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Anything wrong with a 22 year old dating a 32 year old?

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I am 22 years old, and the guy I am currently dating is 32 (coincidentally, we have the same birthday, so we are exactly 10 years apart). We've been dating for about three weeks now, and we have already spoken about taking things slow, so we haven't even had sex yet. Which I definitely respect and appreciate, because that's been rare to find in my experience. We have so much in common, he's super smart AND super cute and we both really like each other. I think soon I'm going to talk with him and tell him that I'm interested in being boyfriends and taking things further.

When I told my friends that he was 32, they said they didn't care, as long as I was happy, they were happy for me. But the thing is, my two best friends (though supportive) said the same things. Like, "When he was graduating high school, you were in third grade" and stuff like that. So I feel like everyone else is going to be thinking the same things and thinking our relationship is weird. What do you guys think? Is the age difference an issue? Is dating someone 10 years older than you really that weird?
 
There may be a lot of things that will doom your relationship, but the 10 years is probably not one of them. Unless you make it one.
 
dormguy said:
I am 22 years old, and the guy I am currently dating is 32 (coincidentally, we have the same birthday, so we are exactly 10 years apart). We've been dating for about three weeks now, and we have already spoken about taking things slow, so we haven't even had sex yet. Which I definitely respect and appreciate, because that's been rare to find in my experience. We have so much in common, he's super smart AND super cute and we both really like each other. I think soon I'm going to talk with him and tell him that I'm interested in being boyfriends and taking things further.

When I told my friends that he was 32, they said they didn't care, as long as I was happy, they were happy for me. But the thing is, my two best friends (though supportive) said the same things. Like, "When he was graduating high school, you were in third grade" and stuff like that. So I feel like everyone else is going to be thinking the same things and thinking our relationship is weird. What do you guys think? Is the age difference an issue? Is dating someone 10 years older than you really that weird?
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It is rare to find. I had to wait until I was 24 or 25 to find a guy like that, even though he was only 4 years older.

I also don't think the 10 year difference is too large. If you're like most people, you're about to spend the next 45 years working on your career and building your future before you retire. With a 10 year head start, he's going to spend the next 35 years working on his career and building his future before he retires. But that means if you like each other and this goes somewhere, most of the time for the next three and a half decades, you're going to be enjoying the same parts of your lives together. It wouldn't be that different if you were the same age.
 
Two great pieces of advice,if it feels right then i say go for it,honestly ten years between lovers really is not a deal-breaker.Good luck.
 
To answer your question, no.
 
Nothing wrong or weird about it at all. It's your life. Not your friends. Do what makes you happy. It sounds like you've found a good guy. I'd try to keep him.

Steven
 
To answer your question: NO.
In a way, you are actually lucky to date a 32 y.o. because he is more stable in more ways than one. And I'm not even talking financial - it's not really high on my priorities list, nor should it be imo. He is more stable emotionally. In my experience, people younger than 25 or even younger than 30 should get their overdose of sex before they get into a relationship :lol:
But seriously, I think a 30+ yr. old guy is soooo much more level-headed. They'd still fuck anything that moves but they're better than bf material, they're husband material, they're in it for the long haul without any trade-off in sexual stamina or appetite.

lucky bastard :lol: *|*
 
There is no such thing as a too big age difference for a relationship. 10 years is nothing.
 
Not that I have that much expirience,but I fell atracted to much older guys that me,usually 50+ and I've never thought on that like something unusual.I'm 27 by the way :)
 
I do believe that age difference can be a problem in a successful relationship. And not just the number, but where it's situated. There's a huge difference between 35/50 and 18/33.

That said, there's also a (surprisingly) huge difference between 18/28 and 22/32. I think you are now beginning to enter the transitioning phase of your life - the one where you turn from a kid to a young adult. What I'd recommend is this: do not forget that he has made that transition years ago (or should have, and if he hasn't, that's a totally different problem), and be mindful of the fact that he's in a different place in life. I am not telling you to freak out, just pay attention. He's not at school age anymore and his priorities are bound to be different to an extent.

Also, in my experience, this is the age when guys start thinking seriously about their future and who they want to share it with (rather than casual dating). So I'd recommend that you let him lead the dtr conversations at least at first. Enjoy your time together, see how things go. Don't push the "bf" label until he makes a move in that direction. Either way, the actual condition of your relationship is much more important than a label you put to it.
 
Nothing wrong at all unless you let your friends sabotage this blossoming relationship. Take your time, get to know one another and don't obsess about the age difference.
 
I think a 10 year age difference is just about right...so no, there's nothing wrong with it. Besides, age is only a number. Regardless of age, it is about what works for you guys...not what works for your friends. Your friends are making this about them when it's not about them and their "rules". It's about you and what makes YOU happy. Stop caring about what other people think. They have no investment in your long term happiness. Be true to yourself...not them. You're young. A day will come when those people will be long gone and you'll have a whole new set of friends.
 
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