Are "sluts" bad people?

[WellingLuv]

Depends what kind of "slut" you are.

If you use protection, care about your sex partner's well-being and pleasure, let them know what the sex will or won't lead to before hand, and don't let your sluttiness interfere with your every day responsibilities, you're a good "slut".

It you're an asshole who doesn't care about your partner's well-being, lies to people and leads them on, and chucks responsibilities and commitments in order to get laid, then you're a bad "slut".

Unfortunately, the latter type seems to be more common sometimes.

 

[nondescript]

IMO there absolutely nothing morally wrong with being sexually promiscuous, it's just one lifestyle choice among many.

 

[ShihTzuTylenol]

A new survey says that about 28% of sluts are bad people. With a 2 point margin of error either way.
So no, not ALL sluts are bad.
I'ma go google how to distinguish a good slut from the bad ones, brb....

 

[ShihTzuTylenol]

IMO there absolutely nothing morally wrong with being sexually promiscuous, it's just one lifestyle choice among many.

omagawd, yer a slut huh?

hehehe hey that's cool, I'ma slut too...I like to think I'm one of the good ones lol

 

[thewiz]

Next we'll be asking about good witches and bad witches.....

Everyone is different which is what makes up the rainbow....

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

I was taking to my god father yesterday, and the subject of my personality came up. We were talking about my dry sense of humor and sometimes mean tendencies, etc but he said something that really made me think and actually hurt my feelings a little (this is an extraordinarily rare occurrence). He said, and I quote, "But, surprisingly, despite your slutty tendencies you're not a bad person." I asked him what he meant and he said most "sluts" (he used the quote fingers) are just using people and tossing them aside without giving a shit about their feelings and something like that normally reflects on your personality and your actions. I had to admit that, yes, I do use people for sex (he should know) but I make it quite clear before we get anything done that no sort of relationship will come of it because, to me, sex is a past time like playing a sport for fun. When I said that he just shrugged his shoulders and smiled and went back to packing. But it really got me thinking, am I (or other people like me) a bad person because of my, shall we say, ample amount of sexual dalliances?

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[EJMichaels]

... In my book, someone who's had sex with an amount of people numbering in at least the high triple digits.

Damn. I hope the definition is different for women or I'll have to give up one of my nicknames.

 

[ShihTzuTylenol]

Damn. I hope the definition is different for women or I'll have to give up one of my nicknames.

lol
**with a high C-minor vocal** n♪aaaas♪teee
hehe
good morning eJ my love!kissy kissz

 

[Greendragon]

"If you just go out and have sex with a different person every night, it shows me that you have little desire or ability to connect on a deep level with people (no pun intended). People that have lots of sex with lots of people just don't really care about getting to KNOW anyone, they just want to use someone else's body as a toy."

Interesting. What would you say about someone in an open relationship who loved their partner but also had casual sex (with their partner's consent)???

"In my book, someone who's had sex with an amount of people numbering in at least the high triple digits."

Not implausible. A 30-year-old guy who lost his virginity at 17 and remained single for say 10 years since then could get over 500 with an average of one new partner per week. If you live in a big city with lots of bars, clubs and the internet that's far from impossible.

 

[jasoncrew03]

I had a fabulous time in my late teens/early twenties--but dayum! really!?

Is it even possible for someone to have sex with that many people over the years?

I have sex 2 or 3 times a week normally with different people. It's sometimes more but usually isn't less. I've done that for as many years as I've been "sexually active" so about 4 or 5 years so the number is definitely up there (if my math in the "How many dicks have you sucked thread" it's about 600). It's really not hard, I've lived on or near a college campus for 3 years (two years in a dorm) and there is a ridiculous amount of bars and clubs around.

 

[jasoncrew03]

I have standards definitely. I'm not gonna let some fat old guy lay on top of me, nor am I going to lay on top of some hairy old lady. I just know what I want and go after it which, coupled the consumption of alcohol by both parties, makes me getting what I want pretty easy. I wouldn't say I'm extremely attractive, probably attractive at best though, honestly, I'd say I'm average. But I'm very charismatic and outgoing and I've been told I have an "enticing" personality which I would put more stock in than my physical looks. And sex to me is like playing a sport for fun, it's a past time I enjoy so that takes off a lot of the "nervousness" and "pressure" my friends talk about.

If you were talking about gender, then no I don't discriminate. I don't have a preference for one over the other so I'll go after whichever.

 

[jasoncrew03]

Can't edit my post anymore so this just adds on:

If you're just talking about appearance, you have to be legal (obviously) but under 60 (which isn't a problem at my usual venues lol) and be in shape (not necessarily muscular but not out of shape) and at least average in the face area. That's pretty much it though. I don't care about height, hair color, eye color, skin color, or personality (I'm only gonna be with that person for a night at most so it doesn't really affect if they're a jerk/bitch/etc). The only really restrictive thing I have is that feminine men don't attract me in the slightest.

 

[whoa2whoa]

I think so. They care so much about having sex all the time, that they have no respect about their body they were born with. They could catch diseases when they are careless. They also also the kind of people that will fuck another even if they have a boyfriend or spouse. All they care about is thereselves.

 

[MyReply]

Yes I do think that being a slut is "bad," and that promiscuity is base. The occasional hookup, fine...no one's perfect...but people who makes a habit (or "sport") out of sleeping around tend to be hollow, soulless individuals, who are just looking for a quick fix from whoever they can get it from, don't respect real intimacy, and can't be trusted more than you can throw them. Moreover, many promiscuous people are insecure or incomplete, and are using loose sex for validation, to fill a void, or to escape real issues they have.

Nothing wrong with having a healthy appetite for sex, but if your list of partners include a bunch of ONS, random quickies, and faces whose names you either can't remember or never knew, then something is seriously lacking.

Sorry if this isn't "live and let live" enough, but that's how I feel on the subject.

 

[mbamike]

Sounds like someone needs to get laid. You know it is not good for you to keep all that sexual tension pinned up inside you.

 

[ixthrock]

Slut aren't bad people.... HORSES are bad people....

best response yet.

actually, I'm kind of partial to Temple Whores. Especially if they're good looking.

What is it about gay men and sex?

At the bowling alley, a couple of attractive college guys in nice shorts come bowl in the lane next to ours; they realise we're gay, they know we're looking at them, and they won't stop touching their junk (which mesmerizes me even worse than TV). My fellow gay bowlers get all worked up over it and forget why they're at the bowling alley in the 1st place, some even express anger - "They're not all that. They sure have a bunch of attitude," etc. The college kids are assumed to be straight and teases and borderline gay-bashing homophobes. I point out they may be closeted boyfriends, curious about other gays. I think my fellow bowlers are just upset they're not in a sandwich with them, it's almost a palpable need. It's your turn, bowl already. Then one of my fellow gay bowlers follows me into the men's room to check out MY junk and to show me his. C'mon, are we still doing that? In a public (non-gay) venue? Can you not wait for the monthly cocktail party at a private residence, at least? Or ask for my e-mail or phone to send me pictures?

So then it's the monthly coctail/pool party. One guy expresses reservations about getting in the pool, "because it always winds up being open season on my ass. I at least want to choose who gets to grope me..." I get in the pool. I get groped. I don't get a hard on, but I don't rebuff the gropers. It's all friendly. Will the guys at the edge of the pool look at me and consider me a slut? Will they have some of the negative opinions about me that have been expressed in other posts in this thread? Do I care? and that's NOT a rhetorical question; I'm still trying to answer it for myself.

I have a keen appreciation for the phrase "Temple Whore."

 

[EJMichaels]

There are some rather distorted definitions of "slut" in this thread. It's not about self-control, using people or being unable to have a meaningful relationship.

 

[ixthrock]

There are some rather distorted definitions of "slut" in this thread. It's not about self-control, using people or being unable to have a meaningful relationship.

I'd have a pointer in here towards jealousy, but that's tired, going for the easy target, and mean besides. And, sadly, not necessarily even true.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

repeat same topic same folk say same thing faeva what say obvious

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[EJMichaels]

I'd have a pointer in here towards jealousy, but that's tired, going for the easy target, and mean besides. And, sadly, not necessarily even true.

Am I the only one who missed the point here?