Approaching Shy Guys...

[Smitho]

The normal signs I would say, looking at your eyes or crotch, basically checking you out. Try and gain eye contact and see what happens, would be my first move. Assuming, obviously, this seemed good, and I was interested in them, I would then go over and say hello, or something, (this is a bar / club situation?).

 

[Fucker29]

Oh yes! Any answers given in this thread are also useful to me, right now.

 

[midnight81]

If you see them looking but then they quickly look away when they realize you've noticed. If they're avoiding making eye contact. If they're quiet or mumble or stutter when they speak to you. If they blush while talking to you.

 

[justsimon]

If you see them looking but then they quickly look away when they realize you've noticed. If they're avoiding making eye contact. If they're quiet or mumble or stutter when they speak to you. If they blush while talking to you.

I do that with most people I don't know well.

 

[puka-pride]

fuck if YOU are interested just go talk to them.. if they aren't interested back you'll pick up on it pretty quick

 

[puka-pride]

lol wait what?

deuces?

 

[spencer]

try to be this shy guy's friend first. introduce yourself and spark a conversation.

 

[puka-pride]

deuces a.k.a peace out

oh... rude... lol

 

[alley]

I am not good with shy guys...I just figure they are not interested and move on.


Funny thing---I use to think I was shy...

 

[geloge]

The next time I'll go out I 'll carry a camara and you will be able to see how I act when I'm interested in a guy.

 

[GM1985]

It's really strange to me that, in most situations I am not shy and am usually seen as pretty outgoing but as soon as I'm in a situation (gay bar etc) that I know people are checking one another out, I am extremely self conscious and shy. I like going out with my friends and having a dance etc but as soon as I see someone who seems like a decent guy, I freeze and I'm betting it's the same with other shy guys.

I've also been told that I can come across as arrogant, or even rude, which could not be further from the truth. I don't drink alot of alcohol but when I do I can sometimes come across as flippant or not interested at all, but thats just because I get distracted with all the good tunes too easily.

I have tried a couple of times making the first move, but for the other person to dodge around the truth that they aren't interested makes me even more shy and reluctant to try again.

Anyone else experience this?

Oh and in my case, if the person suddenly goes beetroot red when caught looking at you, that is a big indication that they are interested. My face goes brighter than the sun!

 

[gdude30]

lol.

I'm really glad I'm not alone in this.

I used to really be like this. I'd look at guys I thought were cute or that seemed nice to talk to. But if a guy would look back at me or smile I'd look away quickly and pretend like I was never looking >_>"

And when someone would talk to me when I was really shy I'd stutter, mumble, and try to keep conversation going yet sounding and looking so awkward >_>"

I am still a little shy and nervous around some people. Especially hot guys. And at work sometimes too >_>"

But I'm getting better. People like to see someone who is happy and smiles. So if I see someone who is cute now or who looks nice I just give them a smile and leave it at that.

No need to talk to them. It acknowledges them.

I am getting better at making conversation too. I can approach some shy people too. I can get them to talk and be social

 

[GM1985]

I'm glad gdude, that you have managed to overcome your shyness and become more outgoing

 

[MawellEvans]

as the shy guy, it wouldn't take much. seem interested, come up to me and don't give up. it won't take much to get me to like you.

 

[angelus]

If you see them looking but then they quickly look away when they realize you've noticed. If they're avoiding making eye contact. If they're quiet or mumble or stutter when they speak to you. If they blush while talking to you.

Naturally I am a shy person. In most situations I've been able to overcome my shyness and can go out there and initiate conversations with total strangers. In fact I'm pretty certain that people think of me as loud, opinionated. But when it comes to guys that when the the true me comes out, the person I was when I was 12 and decided that if I wasn't going to be the boring bookish-one my whole life I'd have to go out there, comes out.

What midnight81 just described is exactly how I act when I like a guy although when I have to talk to that guy I can be coherent but everything else the glances, avoidance of eye contact. That's all 100% true.

 

[bankside]

One rule - just don't get pissed off when they are shy... eventually they'll let you know they appreciate the attention, and they'll do it well.. But when I say "eventually" i mean "eventually."

I think one of the hottest mixes is a shy guy and an outgoing guy. It usually works well for both of them if they respect each other's strengths...

 

[MisterMajestic]

Approaching shy Men & Women is not difficult. All you're doing is making small-talk or just casual converasation...It's very easy to "flirt" with women and ask them if they're single..Very easy...

The hard part is flirting with another guy (Job-Technician/contractor), discreetly, he knows it's "flirtation" and you give him the "interested" signs but you're both too scared to make that next move...

 

[NineOfClubs]

"Shy" guys deserve to sleep alone.

If they do long enough, they just might get over their damn "shyness".

They are men, after all....

 

[treanir]

^ Wrong. Thanks for playing.

 

[NineOfClubs]

^Disagree.

Stop giving losers passes.....