Apologizing to a Straight Man

[unclaimedblessing]

Forster, obviously you don't behave in that manner all the time or you wouldn't have been concerned enough to write about it.
We've all heard "the girls all get prettier at closing time". You had too much to drink and had a case of the hots. It happens.
If in your heart, you feel you owe you friend and/or the guy an apology, then by all means apologize. If you think they should be more understanding of you and the situation, don't apologize.
Try not to get yourself in this position again but if you do, don't let the PC police denigrate you for a simple, human mistake.
Except for some posters here, the last perfect man was crucified 2000 years ago.

 

[nsguy2]

OP, if you don't feel that you can give a genuine apology, don't bother to give one at all.

If you've changed your mind and feel you should/can, then go for it.

Keep in mind that this is soley my opinion and that I don't expect you to conduct your life in a manner which a bunch of internet people have chosen - including me.

 

[frankfrank]

Well I wasn't brought up that way. I wasnt brought up being taught it's ok to touch whoever you want either, but if it's a mistake and you didn't really mean it, I can't see the harm. I'm not saying he was right to touch him, but in my eyes, alcohol does excuse it. I've let so many friends off for things they've done when they were drunk because I do stupid things when I'm drunk too. But, can't be helped. Which is why I'm on his side.

So if somebody's been drinking, and he kills an entire family by smashing into their car head-on (and he somehow lives), it's excused and OK because he was drunk?

 

[StlKj]

Forster, obviously you don't behave in that manner all the time or you wouldn't have been concerned enough to write about it.
We've all heard "the girls all get prettier at closing time". You had too much to drink and had a case of the hots. It happens.
If in your heart, you feel you owe you friend and/or the guy an apology, then by all means apologize. If you think they should be more understanding of you and the situation, don't apologize.
Try not to get yourself in this position again but if you do, don't let the PC police denigrate you for a simple, human mistake.
Except for some posters here, the last perfect man was crucified 2000 years ago.

Please spare us the PC-Police crap. Nearly every person who responded that the OP was in the wrong focused on how his behavior was wrong. And it was. He wasn't crucified as a monster--it was explained to him that what he did was wrong.

And to the OP--you didn't come on here and say, "hey, guys, did I screw up? Do I owe him an apology?" and then have everyone attack you. You came on here ranting and raving, acting as though John's feelings don't mean shit because he's a straight boy who didn't want a gay guy touching him. Your post resonated with an attitude of entitlement and a lack of compassion for someone who you seemingly violated physically in some manner after being told repeatedly he wasn't interested. It's only now that we get more details that make it seem less harmful, and interestingly enough, paint you in a softer light so you can claim that we "made you feel" like a monster.

We didn't make you feel anything--you know what you did was wrong, but you wanted to justify your actions and hoped we would help you. Own your actions and own your feelings--only then are you going to own your current situation and start doing something about it. There's only one victim here, and he's still waiting for his apology.