apparently people cannot get me off

[chrisdobro]

Here goes

• I am Kinky. I like fisting + other kink
• I also just like rimming, no kink involved
• I like getting sucked off, no kink
• I like gentle touch and in general I am extra sensitive to any kind of touch. Gentle soft touch is enough to get me crazed up
• However .... either me or others miss the point. I stay soft throughout the entire sexual experiences as of last 20 encounters
• I tried Viagra. 25mg at first
• then 50mg
• then 75mg.
• I started getting side-effects like feeling of blood rushing through my head and dizziness after I went into a hot tub
• All that Viagra did not help me. Sure I got hard for a minute during the sexual play, but then I went soft again when stimulation subsided or when something like a look or thought distracted me
• I thought that maybe it's because I am no longer invo vanilla sex. Maybe I need kink to get off
• Well, today I giot me some kink. I got fisted (almost) and fisted another guy.
• but ... I did not get hard at all during any of it, while the guy was hard throughout most of it (like most of my sexual play partners)
• The guy was rough with me a bit, did not do much to turn me on, but somehow I turned him on. With most people I tend to observe that they are at least turned on by the encounter, at least as far as I can observe by their dick being hard throughout the experience
• it pains me to talk about it..
• I wonder if there is someone out there who can get me off in style and keep me hard for most of the play, even if it's 60% of the play.
• I better go do something else before I slip into self-pity.
• I want to be pleased, I want someone's touch to arouse me and get me excited and be on edge and moan and be close to cumming and experience that high when you get this rush of a feeling throughout your body and down through your legs and into your toes. Where and How!

 

[Rolyo85]

I suggest therapy. Sounds like your problem is definitely psychological at this point, and I don't think anyone here is qualified to give you the right advice.

 

[altlover85]

I suggest therapy. Sounds like your problem is definitely psychological at this point, and I don't think anyone here is qualified to give you the right advice.

I agree. Sometimes we have mental blocks that we have trouble either overcoming or discovering in the first place and therapy is a great way to work that out with someone so you can have a better quality of life.

 

[bullwing413]

How can you be sure it's not physical? There are medical reasons for not being able to maintain an erection and they are not all relieved with Viagra.

 

[Rolyo85]

Because this is not his first topic on this sort of issue, and he sounds seriously depressed. I'm not saying it isn't physical, but I'd look into psychological reasons first.

 

[TX-Beau]

I'd actually rule out the physical first. Though if you have a prescription for Viagra it sounds like you've done that.

Have you EVER been able to get off with someone else?

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

I think you're seeing sex as a competition and that this makes you go soft again.

I have this problem myself and I usually solve it by rimming my partner until I'm hard again.

Take it easy, don't drink too much and maybe do without the viagra.

 

[chrisdobro]

I am thinking that magic of sex is gone for me.

Probably I am not the hook up kind of guy. I need someone who cares more about me and someone who has the right kind on touch, handling and attitude.