with a woman than with a male.he did that to me,two times in the three years that we've been together,but one is my speculation and the other i know it as a fact that it did happened.in fact,every time i imagine how things would be after a possible break up with him,and i think of him having a relationship with a woman,even after our relationship would have ended,the very thought makes me feel bad.

i think that many things depends on how the gay partner handles emotionally the situation,and how blatant the bisexual partner is about his attraction to females.in my case,he tells me that he prefers woman,but he LOVES to have sex with me,so that kind of makes me feel better.

the problem with me is that i do feel hurt and very angry when he tells me how much he enjoys women,to the point that when he tries to be very explicit with me about what he likes about them ,i tell him to stop,and sometimes i verbally attack him,coz i can't really stand it.i react in the same way when i see him jacking off while watching female movies or pictures on the internet.Somehow, i also feel very grossed out when i see him looking at pussies and tits,in particular.

so basically this is not the kind of relationship that i want but this lately he has noticed that i'm a bit more distant with him,that i no longer care as i used to when he watches heterosexual porn and now he has started to have suspicions.now he looks very worried,and i'm loving it.

 

[Bent-On]

Doesn´t sound like a particularly healthy relationship. Could be that he hasn´t fully come to terms with his own sexuality yet.

 

[versatileplayer]

Let go of your insecurity and realize that nothing in life is permanent. Buddha tells us that we make ourselves unhappy when we live in the past or in anticipation of the future.

Enjoy your man now. Can he promise you he'll love you forever until the universe blows up - of course not.

So - stop wringing your hands and enjoy him.

Not all bi guys go for a woman in the end - I didn't. I've been with my guy for 17 years now. Yes, I still fuck women too.