Are "sluts" bad people?

[hylas]

he said most "sluts" (he used the quote fingers) are just using people and tossing them aside without giving a shit about their feelings

what a non-argument. it takes at least two to have sex. as if the other guy/gal didnt get anything out of it. two people having sex is two people pleasuring each-other, not one using the other. how would you even tell which one is using which?

if someone is misleading someone else about the nature of their relationship (or lack thereof), they are bad people because they are liars, not because they are sluts.

'slut', as a slur, is absurd anyway. it basically means: "you are more sexually active than i approve of." what makes them think anybody needs their approval?

 

[Greendragon]

I can't imagine having a conversation like that with my dad....!

Anyway, no, I don't think sluts are bad people. Your father is approaching this from a heteronormative mindset where men are supposed to want cheap, easy sex and women are supposed to want marriage and babies. So the guys who have their way with the ladies are both admired and condemned as users, whereas any woman who openly enjoys casual sex has no respect for herself. This just tells us more about your father's hang-ups than it does you.

One thing to think about is - if you live out your promiscuous period now, you're more likely to stay faithful (assume you choose a monogamous relationship) when/if you settle down, rather than always wondering 'if only' and constantly cheating in your imagination. In the gay world casual guilt-free sex is the norm, so, you won't have a problem finding other guys on the same wavelength.

Keep on doing what you're doing

 

[borg69unimatrix]

I was taking to my god father yesterday, and the subject of my personality came up. We were talking about my dry sense of humor and sometimes mean tendencies, etc but he said something that really made me think and actually hurt my feelings a little (this is an extraordinarily rare occurrence). He said, and I quote, "But, surprisingly, despite your slutty tendencies you're not a bad person." I asked him what he meant and he said most "sluts" (he used the quote fingers) are just using people and tossing them aside without giving a shit about their feelings and something like that normally reflects on your personality and your actions. I had to admit that, yes, I do use people for sex (he should know) but I make it quite clear before we get anything done that no sort of relationship will come of it because, to me, sex is a past time like playing a sport for fun. When I said that he just shrugged his shoulders and smiled and went back to packing. But it really got me thinking, am I (or other people like me) a bad person because of my, shall we say, ample amount of sexual dalliances?

Wait... What???

Exactly HOW does he know so much about your sex life???

 

[jasoncrew03]

Wait... What???

Exactly HOW does he know so much about your sex life???

I pretty much tell him everything. I don't call him up and say "hey just had sex" but I talk to him enough that he knows I've slept with a very large quantity of people. Plus, if he asks what I did today (which he often does) I'm not gonna lie to him. And he's the person I talk to about this stuff since he's the one who helped me through it when I came out (he's gay).

Why does your uncle know?

He's my god father, we're not related, and see above.

Do you sleep with your uncle?

God father and only once.

What's the definition of a slut?

In my book, someone who's had sex with an amount of people numbering in at least the high triple digits.

Keep on doing what you're doing

Will do

you're more likely to stay faithful (assume you choose a monogamous relationship) when/if you settle down,

I've never thought about it that way but I hope that's true.

how would you even tell which one is using which?

Well, I'd guess it's normally me since I most often initiate it and am 99.9% of the time the one who goes home right after (I've never actually slept with someone I've slept with except the time I lost it) lmao.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

Girl you are just GONE off the range

Elvis has officially left your building

Even when you write clearly, I still can't make sense of it.

But I love you, peaches.

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thankyou

 

[rahem101]

"Bad" might be a little dramatic, but I don't really have that much respect for people who are ALL about sex, promiscuous and will mess around with anybody willing. To me it's like overeating or getting drunk as much as possible. Shows a lack of impulse control and makes the person seem shallow, self-indulgent and sad. Using easy, thoughtless sex to fill the void for something else.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

some sluts are bad people, but so are some prudes.

well just think da marisans no idea what ya talkin about

ans live happy ever after eatin mangos

see dat nice

 

[bankside]

some sluts are bad people, but so are some prudes.

well put!

i used to be a prude (the good kind). now i have much more sympathy for sluts. you're all right!

I'd be concerned if a person isn't up front about what they want. If you think of sex as a social/recreational thing, be clear about it. Also, I'd be concerned if a person kind of lacks the attention span to follow through.

As far as sluts go, I think I'd have more in common with someone who had a flexible relationship than someone who just ploughed through a string of randoms. I can accept someone doesn't want to be monogamous, but loyalty is still important, and having some connection with people other than just a quick fuck.

 

[barnbuddy]

it depends on your definition of "bad"

bad for who? the individual? society?

the kids? lol

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

As long as they're honest, how can they be bad for anyone but the naive person that thinks they can "show them the light"?

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

that's my take on it.

unfortunately, I've had way too many encounters with guys who talk a huge game about wanting to find a real relationship, not really being into the hookup scene, and all that, and then they drop off the face of the earth after hooking up (and later you find out that they're "dating" a different guy every week and hitting the clubs every weekend)

ans this sluts is bad people?

ya do know it fa eons ans eons ans females ever so good knows this ans lot other folkys fa eons ans eons ans back da caveman John ( BIIIIG JOHN ) ooh is dat GOD?

anyway

thankyou

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

Co-sign.

I love a good slut. For the most part, sluts are pretty fun to be around and hang out with.

But at the same token, I'll never be able to call a guy who classifies himself as a slut my boyfriend.

ya tell ya slut friends this? or only on Sundays?

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

Oh no, why would I tell one of my slutty friends something foolish like that for? lol Especially when they're even easier on Sunday mornings.

My closed mouth keeps their legs wide open.

ooh is a see

thankyou

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

you'rewelcome

thankyou is add ma other yourwelcoms

 

[jasoncrew03]

I need a translator...

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

I need a translator...

just wander any city planet ans da outer limits wheres da wolves go OOOOHHH

 

[BostonPirate]

I need a translator...

no

SHE needs better drugs

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

no

SHE needs better drugs

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unless a they da cleva people what only use it help um take care da masses

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' you too '

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Panama canal can take it!

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

*crickets*

I had a fabulous time in my late teens/early twenties--but dayum! really!?

Is it even possible for someone to have sex with that many people over the years?

they workin ons it now at great university using volenteers ans results ins 150 years time

or can ask leo down street where public no idea his name

haaaaaaaaaa

 

[yummylongsword]

I was taking to my god father yesterday, and the subject of my personality came up. We were talking about my dry sense of humor and sometimes mean tendencies, etc but he said something that really made me think and actually hurt my feelings a little (this is an extraordinarily rare occurrence). He said, and I quote, "But, surprisingly, despite your slutty tendencies you're not a bad person." I asked him what he meant and he said most "sluts" (he used the quote fingers) are just using people and tossing them aside without giving a shit about their feelings and something like that normally reflects on your personality and your actions. I had to admit that, yes, I do use people for sex (he should know) but I make it quite clear before we get anything done that no sort of relationship will come of it because, to me, sex is a past time like playing a sport for fun. When I said that he just shrugged his shoulders and smiled and went back to packing. But it really got me thinking, am I (or other people like me) a bad person because of my, shall we say, ample amount of sexual dalliances?

"Sluts" are definitely not inherently bad people. But as you have sex with more and more people, I lose more and more respect for you. Having lots of different partners is the problem to me, not the sex itself. If you just go out and have sex with a different person every night, it shows me that you have little desire or ability to connect on a deep level with people (no pun intended). People that have lots of sex with lots of people just don't really care about getting to KNOW anyone, they just want to use someone else's body as a toy. Which is their own business, assuming it's consensual... but they're generally not the kind of person I would want to be friends with.