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Are Bisexuals And Homosexuals Compatible?

lyconthrope said:
Bisexual men and homosexual men can be compatible, if their personalities go well together and they are happy together.
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This sounds more like good buddies. Sexual and romantic attraction are nesseccary!
 
callmewhenursober said:
Maybe I'm just being overly romantic about it all, but it seems to me that no matter what you call yourself, gay, straight, bisexual, alien ;) Love is all about compromise, trust and...love, really. So why couldn't bisexuals and homosexuals be compatible?
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^^^^ see, thats what I have been trying to say!
why did you manage it better than me? :( hehe
 
elvin1 said:
^^^You guys are going to the wrong places. ;)
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I agree with elvin. Not every gay man is a drama queen. Some of us actually have a lot going for ourselves. I used to think that all gay men were drama queens, but now i realized you can't judge every gay man by what you see at the bars. There are a variety of gay people, just like there are straight people and the bar scene is not a good indicator of how all gay men are.
 
INtrospective1 said:
I agree with elvin. Not every gay man is a drama queen. Some of us actually have a lot going for ourselves. I used to think that all gay men were drama queens, but now i realized you can't judge every gay man by what you see at the bars. There are a variety of gay people, just like there are straight people and the bar scene is not a good indicator of how all gay men are.
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Yeah but where do you meet everyday gay men? It´s not like you´re in a supermarket or walking down the street and ask a guy, ¨I like you, do you like men?¨...
 
lugus15 said:
Yeah but where do you meet everyday gay men? It´s not like you´re in a supermarket or walking down the street and ask a guy, ¨I like you, do you like men?¨...
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um.. you would never approach a guy like that anywhere. You think straight men go up to women and say, "do you like me? let's go home and get it on"....that is not how it works in the gay community either.

Really, gay men go to all the same places straight men do. There are ways to meet gay men outside of the bars and online. There are gay social organizations (for example, gay softball teams) and most bigger cities have gay neighborhoods with gay-owned coffee shops...Someone else please chime in and tell these folks that there are opportunities to meet gay men other than gay bars
 
I think there's a somewhat higher level of drama, touching, etc. in the gay world, because so many of us grew up in repressive homes, churches, and/or communities.

It occurred to me that many of the objections to bisexuals made here and elsewhere on JUB would apply to two bis being together. If those things are true, then are bisexuals and bisexuals compatible?
 
rigr33 said:
well, probably not every gay man, but most of what i have seen its almost like a lot lot are, its hard to see that there are well rounded gay guys cause most of what i have seen are bad examples and they seem to get angry all the time, catty comments, they dont know you but try to touch you then when they get pushed back they get all mean for being rejected etc etc
i dunno we will see not that i am looking to meet the right gay guy but i am open to give them a chance and not prejudge people cause i hate to do that but you just cant help what you see around you and on tv goshhhh!!!
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I don't know the places you hang around. I've never seen as many stereotypical gays as you have. Maybe you just concentrate too hard on these flamboyant guys that you totally miss out the plenty of decent gay men around you.
Forget TV. These channels like to show us drama queens exclusively cause they're more entertaining.
 
I haven't read the whole topic but this raised my eyebrows:

...You can desire other people, but you can just as well, not act on that desire.
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That's creepy and horrible. Wanting to have sex or be with another person, even if you don't act on it, is cheating. It's just gross, I wouldn't like to be with a guy who loves me but has fantasies with his neighbor. That's crazy. He should want to be with me and nobody else, so if he has desires or fantasies with some other people that just isn't true love.
 
innocentbychoice said:
I haven't read the whole topic but this raised my eyebrows:



That's creepy and horrible. Wanting to have sex or be with another person, even if you don't act on it, is cheating. It's just gross, I wouldn't like to be with a guy who loves me but has fantasies with his neighbor. That's crazy. He should want to be with me and nobody else, so if he has desires or fantasies with some other people that just isn't true love.
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The world in which you live is rather ideal. Granted, there are some people in this world who enter a relationship and do not desire other people after entering the relationship; however, those people are rare.

I'm not saying that you should not try and find that kind of person. However, most people are naturally not designed to terminate fantasies and attractions once they have entered relationships. Repression, however, is another subject.
 
Kulindahr said:
It occurred to me that many of the objections to bisexuals made here and elsewhere on JUB would apply to two bis being together. If those things are true, then are bisexuals and bisexuals compatible?
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Those things aren't true [-X so bisexuals and bisexuals are compatible.
 
ffwd said:
The idea of "lust only" is not just for bisexuals. There are lots of gay men who only want lust with another man, not love or romance.
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Great post ..| I like your view!
 
innocentbychoice said:
I haven't read the whole topic but this raised my eyebrows:



That's creepy and horrible. Wanting to have sex or be with another person, even if you don't act on it, is cheating. It's just gross, I wouldn't like to be with a guy who loves me but has fantasies with his neighbor. That's crazy. He should want to be with me and nobody else, so if he has desires or fantasies with some other people that just isn't true love.
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I think you're living in a fantasy with that one. Lust aims all over. There's no biological imperative to be monogamous; the opposite is actually true. Expecting someone to never be turned on by, or fantasize about, another person is unrealistic. Some few may have such a love that they never so much as get stirred at the sight of another person, but that happens maybe once in ten thousand. If you become one of those, be thankful; but expecting it is a way to set yourself up for sorrow.
 
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