Anyone have this problem?

[jasonjr]

I am bi and have only dated girls in my life. At age 21, I found myself looking at guys and having a thing for guys. Broke my virginity with a girl at age 25 and fucked a guy for the first time at age 26.

The experience with the guy was 10 times better and now I find myself wanting guys a little more now. I want to live the straight life and have kids but can't stop craving guys.

Anyone have this problem?

 

[racer2438]

Well you said you are Bi, so that is the way to have both.

But the trick is to find one of each that will accept in your relationship.


I dont see the problem,

 

[G-Lexington]

I don't see a problem, either. Keep fucking guys while you look for a woman who will accept that facet of you. Presumably there are bisexual women in the same boat. You get married, you have kids, and you both have gay sex on the side. Done.

Lex

 

[KaraBulut]

Welll, you made quite a few plans for 26 years.

Now you need to make new plans.

 

[gustischafer]

Actually, I agree, that's not a problem. But I am in a similar situation. I like guys more than girls, much more actually, but I like girls as well. You need to relax and see how things go. I mean since there is no problem, you should just live your life. Maybe sometime you will get more mature about the screwing-guys issue and you will move on with a stable relationship with a girl.

 

[lonnie1]

Having lived in the closet for 30 years and recently come out, the only regret is that I didn't share my secret with my wife. I agree with many of the guys above. Search for a female partner that accepts your sexuality, set the rules for outside play and live happily ever after. Honesty is the best policy.

 

[MarkDW]

I have two couples as friends that both husband/wife, sleep with others of the same sex on the side. It's very open, and acknowledged. Their rules state that the other spouse cannot sleep with another of the opposite sex as that constitutes "cheating" in their relationship, but one other outside partner at a time with someone of the same sex.

Couple #1 has been married, with two kids, with these rules for 11 years.

Couple #2, no kids, has been married for 7 years.

I find it very interesting that same sex is not cheating, while opposite sex is. Very interesting!

 

[KaraBulut]

I have two couples as friends that both husband/wife, sleep with others of the same sex on the side. It's very open, and acknowledged. Their rules state that the other spouse cannot sleep with another of the opposite sex as that constitutes "cheating" in their relationship, but one other outside partner at a time with someone of the same sex.

Couple #1 has been married, with two kids, with these rules for 11 years.

Couple #2, no kids, has been married for 7 years.

And over the years, I've seen the same type of arrangements. It just seems that they eventually don't work because it's too hard to follow the rules. Someone lies. Someone slips up. Someone falls in love with someone else. And the end is seldom pretty.

It's why I don't recommend these arrangements.

Your friends are lucky. And probably the exception.

 

[KaraBulut]

They could be, since they are the only two I've known that have done this. Then again, they were like this before they got married so not sure if that has been the point of difference vs. being in a marriage and then wanting to "open it up".

Also, "the kids" probably makes a difference for one of the couples.

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[jasonjr]

Great responses!

 

[IllgetyouHackman]

You don't necessarily have to have a "wife" to have a family, I mean surrogates, adoption, a lot of options. Instead of worrying maybe just find someone who you connect with, male or female and go from there?

 

[KaraBulut]

Great responses!

Well, hopefully you've been a busy boy over the past 5 months?