Are Bisexuals And Homosexuals Compatible?

[SexyLiciousBoy]

Sure, why not? I dont see why they cant be compatable. Although i have heard alot of bisexual guys only like other guys for sex...and not relationships...

 

[sentirpromesas]

I will be honest...at one point i believed that bi guys were just confused and that they wanted to choose a more "acceptable" sexuality...however, now having been with my bisexual boyfriend for about 2 yrs, i have begun to better understand sexuality really as a continuum...i love my boyfriend...i wish to marry him one day and start a family with him...i wont lie, it was hard knowing that he found women sexually attractive as well, but in the end, if he truly loves u, and u love him...what does it matter if he finds dicks or vaginas attractive, so long as its ur dick (or vagina) that he craves....so yes gays and bis are compatible so long as both are willing to let go of the small difference that separates them...and the stereotypes than come with it

 

[sentirpromesas]

My views on this subject have changed.

I now believe that as long as both people are "on the same page" about their relationship, there is no reason you cannot be compatible.

But the bisexual must be able to fall in love with men emotionally. It cannot just be about man on man sex for them. The bisexual has to believe that men and women are equally worthy emotionally. There is so much more to a relationship than sex. So for a strong, lasting relationship, the bisexual will need to figure out for himself if he can settle down with a man and be comfortable with it.

I guess my romanticized view of the world has been skewed since I last posted my thoughts.

i totally agree...i had bad "relationships" with other bi guys but that was because they couldnt picture themselves married to another man...they still envisioned themselves with a woman...so before anything happened with my current boyfriend, i asked him flat out if he could picture himself married to man, to which he replied "if he makes me happy, then yes" and i havent looked back since...

 

[D-Base]

Compatibility can be achieved in many different ways depending what both sides are looking for.

I've been pretty compatible with a bunch of bi guys, sexually speaking.

And that's where it all ends. Sex has always been good, outside of sex - a complete disaster.

If we are speaking about a relationship between a bi guy and a gay guy - yeah, it can happen to succeed, like Robert and Eric for example who are such a cute couple... although I think Robert refers to himself as gay lately. They are the only couple I know that managed to overcome the gay/bi problem. LOL.

My experience has not been that BIG, but it's well enough to form a pattern for me so far.

IMPE, bi guys I've been with do not want a relationship with another guy although they prefer the sex with a guy.

Bi-s I've been with all had girlfriends and they said the "love" them although all 3 were dissing them on ever possible occasion, one even said he hates the sex with her because she was pretending and faking all the time. When I asked him why he's with her then instead of a nice guy he said "dude, I'm not gay, get over it"... needles to say I never met him again although he broke my phone ringing for months.

That sort of attitude was present in the other 2 guys... referring to me as "gay" and somewhat "different" and not exactly a worthy person. They never said it but u can feel that shit. Although both were actually bottoming and sucking cock pretty well they never wanted to be called gay or even asked for anything outside the sexual stuff... like going out together, hooking up and stuff...

I cannot have such relationship, no way. Sex buddies yes, nothing more. I am always being careful when I deal with bi guys because I do fall pretty easily... so I think that falling for a bi guy is just not healthy. At least not until you've heard all they have to say... about who you are in their world and where you are allowed and where you aren't in their lives.

 

[Rali_hates_Mondays]

I thought bi people would be most compatible with other bi people. You will have experienced things that gay people would not really experience.

 

[RRRalph]

I thought bi people would be most compatible with other bi people.

Do you still think that or did you changed your opinion over the years?

 

[uofaguy7]

I havent read the while thing, but I'd have to say yes. Sure there generally are differences but they are a lot closer than men and women

 

[Pathicus]

I've just been dating a guy that is bi. We were 100% compatible at first. We'd hang out together, talk, laugh, kiss, have sex... In the past week everything has turned to shit. I simply can't read him anymore. He's just playing with me, since he knows I have feelings for him. Going to his place tomorrow to collect my stuff and then I can finally get back to my normal life.

At the moment I have to say that the thought of a relationship with a bi guy does not appeal to me in the slightest. It was great while it lasted, but he just tore my fucking heart to shreds. Of course I am speaking of a single experience here, so it would be wrong to generalise. Over time my wounds will heal and I'll bounce back (and regain my objectivity).

Who knows, one day, should I meet another bisexual dude that I connect with, I may once again give it a go.

 

[RRRalph]

I simply can't read him anymore. He's just playing with me, since he knows I have feelings for him.

These things alone doesn't relate to only bisexuals.
You can loose contact to staights and gays as well. Straights and gays too, play with feelings.

 

[Pathicus]

^ Yes, I know. I didn't tell you the whole story (which would be an entire book).

The problems started when he met up with his ex-girlfriend. After that I didn't see him so often anymore. He said he was confused about the whole situation (whether he wanted a relationship with a guy or a girl).

Also, I am moving to China in September for work and he has been hired for some stuff in Milan, then London. Both of us knew we would be going separate ways soon. Hence, getting closer emotionally meant more pain later. He got scared.

I picked up my things from his place today. He wanted to kiss me, but I wouldn't. Since I left his flat he's been trying to call me and sent text messages saying that he feels so happy when I'm around him, etc. He has been ignoring me for the past few days and now that I've left he changes his mind.

Oh well. Going out with my friends tonight to get very drunk.
I want to be happy again and forget about this ordeal.

 

[Rali_hates_Mondays]

Do you still think that or did you changed your opinion over the years?

Yeah I still stand by that comment. OF course you could say it's down to individual characteristics that can make a gay guy or straight girl a perfect match for the bi guy. However I would be more inclined to say that as a general rule bi guys are perhaps more likely get hitched with a girl. I'm only saying this based on numbers and demographics.

 

[RRRalph]

OF course you could say it's down to individual characteristics that can make a gay guy or straight girl a perfect match for the bi guy. However I would be more inclined to say that as a general rule bi guys are perhaps more likely get hitched with a girl.

I don't think there is a general rule applicable on bisexuals. General rule for gays about their attraction is that they are attracted to the same gender. A similar general rule for bisexuals doesn't exists, cuz of the diversity that i have shown in this thread.

Hitching up with someone doesn't always shows the sexual compatability. There are gay guys in denial marrying a girl, but also bisexual guys with a stronger attraction to men marrying a girl. The diffirence between is that bisexual guys DO have an sexual attraction for girls and gay guys DON'T.

I'm a single bisexal and i have a male bisexual fuckuddy. Eventho we are both bi, we are not compatible. We have an equal sexual attraction to both gender, but his romantical attraction goes to guys and my romantical attraction goes to girls.

So it is about individual characteristics to make a perfect match.

 

[Rali_hates_Mondays]

I don't think there is a general rule applicable on bisexuals. General rule for gays about their attraction is that they are attracted to the same gender. A similar general rule for bisexuals doesn't exists, cuz of the diversity that i have shown in this thread.

Hitching up with someone doesn't always shows the sexual compatability. There are gay guys in denial marrying a girl, but also bisexual guys with a stronger attraction to men marrying a girl. The diffirence between is that bisexual guys DO have an sexual attraction for girls and gay guys DON'T.

I'm a single bisexal and i have a male bisexual fuckuddy. Eventho we are both bi, we are not compatible. We have an equal sexual attraction to both gender, but his romantical attraction goes to guys and my romantical attraction goes to girls.

So it is about individual characteristics to make a perfect match.

I say that there is a probability that bisexual men are more likely to marry a girl because of their overwhelming numbers (I'm looking at this at a national level). Bi guys won't be able to interact with or see large groups of gay guys every day unless there are gay guys everywhere. Eligible girls who have the characteristics that they're looking for are everywhere. Sure bi guys can fall in love with gay guys but I think this won't happen as often as bi guys falling in love with girls. Thus from what I've written, bi guys are more likely do nothing more than have short-term relationships with gay guys. Yes bisexuals and homosexuals are compatible sexually but not romantically.

 

[RRRalph]

I say that there is a probability that bisexual men are more likely to marry a girl because of their overwhelming numbers. Bi guys won't be able to interact with or see large groups of gay guys every day unless there are gay guys everywhere. Eligible girls who have the characteristics that they're looking for are everywhere. Sure bi guys can fall in love with gay guys but I think this won't happen as often as bi guys falling in love with girls.

So far i agree with you. On a national level there are simply more straight girls than gay guys and therefor the chances of a bisexual guy hooking up with a girl is bigger. Nevertheless bisexuals who prefer (bi or gay) gays, will ignore girls and will end up with a guy eventually.

Thus from what I've written (1) bi guys are more likely do nothing more than have short-term relationships with gay guys. (2) Yes bisexuals and homosexuals are compatible sexually but not romantically.

I disagree with you on these two points. (1) I don't understand why you make a connection between the fact that there are more straight girls than gay gays and bisexuals doing short term relationships with gay gays. There is no logical connection between those two. (2) Many bisexuals are romantically compatible with homosexual. So simply saying that they are not, is not true.

 

[Matthew-]

I once had a bi boyfriend when I was 100% gay and I think we were pretty much compatible.

 

[Kulindahr]

These things alone doesn't relate to only bisexuals.
You can loose contact to staights and gays as well. Straights and gays too, play with feelings.

Some of that playing with feelings can come from someone being enthusiastic about someone because of a mental image, but then the person turns out not to match the image, and rather than honesty, games get played.
It sucks, but it's human.

 

[itsaigt]

This is deffinately an interesting topic so far I dont see why they wouldent be compatible if both are romantically attracted to men, there will be problems but there are in bi guy straight girl, sraight guy straight girl gay gay relationships etc. we are humans were complicated and I think its an individual compatibility thing thats all I havefor now Ill definately be giving this one some more thought

 

[Rali_hates_Mondays]

So far i agree with you. On a national level there are simply more straight girls than gay guys and therefor the chances of a bisexual guy hooking up with a girl is bigger. Nevertheless bisexuals who prefer (bi or gay) gays, will ignore girls and will end up with a guy eventually.

I disagree with you on these two points. (1) I don't understand why you make a connection between the fact that there are more straight girls than gay gays and bisexuals doing short term relationships with gay gays. There is no logical connection between those two. (2) Many bisexuals are romantically compatible with homosexual. So simply saying that they are not, is not true.

I was supposed to say that if a relationship is formed between a bi and a gay guy it would most likely be a fling or at least not a long lasting one (also taking into account the negative stigma attached to bisexuals in gay community). More bi guys will have long-term relationships (by that I mean marriage) with women. I disagree with your second point- I would place a "not" in front of the "many bisexuals are romantically compatible with homosexuals." How many long-term gay-bi relationships do you hear of? It is a recurring theme in this thread that whenever they encounter gays, it often happens in a gay bar where the worst stereotypes are all in your face. This enforces the "sex on the side" mentality that a lot of bi guys have about them and prevents any romantic attractions. Have you ever heard of large numbers of bi guys actively seeking relationships with guys? Of course there will be the minority who will say yes but I believe that they are the exceptions.

If I meet someone who is compatible with me and wants to be with me I won't reject him if I discover that he is bisexual. But the chances of that happening will be very small.

 

[RRRalph]

I was supposed to say that if a relationship is formed between a bi and a gay guy it would most likely be a fling or at least not a long lasting one.

I don't believe that.

I would place a "not" in front of the "many bisexuals are romantically compatible with homosexuals." How many long-term gay-bi relationships do you hear of?

Enough to know that gay-bi relationships can work out fine.

If I meet someone who is compatible with me and wants to be with me I won't reject him if I discover that he is bisexual.

I like your attitude towards bisexuals Rali!

 

[RRRalph]

But do you actually know of at least one couple composed of gay guy/bi guy who is together for at least 10+ years?

I hang out with people around my age.

None of the straight, bisexual or gay people i know have a relationship with someone for at least 10 years.