Are gay men as possessive as straight men

[Telstra]

In terms of relationships ?
Are some gay men as possessive or jealous as straight men?

Some straight men are know to be very possessive of their girl friend or wife
which leads to violence or murder.



* I ask because i don't know.

 

[Telstra]

Why can't all men (str8 or gay) be in open relationship ?

That is no one own anyone.

 

[mcbrion]

Possessiveness and jealousy are indicators of insecurity, something a person has probably had since they were 5 years old and weren't given a secure environment growing up.
In other words, it's the household someone grew up in, which has very little to do with sexual orientation. I had a boyfriend who was the jealous type, and although I loved him and his family, due to my background in psychology, I knew he was highly insecure and feared losing me, and didn't know how to voice it constructively. Straight men would be no different, as one can see by the stories about Marc Anthony and Jennifer Lopez.

 

[Telstra]

Possessiveness and jealousy are indicators of insecurity, something a person has probably had since they were 5 years old and weren't given a secure environment growing up.
In other words, it's the household someone grew up in, which has very little to do with sexual orientation. I had a boyfriend who was the jealous type, and although I loved him and his family, due to my background in psychology, I knew he was highly insecure and feared losing me, and didn't know how to voice it constructively. Straight men would be no different, as one can see by the stories about Marc Anthony and Jennifer Lopez.

That make sense.

So if someone doesn't care who his/her partner is going to play with,
that person is very secured with his/her self ?

 

[Telstra]

Of course, I can't imagine someone who's insecure can ever last more than a few minutes in an open relationship; trust, love, feeling secure, etc, those are all essential.

I make this thread because i am concern about my straight house mate.
He seems very insecure with his girl friend and might have lots of problems with other straight men.

 

[bankside]

Why can't all men (str8 or gay) be in open relationship ?

That is no one own anyone.

No one owns anyone in a monogamous relationship. It's just the right kind of relationship for two people who don't want to pursue relationships with anyone else.

 

[kallipolis]

No one owns anyone in a monogamous relationship. It's just the right kind of relationship for two people who don't want to pursue relationships with anyone else.

Absolutely, so.

Where there are jealousies, and possessiveness there is a recognition that the relationship creates a bond that can be tested, if only to demonstrate the strength of the bond that cements the partnership.

 

[Telstra]

No one owns anyone in a monogamous relationship. It's just the right kind of relationship for two people who don't want to pursue relationships with anyone else.

But the insecure one acts as if he own his gf.
Like if anyone flirt with his gf he might cause a fight which is wrong.

 

[sixthson]

Why can't all men (str8 or gay) be in open relationship ?

That is no one own anyone.

You know nothing about love, do you, Telstra?

 

[Telstra]

You know nothing about love, do you, Telstra?

well, i'm single for ever .............

 

[TheOscar]

Of course they can be! It really just depends on the individual. Many men, gay or straight, simply get jealous at the mention of their partner being with someone else.

 

[leomendez93]

Oh, straight men may be defending their "territory" with the drama of a man. Forgive me but I never saw so much drama in the straight world as I see in the gay world... truly drama queens out there.

 

[glasvegas]

Possessiveness and jealousy are indicators of insecurity, something a person has probably had since they were 5 years old and weren't given a secure environment growing up.
In other words, it's the household someone grew up in, which has very little to do with sexual orientation. I had a boyfriend who was the jealous type, and although I loved him and his family, due to my background in psychology, I knew he was highly insecure and feared losing me, and didn't know how to voice it constructively. Straight men would be no different, as one can see by the stories about Marc Anthony and Jennifer Lopez.

Mcbrion is right. I am possessive and jealous. I tend to get suspicious very easily. And, I am insecure.

 

[MoltenRock III]

the most possessive guy I've ever met was gay (and an ex-)... when we were anywhere around other gay people, he would always be touching me in some way as if to mark his territory

(I meanwhile, didn't feel at all jealous of the fact that his two best friends were an exboyfriend and a straight guy that I'm pretty sure he was crushing on)

most normal guys I know, gay or straight, don't get jealous until their significant other has given them reason to be insecure (eg: dating someone with a history of cheating)

I usually pee or spray my semen on my man to mark him.

 

[sidekick1914]

Speaking from experience, I totally agree with the insecurity theory. Whether a guy is straight, gay or bisexual, the insecure ones will always (mostly) be possessive or jealous. In my case, it was totally painful and ultimately destructive.