Are Gays generally romantic?

[CagedBird]

Based on your personal experience, do you consider the majority of gay men to be romantic when in relationships?

Id especially love to hear from those of you who have had several LTR's.

I need to know if I'm the "odd-man-out" on desiring romance & affection!

I'm hoping to learn that the majority of gay men are indeed romantic [as opposed to the minority].

 

[elra]

You are definitely not the odd-man-out, CagedBird. I desire the same thing, although my experiences thus far have been non-existant or overboard stalker-esque "romance".

 

[Pushover]

While i've never been in a relationship or anything of the sort, I think of myself as a hopeless romantic. Probably just me being innocent.

From TV, the news, and general views around these forums, it looks to me like gay men are much more romantic than straights but much more likely to have 1 night stands without emotional attachment.

 

[Singtoh1]

well I've only dated 3 guys so far in my lifetime but for the most part they haven't been really that romantic. My partner of 2 years sometimes, like out of the blue decides that he wants to be romantic but he doesn't do it as often as I would like him to lol

 

[CagedBird]

My first realtionship has revealed to me something I never thought Id desire in a gay relationship: ROMANCE! While the sex has been plentiful & great [bf agrees too ],
Im struggling to remain patient wanting to be closer to him than he seems to want.

One things for sure, I cant survive on sex alone [cant believe I said that].

 

[albar05]

i am prob not the best to comment , however i have been with my b/f for nearly 11/2 yrs now, and although he does try to be romantic, i am always hoping for more... :O)

I am def the romantic one in the relationship, and am always sending him poems and stuff, coz i have to shower him with love and make him feel my love with as much romance and soppy gentures as i can! lol

I want him to know how damn special he is to me , so i thrive showing him... ..

But generally i think , its not the normal with gay men.. or men in general really to be overly romantic, i know how lucky i am so want to show him i know that.... :O)

 

[herenthere]

I'm a hopeless romantic, and so was my partner...

 

[puka-pride]

gay guys i know are so rarely romantic... i find a lot of bi guys are way more romantic

 

[aleisterc2003]

i was just telling my man last nite, we've been on hiatus for a while and were with others, that romance seems to be a lost craft nowadays. there was only two other guys i had been with that pulled out all the stops and showed me how romantic they were. i guess we're only romantic if the other person inspires such emotion and affection from us. so i don't think you're the odd man out. but albar05 said it with that it's not a gay thing but more of a guy thing.

 

[ahotjock71]

I voted in the minority. Seems most young guys have this "romantic" notion. Well, let me tell you life is not like that. And I speak from 18 years of experience in the community. SOME of us, a SMALL percentage are genuinely romantic. Most men in general only want to get a nut & move on. Sad but true. That's just guys in general.

Look at the posts by us older guys, and you will see the truth.

 

[Hard Luck]

Maybe it's just us romantics who are posting in this thread, because the responses seem to be out of whack of what we are all saying about the world of men out there.

To which I will join the chorus: I don't think men are generally romantic enough ... and while gay men may be moreso than most straights, I don't find most gay men to be nearly romantic enough.





Why do I suddenly feel doomed??

 

[Jory]

RoMANtic!?

HA!

It is to laugh.

*pours a cup of tea*

Hands it to Gery

 

[tonyboy]

Gay guys are no more nor less romantic than straight guys.....
Romanticism is an individual thing that people have or don't have.... doesn't matter a whit if they are gay or straight.
Sometimes a guy wants to meet a guy for an encounter.... a few mintutes, a few hours, an entire night.....
Other guys want to go through the dating routine with no sex until they are commited. I've run across both in my life. That's just how people are, gay or straight..... Girl or boy.
If you want a romantic partner then you've got to find such a person man.... and I doubt it will happen in a bar or online.... though it could, I say never say never.

Far easier to find a guy for sex in those places my friend. A relationship is often hard to develop between guys, depends where you meet, and what sort of thing each is out for.

 

[BrandonSBCA]

Rarely........

 

[woaini]

No not necessarily!~~~

 

[Christopher123]

I'm completely hopeless.

But that's just me.

I can't speak for others.

 

[gmoney]

Gay guys are no more nor less romantic than straight guys.....

This is kind of what my thoughts were also. Btw, I'm a romantic!

 

[sebastian-k]

Well what is YOUR definition of romantic?

I consider myself a romantic

i like dating (otherwise how would i know the guy?) and going to party, dinner or movies. But i dislike holding hands, gifts as flowers, greeting cards (i HATE greeting cards!!), fuzzy toys, chocolate boxes or stuff like that, you know what i mean?

 

[Lost For Love]

I am romantic, i think. or maybe I am in love with the thought of being in love. I DEFINATELY get attached to the very few guys I fall for - mostly guys that are passing through. Since I live in Sydney there are so many gays coming and going from all around the world its so hard to meet one who will stay still!

 

[antdak]

From my point of view, I can see where in past relationships, the romance was not there, so from what happened or not happened in those, I can adjust and make the needed changes. I think deep down it is something we all desire, but hardly show it. I know I am a romantic at heart, but I don't get to show it much now, since I don't have a boyfriend.