Are Bisexuals And Homosexuals Compatible?

[lyconthrope]

^^^I think thats what everyone is

 

[Kulindahr]

^^^I think thats what everyone is

True.

On a scale of 1 to 100, totally straight to totally gay, we're right in there.

 

[Kulindahr]

The only incompatibility issue is when your straight friend who you "turn" bi actually turns out to be gayer than you are and wants a serious relationship. I think you are right RRRalph - it's all about the people. There are levels of gayness (if that's the right term) but there are also levels of tolerance. I have several gay friends who do not understand / believe my bisexuality yet i know guys who are straighter (again if that is the right term) than me who are happy to cross the fence... I guess the more tolerant you are then the more doors there are that can open for you.

VERY good observations!

Openness (tolerance) is an important thing. With it, open doors and peace are possible; without it... well, all the pain and rejection people have talked about in this thread.

 

[RRRalph]

As a bisexual I'm more in the "RRRalph" arena in this one, in the fact that I'm generally more attracted to men sexually and women romantically. I AM capable of being attracted to men romantically, and there's certainly a number of girls I'm attracted only sexually to, but I'm really just attracted to the individual... and the individual, as far as "romantically interested" goes, is usually female.

Glad to read there are more like me. Many people think that i refuse or repress romantic feelings for men, but that’s not true. I know what i want and what i like. Maybe i am capable to fall in love with a man, but that doesn’t occured yet. Maybe mr right hasn’t crossed my path. What if i fall in love? I won’t deny it and i do what i always do when i fall in love, going for it.

You are always up front with the guy which is nice to hear..... but you are also holding back in a way. You tell the potential buddy you are bi, yet you probably have flirted with him to begin with. Maybe made a pass, could ever be that you'd dated some. Yet I figure are doing it with someone you know is totally gay. Sort of playing with the emotions of others isn't it?

How do i get a guys attention without flirting. My flirting is eye contact and after that a friendly conversation, nothing weirds. I’m not holding back nor do i mislead guys and nor do i play with emotions.

Just as there are varying degrees of gayness, there are varying degrees of bisexuality. With both, some are in it for the sex only, some for the romance only. I would find it unbelievable that all bi men find other men attractive only under the condition that they also happen to like girls. And then there are "bi" men who are really gay in denial. They use their relationship with girls to cover up their real desire, or for convenience in straight world occasions.

I agree about the varying degree of bisexuality. I don’t think there’s a varying degree of gayness. They just like people of the same sex. Gays in denial are gays, not bisexuals.

The only incompatibility issue is when your straight friend who you "turn" bi actually turns out to be gayer than you are and wants a serious relationship. I think you are right RRRalph - it's all about the people. There are levels of gayness but there are also levels of tolerance. I have several gay friends who do not understand / believe my bisexuality yet i know guys who are straighter than me who are happy to cross the fence... I guess the more tolerant you are then the more doors there are that can open for you.

Open minded people do and experience more indeed and are therefor more tolerant to others.

 

[Spiff]

I agree about the varying degree of bisexuality. I don’t think there’s a varying degree of gayness. They just like people of the same sex. Gays in denial are gays, not bisexuals.

You may be getting hung up on the label thing. There are gays that on occasion have sex with women. That doesn't mean they prefer or even like women or they are bisexual. That's all I meant by degree of gayness, for lack of a better way of phrasing it. I think my whole point from my post was along the lines of this: if 2 guys are into each other, what does it matter in terms of compatibility that one, both, or neither are also into girls?

 

[RRRalph]

There are gays that on occasion have sex with women. That doesn't mean they prefer or even like women or they are bisexual. That's all I meant by degree of gayness, for lack of a better way of phrasing it.

This explination is better. I understand you.

I think my whole point from my post was along the lines of this: if 2 guys are into each other, what does it matter in terms of compatibility that one, both, or neither are also into girls?

It doesn't But my thread question is slightly diffirent.

 

[Kulindahr]

You may be getting hung up on the label thing. There are gays that on occasion have sex with women. That doesn't mean they prefer or even like women or they are bisexual. That's all I meant by degree of gayness, for lack of a better way of phrasing it. I think my whole point from my post was along the lines of this: if 2 guys are into each other, what does it matter in terms of compatibility that one, both, or neither are also into girls?

And as I pointed out, there are gay guys who won't even touch another guy if they know he's "been with" a girl.

 

[GGGaylph]

And as I pointed out, there are gay guys who won't even touch another guy if they know he's "been with" a girl.

due to the fact that bi-guys often smell like fish

 

[RRRalph]

due to the fact that bi-guys often smell like fish

You're such a loser

 

[GGGaylph]

thanx for being so honest with me. I have always known something is wrong with me!

 

[lyconthrope]

I think that everyone is differant and so their level of compatability is also differant, so whether or not a person is bisexual or homosexual is sort of irrelevant, I think it all comes down to the compatability of people, not sexual orientations

 

[RRRalph]

I think it all comes down to the compatability of people, not sexual orientations

Gay men & straight girls wouldn't match nor would straight men & gay men. Sexual oriantation is very relevant. I refer to my first post about a small part of bisexual & homosexual incompatibility.

 

[lyconthrope]

Gay men & straight girls wouldn't match nor would straight men & gay men. Sexual oriantation is very relevant. I refer to my first post about a small part of bisexual & homosexual incompatibility.

I explained myself badly, sorry, I was only including men within that statement

I just meant that bisexual men and homosexual men can be compatible, if their personalities go well together and they are happy together then the fact that they have slightly differant orientations wouldnt necessarily be a problem.
And I think that on some level the same can be said of a small percentage of straight men who may simply meet "mr right"

 

[Kulindahr]

You're such a loser

I see the original post there has disappeared.

I was going to say that I often smell like fish... when I'm back from fishing.

Which makes me wonder if there are any gay guys who hate fish because they "supposedly" smell like women?

 

[lyconthrope]

I see the original post there has disappeared.

I was going to say that I often smell like fish... when I'm back from fishing.

Which makes me wonder if there are any gay guys who hate fish because they "supposedly" smell like women?

hehehe oh its thats what he meant ^^^^ you just KNOW I am gonna take an issue

 

[Kulindahr]

^ Uh - oh.

What have I done???

 

[lyconthrope]

^ Uh - oh.

What have I done???

hehe nothing honey, I just messing around.

not to get myself in trouble here but maybe he is right? people smell things differantly!
my sister in law is japanese and told me that when she first moved to this country everyone smelt like butter hehe

back on topic at all??


yes, yes they are, if they want to be if it makes you happy then go with it and be happy

 

[lyconthrope]

^^^^ emmmm cough you are doing it again, dont get busted LOL

^^^hey I didnt start that! AND I went back to topic, so there

now shush, your diverting! back to topic....

 

[Piquechampion]

i have yet to meet a homosexual that doesnt have drama, complains, i have been to some clubs and there are some that just stay in corners and laugh at what people are wearing and gosssiping

Exact same opinion man...

 

[lyconthrope]

well I dont think I have met enough to make an assumption on either, I still believe that if a bisexual guy and a homosexual guy like being together then there is no reason for them not to stay that way.


(or am I just being really naive? and putting too much faith in the "love conquers all" mentality?)